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idk anymore

lately ive just been so sad and nothing makes me happy
all my friends are fake and idk what to do ive tried to distance myself but they always crawl back
idk what to do

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Original post by Anonymous
lately ive just been so sad and nothing makes me happy
all my friends are fake and idk what to do ive tried to distance myself but they always crawl back
idk what to do

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a tough time. It sounds like you're feeling very lonely and disconnected. Here are some steps you might consider to improve your situation:

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Reflect on the friendships: Try to think about why you feel your friends are fake. Are there specific behaviors or incidents that make you feel this way? Understanding the root cause can help in addressing the problem.

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Communicate Openly: Sometimes, friends might not realize they're being hurtful or neglectful. Consider having an honest conversation with them about how you feel. It's important to express your feelings without blaming or accusing.

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Set Boundaries: If certain friends consistently make you feel bad, it's okay to set boundaries. Distancing yourself from negative influences can be a healthy step. Make it clear that you need some space to focus on your well-being.

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Seek New Connections: Try to meet new people who share similar interests. This could be through clubs, classes, online communities, or volunteering. Expanding your social circle might help you find more supportive and genuine friends.

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Focus on Self-Care: Remember to take care of yourself. Engage in activities you enjoy, practice mindfulness or meditation, exercise, and ensure you're getting enough rest. These can improve your mood and overall well-being.

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Professional Help: If you're feeling persistently sad and nothing seems to help, it might be beneficial to talk to a mental health professional. Therapy can provide a safe space to explore your feelings and develop coping strategies.

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Lean on Trusted Support: If you have even one person you trust, whether it's a family member, teacher, or another friend, consider reaching out. Sometimes just having someone to listen can make a big difference.

I hope these suggestions help you navigate your feelings and find a path to a happier place. Remember, it's great that you're reaching out for help.
if u have any worries, u can always dm me if u want

Reply 2

Original post by Anonymous
lately ive just been so sad and nothing makes me happy
all my friends are fake and idk what to do ive tried to distance myself but they always crawl back
idk what to do

Hii sorry if this is a bit late i just saw this!
i understand totally how u feel coz i was only experiencing a similar thing very recently and i have started on a journey to improve and i suggest you do to!
i know it can be hard but i'd say TALK to your parents, brother, sister anybody close family who you TRUST about the fake friends issue. I dealt with fake friends too and it does f-ing suck, believe me. i know. BUT it won't suck forever! It is good that you have tried to distance yourself in the first place, that's some good confidence you have! You say they keep crawling back, RESIST it. I know its hard and you feel like you want to go back as well because they feel like all you have but that is a lie. You have YOURSELF. You are your own best friend and you don't need to rely on others to make you happy. It's YOUR happiness. You have to be selfish a little bit, and focus on yourself and what makes you happy. It feels like nothing makes you happy because you are in a fixed mindset at the moment. CHANGE your mindset- what used to make you happy? Music?- listen to it again and drift away. Art?- paint something, anything. Reading?- read and get into the world of the book. Escapism is the key. Even if its the weirdest hobby ever, who cares, its your happiness not theirs or anyone else's. They don't live your life, YOU do!
Also if you are religious, then I suggest find God/deity you worship. You'll be surprised at how much it really does help. Pray and TRUST, i know trusting people can be hard. Like very hard in this day and age but trusting someone like God who will always be there is a good thing.
I know it can be very hard but you have to motivate yourself! DO it. Once you do it, I know it can be hard, even if you do it sluggishly or reluctantly, AT LEAST you did it. And keep doing it !! Don't stop and never give up! Do it until you are motivated for other stuff.
TRUST me, things may not seem good now but they ALWAYS get better. No matter how much of a dark pit you are in. And you are never truly alone. Never EVER feel you are unworthy of anything because you are totally worth it, in all aspects! You have to be selfish as i say and do what makes you feel good. Screw other people's opinions. Those fake friends are not going to be there forever, so why care? Ditch them, no matter how hard or heartbreaking it will seem. Truly, it will be like a weight is lifted from your shoulders.
I hope my advice has helped you and i wish you the best of luck! I shall pray for you as well and NEVER give up or ever make someone make you feel you are less of a human. Because you are not, you are a beautiful gift to this world.
🙂 ❤️

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