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Should I lie about my height on dating apps?

Hi, I am pretty short for a guy. I’m 5’6 and I get no matches on apps. I’ve had hinge for about 4 months and I’ve had 0 matches. Not even exaggerating I can show u a print screen, 0 matches.

I spoke to my flatmates who all said my prompts and pictures are fine but it’s my height that lets me down. They said no girl wants a short guy. And on hinge, you are required to show your height so as soon as they see it, they swipe no. They also said girls add filters so if you’re not above a certain height your profile won’t even be shown.

So it made me think, could I change my height to a few inches higher e.g. 5’9 then after I get some matches and talk to them, change it back to 5’6 before we meet up so when they go to revisit my profile it will say 5’6 so they will see my real height before meeting and won’t know I originally lied (unless they remember it saying 5’9 when we first matched or took a print screen of my profile before and catch me lying)

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i don’t think it’s a good idea 😭

won’t you just attract women who care about your height? and you might start the whole date with lying to them? what if they go on a date and they see you’re shorter than they thought? wouldn’t that put them off? some woman might be into shorter guys, albeit it might be rarer than those who prefer taller guys. i can understand why you’d want to lie though, sounds frustrating. i guess it is your choice though. good luck tho man. you got this.
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And some naive posters here say "looks don't matter" lol
Original post by Anonymous
Hi, I am pretty short for a guy. I’m 5’6 and I get no matches on apps. I’ve had hinge for about 4 months and I’ve had 0 matches. Not even exaggerating I can show u a print screen, 0 matches.
I spoke to my flatmates who all said my prompts and pictures are fine but it’s my height that lets me down. They said no girl wants a short guy. And on hinge, you are required to show your height so as soon as they see it, they swipe no. They also said girls add filters so if you’re not above a certain height your profile won’t even be shown.
So it made me think, could I change my height to a few inches higher e.g. 5’9 then after I get some matches and talk to them, change it back to 5’6 before we meet up so when they go to revisit my profile it will say 5’6 so they will see my real height before meeting and won’t know I originally lied (unless they remember it saying 5’9 when we first matched or took a print screen of my profile before and catch me lying)


No good relationships start by lying. Don't bother lying about your height, and don't listen to what your flatmates tell you about girls - it's a lie. I've known men who have been 5 foot 4, sometimes less, who have had plenty of success dating... In the real world, not on dating apps.
Original post by Anonymous
Hi, I am pretty short for a guy. I’m 5’6 and I get no matches on apps. I’ve had hinge for about 4 months and I’ve had 0 matches. Not even exaggerating I can show u a print screen, 0 matches.

I spoke to my flatmates who all said my prompts and pictures are fine but it’s my height that lets me down. They said no girl wants a short guy. And on hinge, you are required to show your height so as soon as they see it, they swipe no. They also said girls add filters so if you’re not above a certain height your profile won’t even be shown.

So it made me think, could I change my height to a few inches higher e.g. 5’9 then after I get some matches and talk to them, change it back to 5’6 before we meet up so when they go to revisit my profile it will say 5’6 so they will see my real height before meeting and won’t know I originally lied (unless they remember it saying 5’9 when we first matched or took a print screen of my profile before and catch me lying)

The apps prioritise a set of quite superficial criteria because there's little else to go by. Height is one of these criteria. If you're not having any luck on the apps don't double down on them. Their user base skews heavily male which also makes them more challenging for men.

In real life, 5'6 is still taller than most girls and lots of 5'6 men have girlfriends, so focus on meeting girls in person rather than online - and that's what girls prefer too.
only superficial people will reject you because of your appearance.
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Original post by Anonymous
i don’t think it’s a good idea 😭
won’t you just attract women who care about your height? and you might start the whole date with lying to them? what if they go on a date and they see you’re shorter than they thought? wouldn’t that put them off? some woman might be into shorter guys, albeit it might be rarer than those who prefer taller guys. i can understand why you’d want to lie though, sounds frustrating. i guess it is your choice though. good luck tho man. you got this.

Problem is every woman cares about guy’s height ☹️ yeah it’s really risky idea.. although I’ve decided to give it a go.. I changed my height from 5’6 to 5’9 on the app… immediately within a few hours I now have 3 matches.. my first ever matches since downloading the app 4 months ago which is pretty insane so it worked! I’m going to change my height back to 5’6 tomorrow after talking to them a bit to see.. I’ll post an update here to see if they say anything after we meet or not (if I get a date lined up)
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Since they are selecting on height of course they’ll remember and then be ****ed off that you’ve deceived. The most I’d exaggerate is what you can achieve with some heeled shoes. But not all girls are hung up on height. Play to your strengths and try some alternatives to apps too
Original post by Zarek
Since they are selecting on height of course they’ll remember and then be ****ed off that you’ve deceived. The most I’d exaggerate is what you can achieve with some heeled shoes. But not all girls are hung up on height. Play to your strengths and try some alternatives to apps too

Exactly. The reason why he got those three matches is because of the filters they have, which are shallow. If I was in his position I wouldn't want to date them after seeing that they filter based on height. And I agree with you that it will only end badly for the OP once they find out that he's three inches shorter than he really is, and those girls will notice should they ever meet him. There isn't a hope in hell that they'll meet him, end up liking him for reasons other than his fake height, and then ignore the fact he lied to them before their first date.

I'd also like to contest what the OP said, "Problem is every woman cares about guy’s height" because it's only true for the shallow (and to be blunt, unintelligent) women who put height requirements on their Hinge profiles. The OP really should try to meet women in real life, because he has a much better chance of finding someone worth spending time with.
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Original post by Doomotron
Exactly. The reason why he got those three matches is because of the filters they have, which are shallow. If I was in his position I wouldn't want to date them after seeing that they filter based on height. And I agree with you that it will only end badly for the OP once they find out that he's three inches shorter than he really is, and those girls will notice should they ever meet him. There isn't a hope in hell that they'll meet him, end up liking him for reasons other than his fake height, and then ignore the fact he lied to them before their first date.
I'd also like to contest what the OP said, "Problem is every woman cares about guy’s height" because it's only true for the shallow (and to be blunt, unintelligent) women who put height requirements on their Hinge profiles. The OP really should try to meet women in real life, because he has a much better chance of finding someone worth spending time with.
Tallness does seem to be a trait that many women find attractive. And I suppose people are entitled to find whatever they find attractive, attractive. But it not a universal requirement nor the only factor in dating success
Original post by Zarek
Tallness does seem to be a trait that many women find attractive. And I suppose people are entitled to find whatever they find attractive, attractive. But it not a universal requirement nor the only factor in dating success

They are entitled to have that, although I think that filtering based on height is still shallow. There are things in women that I find attractive, but I wouldn't automatically reject someone if they didn't meet one of those ideals. I don't think that's a good attitude to have when dating.
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Original post by Doomotron
They are entitled to have that, although I think that filtering based on height is still shallow. There are things in women that I find attractive, but I wouldn't automatically reject someone if they didn't meet one of those ideals. I don't think that's a good attitude to have when dating.
Yes, tend to agree with you. There is something particularly dehumanising about online dating too
Original post by Zarek
Yes, tend to agree with you. There is something particularly dehumanising about online dating too

Absolutely. There are dating apps which go for the opposite method of the more popular ones, where you try to get to know people first, but not as many people know about them and therefore there are very people using those apps. There are people who get plenty of matches on Tinder who won't see the need for it, and swiping is addicting. When I was on Bumble, I didn't have much success. I'm not ugly per se, but I am definitely crap at writing bios, and even though I didn't get much I'd still swipe through the next few people it would show me in the hope that something might happen.

There are people who are successful on dating apps - I knew a girl who was very good looking who got about 100 likes in the first two hours when she joined Tinder as a joke, and I seriously doubt that she'd actually get along with any more than a tenth of them. It's telling that the man she's dating now is someone she knew in the real world.
Original post by Anonymous
Hi, I am pretty short for a guy. I’m 5’6 and I get no matches on apps. I’ve had hinge for about 4 months and I’ve had 0 matches. Not even exaggerating I can show u a print screen, 0 matches.
I spoke to my flatmates who all said my prompts and pictures are fine but it’s my height that lets me down. They said no girl wants a short guy. And on hinge, you are required to show your height so as soon as they see it, they swipe no. They also said girls add filters so if you’re not above a certain height your profile won’t even be shown.
So it made me think, could I change my height to a few inches higher e.g. 5’9 then after I get some matches and talk to them, change it back to 5’6 before we meet up so when they go to revisit my profile it will say 5’6 so they will see my real height before meeting and won’t know I originally lied (unless they remember it saying 5’9 when we first matched or took a print screen of my profile before and catch me lying)

I'm 5,5 I always used to get some hits when I was on dating apps - its about your profile, how much you're prepared to put in the time to send messages to people and generally speaking do you look good? can you make yourself look better than real life without looking like a total catfish. Also find out what types you think are on your level and then aim slightly higher. No point going for types that you wouldnt approach when out in real life. I'm married now with a child on the way - height never got in my way with the old birds 🙂 good luck
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Original post by Doomotron
Exactly. The reason why he got those three matches is because of the filters they have, which are shallow. If I was in his position I wouldn't want to date them after seeing that they filter based on height. And I agree with you that it will only end badly for the OP once they find out that he's three inches shorter than he really is, and those girls will notice should they ever meet him. There isn't a hope in hell that they'll meet him, end up liking him for reasons other than his fake height, and then ignore the fact he lied to them before their first date.
I'd also like to contest what the OP said, "Problem is every woman cares about guy’s height" because it's only true for the shallow (and to be blunt, unintelligent) women who put height requirements on their Hinge profiles. The OP really should try to meet women in real life, because he has a much better chance of finding someone worth spending time with.

Irl they would see he's short and reject him immediately. At least online he has more opportunities
Original post by Rr600
Irl they would see he's short and reject him immediately. At least online he has more opportunities

Considering that you have been on this site for several months and I have yet to see a constructive or sensible post from you, I find your claim to know what would happen hard to believe.
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If you want to meet someone, why the hell have you spent 4 months doing something that has got you nowhere?

Get off your backside, get out the house and socialise with people.
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Original post by Anonymous
Problem is every woman cares about guy’s height ☹️ yeah it’s really risky idea.. although I’ve decided to give it a go.. I changed my height from 5’6 to 5’9 on the app… immediately within a few hours I now have 3 matches.. my first ever matches since downloading the app 4 months ago which is pretty insane so it worked! I’m going to change my height back to 5’6 tomorrow after talking to them a bit to see.. I’ll post an update here to see if they say anything after we meet or not (if I get a date lined up)

There's a professional dating coach and youtuber that always says he's 2 inches taller than he actually is (he's 5'7" give or take an inch).

When he turns up for the first date he focuses on doing the things that gets results. He says that no woman has ever challenged him on his height. Probably because of a combination of it not being easy to accurately gauge someone's height when you meet them. And because he's so good at the dating thing that it never becomes an issue.
He certainly doesn't 'fess up and apologise for his exaggeration on his profile. And he'd brush it off, or maintain a strong frame if anyone were to challenge him on this.

It's common for women to exaggerate their heights on their profiles too.
I know 2 wrongs don't make a right. And honesty is generally the best policy. But if you're a 5' 6" man I can understand why you'd fib about this on your profile.

Apart from the height thing, do you have professional looking photos on your profile?
And does your profile text stand out from the crowd, put over a polarising image of that your target audience will love and some women will hate, whilst also making it appear that you are selective about the sort of woman you're looking for?
Once you've sorted out the photos and text, try saying you're 5' 8" tall and see how you get on.

Do you know how to write good opening messages? And how to write good responding messages that depend on what she's said?

What are doing to meet and interact with women outside of dating apps? Do you ever cold approach? How about your social circle?

Do you understand the fundamentals of what women find attractive in men?
Mental and emotional strength?

Your height of 5' 6" is enough for you to have good enough success with women.
Because the competition isn't all that great. There are so many men that have amateur mugshots, boring same as just about everyone else profile text, don't know how to write good messages. And above all they don't display good mental and emotional strength on the first and subsequent dates.
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Sad reality, is that you’re not wrong.

If you’re not 6 foot you ain’t good enough.

Women’s expectations are horrendous these days, but no, don’t lie about your height.

Stop using online dating apps, trust me.
Original post by Rr600
And some naive posters here say "looks don't matter" lol

I don't think anyone has actually said "looks don't matter"; of course they do. It's human nature to form a first impression on someone based purely on what they look like, when we first meet them. And TBF, it's not unjustified; how you look and choose to dress / present yourself reveals certain aspects about your personality and what's important to you (to an extent, at least). This is the case for relationships, friendships work etc. It's just that you don't need to be a 6' hunk with an Adonis body and abs you can grate cheese off to get a girls attention... you just need to have the right look for a particular kind of girl. For example, those into alternative scenes (e.g. goths) don't fit this so-called "chad" ideal, but it doesn't stop them from finding happy relationships (well as happy as you can be, if you're a goth lol).



Original post by Rr600
Irl they would see he's short and reject him immediately. At least online he has more opportunities

OMG, you're sooo funny 🤣

Everyone knows that these days online dating and dating apps are way more superficial than in real life. When doing online dating or using apps, you're relying purely on your photos and profile to get any attention. On the other hand, meeting people in real life, as well as your looks, you have the option of your vibe, banter, cologne and the company you keep that all contributes to that first impression when you out on a night on the pull. Not to mention that it's a personal belief of mine that almost ANYONE can double their sex appeal by learning how to dance with a bit of rhythm (the exception is perhaps if you have a physical disability). He doesn't need to go for the hottie in the Versace dress, just someone who looks friendly and approachable.

But let's give you the benefit of the doubt for a second, and pretend you're right and every girl would immediately reject him because of his height:- He still has the option to join generic clubs, classes and societies that interest him and meet people through there(e.g. he could take up a new sport, learn a language, or even volunteer for something, doesn't matter as long as there's a genuine interest in said activity). As the nature of the club / society often requires people there to interact with each other, it gives his personality /character a much better chance of shining through which should (would) be enough to attract the right person to him (N.B. this is assuming he has a personality, and can hold more than a 2 word conversation, of course). As long as he has a bit of patience / perseverance and doesn't treat the club / society like a meat market, I don't see why he shouldn't meet someone there. However, for anyone doing this, I would suggest letting go of the whole pulling thing (to avoid looking desperate or "creepy") and see it as an opportunity to make some new friends / acquaintances in general, and then (with time and endeavour) the girlfriend will naturally emerge.

It's kinda a "look after the pennies and the pounds look after themselves" dynamic.
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