The Student Room Group

Halal dating?

Is it possible to date a guy as a girl while keeping it halal? Like for example we would not touch each other (like hug and all that) or make inappropriate jokes.

Scroll to see replies

Reply 1

Original post by Anonymous
Is it possible to date a guy as a girl while keeping it halal? Like for example we would not touch each other (like hug and all that) or make inappropriate jokes.

I'm not a devout Muslim, but I know that freely mixing with the opposite gender by choice is not halal, therefore making halal dating impossible.

Reply 2

Faith generally works best if you buy in to the things that work for you and bypass those that don’t

Reply 3

There is no dating concept in Islam if you are devout Muslim , a practicing one. If someone is "culturally" Muslim or just is trying to be a good Muslim but does the haram then yes in that sense they will see it more generally as halal

Reply 4

Original post by cloyd
There is no dating concept in Islam if you are devout Muslim , a practicing one. If someone is "culturally" Muslim or just is trying to be a good Muslim but does the haram then yes in that sense they will see it more generally as halal

lol the muslim girls in my school freely date with no issue and im pretty sure they touch each other and stuff

Reply 5

Original post by Anonymous
lol the muslim girls in my school freely date with no issue and im pretty sure they touch each other and stuff


And I don't deny that doesn't happen it just means that's not acceptable Islamically

Reply 6

Original post by Zarek
Faith generally works best if you buy in to the things that work for you and bypass those that don’t

REAL

Reply 7

Original post by Anonymous
Is it possible to date a guy as a girl while keeping it halal? Like for example we would not touch each other (like hug and all that) or make inappropriate jokes.

doesnt there have to be a 3rd person (a chaperone) cos the only other person when there's an unmarried woman and man together is shaytan? correct me if im wrong..

Reply 8

Original post by elareare
doesnt there have to be a 3rd person (a chaperone) cos the only other person when there's an unmarried woman and man together is shaytan? correct me if im wrong..

Yes.........
But only if you are extremely religiouss

Reply 9

Original post by TheSpicyOwl1
Yes.........
But only if you are extremely religiouss

well i mean if they're alone together with romantic intention that's not halal... no matter how lenient you are.

Reply 10

Original post by elareare
well i mean if they're alone together with romantic intention that's not halal... no matter how lenient you are.

That is true.










🤔

Reply 11

Original post by Anonymous
Is it possible to date a guy as a girl while keeping it halal? Like for example we would not touch each other (like hug and all that) or make inappropriate jokes.


It is not possible for a Muslim man and woman to do “halal dating.” If they want to speak with one another they should converse in the presence of the woman’s mahram (brother/father) to discuss about marriage etc. One of the best things to do with these type of questions where you aren’t clear is to read what the scholars say.

Reply 12

Original post by Anonymous
It is not possible for a Muslim man and woman to do “halal dating.” If they want to speak with one another they should converse in the presence of the woman’s mahram (brother/father) to discuss about marriage etc. One of the best things to do with these type of questions where you aren’t clear is to read what the scholars say.

Then again,


Those scholars might have had biased and prejudiced personal beliefs towards certain people, which means that the foundations of all religions might be tainted by the misinterpretations, both on purpose or accidentally, of what a religion stands for.







Therefore, I, PERSONALLY, find that she should do the action that suits her needs, while at the same time looking inwards at what she believes is fair and just.









#WomenEmpowermentWhileBeingANonreligousMuslimStudent

Reply 13

Original post by TheSpicyOwl1
Then again,
Those scholars might have had biased and prejudiced personal beliefs towards certain people, which means that the foundations of all religions might be tainted by the misinterpretations, both on purpose or accidentally, of what a religion stands for.
Therefore, I, PERSONALLY, find that she should do the action that suits her needs, while at the same time looking inwards at what she believes is fair and just.
#WomenEmpowermentWhileBeingANonreligousMuslimStudent


You’re entitled to your own personal beliefs, however at the end of the day it is haram and consequently, it can lead to zina. In the Quran it says “Do not go near zina.” Even if the person has no intention how can she clearly know what the male is thinking.
The best advice is see if both are willing to get married. If they need to converse do it in the appropriate manner with a mahram.
At the end of the day things are made haram to protect us.
Furthermore, how can you be a non religious Muslim. I intend no hate I am just curious.

Reply 14

Original post by Anonymous
You’re entitled to your own personal beliefs, however at the end of the day it is haram and consequently, it can lead to zina. In the Quran it says “Do not go near zina.” Even if the person has no intention how can she clearly know what the male is thinking.
The best advice is see if both are willing to get married. If they need to converse do it in the appropriate manner with a mahram.
At the end of the day things are made haram to protect us.
Furthermore, how can you be a non religious Muslim. I intend no hate I am just curious.

Original post by elareare
how is that even possible

Eh.......




My parents are Indian-Bengali-Muslim.









West Bengal is in the east of India.










Bengali people are known to be a lot less religiously strict than other Indian backgrounds....









Which kind of clashes with the "IN YOUR FACE" mentality of Islam.










So........









My family essentially believes in the best parts of both worlds.


🦉





Here are some examples:


My family doesn't always care about halal certified meat, and we do eat shellfish, fish, seafood, etc., but we don't eat pork, or anything that has parts of pig inside of them



We do namaz, but we only do it during Ramadan and the Two eids, for only ONE TIME.


I'm allowed, no, I'M WANTED to draw pictures of animals and hang them up on the walls, but when we look for house decorations, we always prefer landscape paintings.











Do you see?

The Bengali part of us gives us our liberal identity, while the Muslim part of us gives more stability.

Reply 15

Original post by TheSpicyOwl1
Eh.......
My parents are Indian-Bengali-Muslim.
West Bengal is in the east of India.
Bengali people are known to be a lot less religiously strict than other Indian backgrounds....
Which kind of clashes with the "IN YOUR FACE" mentality of Islam.
So........
My family essentially believes in the best parts of both worlds.
🦉
Here are some examples:
My family doesn't always care about halal certified meat, and we do eat shellfish, fish, seafood, etc., but we don't eat pork, or anything that has parts of pig inside of them
We do namaz, but we only do it during Ramadan and the Two eids, for only ONE TIME.
I'm allowed, no, I'M WANTED to draw pictures of animals and hang them up on the walls, but when we look for house decorations, we always prefer landscape paintings.
Do you see?
The Bengali part of us gives us our liberal identity, while the Muslim part of us gives more stability.

so you're still muslim, just not strict...?

Reply 16

Original post by Anonymous
Is it possible to date a guy as a girl while keeping it halal? Like for example we would not touch each other (like hug and all that) or make inappropriate jokes.

as a muslim, i was told that it isnt allowed to talk to boys like just in general but obviously like only for important stuff like education etc
plus i thought this wasnt allowed even if your muslim you have to wait for marriage

Reply 17

Original post by elareare
so you're still muslim, just not strict...?

Essentially.

Reply 18

Original post by elareare
so you're still muslim, just not strict...?


If they do not pray they aren’t Muslim. As a Muslim the main characteristic is to pray 5 times a day.

Reply 19

Original post by Anonymous
If they do not pray they aren’t Muslim. As a Muslim the main characteristic is to pray 5 times a day.

Tomato, tomahto

Quick Reply