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Want to break up

I feel like I want to end things with a guy I’m seeing but I don’t know what to do.

Firstly, him and I are not Bf + GF, we’ve never explicitly said we are and he’s never asked, but we do everything that bfs and gfs do. We met almost two years ago and have been so close for that whole time.

Everything was going really well, we had our few ups and downs but nothing too major. Then suddenly, he cheated on me. He was cheating on me for a few months and I found out with the girl telling me. I stopped speaking to him but broke no contact like an idiot lol. We started speaking again but as friends, but it turns out he was still speaking to the girl he cheated with and a few other girls. I found this out and was so upset.

Since then, him and the other girl stopped speaking and we’ve been good. However, I can’t get it out of my head the things that he did and how he took me for a fool. He did so many things after that were red flags like:
- After he said he ended things with her, still messaging the girl he cheated with then deleting the messages (I found them on his recently deleted)
- regularly checked her instagram on his secret account
- messaged other girls and flirted with them
- has another girl at the top of his best friends list as of rn

Looking back there were so many obvious clues but I just didn’t expect him to do something to the extent that he did.

Now we’re at a point where I’m constantly overthinking about the stuff mentioned above and others, and just don’t trust him. I’ve tried to rectify this but it keeps creeping back up. For this reason I feel that I should end things with him. I also think that if someone really loved me and valued me this much, I wouldn’t have gotten cheated on and done dirty the way i was.

Should I just end things with him?
What do you guys think?
Pretty amazed that you went back after he cheated on you for months.

I'd break up, no doubt.
Reply 2
Original post by Admit-One
Pretty amazed that you went back after he cheated on you for months.
I'd break up, no doubt.
100.
Reply 3
Yes, and you need no further justification. It will lift your self esteem enormously to be decisive about this now and you can find someone better
Reply 4
Original post by Anonymous
I feel like I want to end things with a guy I’m seeing but I don’t know what to do.
Firstly, him and I are not Bf + GF, we’ve never explicitly said we are and he’s never asked, but we do everything that bfs and gfs do. We met almost two years ago and have been so close for that whole time.
Everything was going really well, we had our few ups and downs but nothing too major. Then suddenly, he cheated on me. He was cheating on me for a few months and I found out with the girl telling me. I stopped speaking to him but broke no contact like an idiot lol. We started speaking again but as friends, but it turns out he was still speaking to the girl he cheated with and a few other girls. I found this out and was so upset.
Since then, him and the other girl stopped speaking and we’ve been good. However, I can’t get it out of my head the things that he did and how he took me for a fool. He did so many things after that were red flags like:
- After he said he ended things with her, still messaging the girl he cheated with then deleting the messages (I found them on his recently deleted)
- regularly checked her instagram on his secret account
- messaged other girls and flirted with them
- has another girl at the top of his best friends list as of rn
Looking back there were so many obvious clues but I just didn’t expect him to do something to the extent that he did.
Now we’re at a point where I’m constantly overthinking about the stuff mentioned above and others, and just don’t trust him. I’ve tried to rectify this but it keeps creeping back up. For this reason I feel that I should end things with him. I also think that if someone really loved me and valued me this much, I wouldn’t have gotten cheated on and done dirty the way i was.
Should I just end things with him?
What do you guys think?


I’m honestly impressed by your resilience and strength. Going back to someone who betrayed your trust for months must have been an incredibly tough decision, but it shows a remarkable level of commitment and forgiveness. It takes a lot of courage to confront such a painful situation and choose to give it another chance. Your ability to navigate through such a challenging experience speaks volumes about your character.
Reply 5
Thanks you!
(edited 2 months ago)
Reply 6
Yes omg stand uppp girl you don't deserve to be treated like this you can find someone better 100000%
Reply 7
as a serial cheater, we never change, no matter how much we try to. do with that info what you will
Reply 8
Original post by Anonymous
I feel like I want to end things with a guy I’m seeing but I don’t know what to do.
Firstly, him and I are not Bf + GF, we’ve never explicitly said we are and he’s never asked, but we do everything that bfs and gfs do. We met almost two years ago and have been so close for that whole time.
Everything was going really well, we had our few ups and downs but nothing too major. Then suddenly, he cheated on me. He was cheating on me for a few months and I found out with the girl telling me. I stopped speaking to him but broke no contact like an idiot lol. We started speaking again but as friends, but it turns out he was still speaking to the girl he cheated with and a few other girls. I found this out and was so upset.
Since then, him and the other girl stopped speaking and we’ve been good. However, I can’t get it out of my head the things that he did and how he took me for a fool. He did so many things after that were red flags like:
- After he said he ended things with her, still messaging the girl he cheated with then deleting the messages (I found them on his recently deleted)
- regularly checked her instagram on his secret account
- messaged other girls and flirted with them
- has another girl at the top of his best friends list as of rn
Looking back there were so many obvious clues but I just didn’t expect him to do something to the extent that he did.
Now we’re at a point where I’m constantly overthinking about the stuff mentioned above and others, and just don’t trust him. I’ve tried to rectify this but it keeps creeping back up. For this reason I feel that I should end things with him. I also think that if someone really loved me and valued me this much, I wouldn’t have gotten cheated on and done dirty the way i was.
Should I just end things with him?
What do you guys think?

totally

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