Making friends at uni

I go to astonuni and making friends is so stress I’m in second year going to placement and I haven’t found any friends it’s so difficult. I’ve joined societies and been involved with different groups but I haven’t really clicked with anyone

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I go to astonuni and making friends is so stress I’m in second year going to placement and I haven’t found any friends it’s so difficult. I’ve joined societies and been involved with different groups but I haven’t really clicked with anyone

Hi there,

I'm sorry to read that you're struggling to make friends at uni, this can be really lonely but I want to reassure you that a lot of people feel that way. I felt like that a lot at university, but it does get better. You can find my blog here on finding community at university. I hope that helps!

Jaz - Cardiff student rep

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by Anonymous

I go to astonuni and making friends is so stress I’m in second year going to placement and I haven’t found any friends it’s so difficult. I’ve joined societies and been involved with different groups but I haven’t really clicked with anyone

Hi there,

It can be quite tricky making friends sometimes at uni so I thought I’d just give you some of my best advice on making friends at university.

Firstly, I would say try and persevere with the societies as you never know who is going to join in September as there will be lots of new people and you might start to make some more friends. Or you could join a new one after your placement year and see if you make more friends this way! There are loads of societies usually for lots of different interests so there might be something else you are interested in.

I would also say that it’s good to try and make friends with the people on your course if you haven’t already. It’s hard sometimes but after your placement year there will be different people on your course as some people in the year below you might not have done a placement so you will see them in your classes. This is a good way to chat to some new people and get to know them as you might get along with them more than the people currently on your course. You could ask them if they wanted to go out after uni- for food, shopping or even just to the library!

Another way of meeting people is just through social media. After your placement year you could have a look on Facebook or other social media and see if anyone at your uni is in the same position as you and wants to meet up. It sounds scary but lots of people post about this and make friends by meeting up with new people so it is worth a try! There will probably be people in the same boat who did a placement but their friends might not have done so they might not have the same friends any more and are looking to meet new people!

You might also meet some people just by going out. I’m sure you have done this already but if you go out with any of your friends, get them to introduce you to any of their other friends or talk to people that you meet out. It sounds like it wouldn’t work but I have met some of my friends from being out as most people are really friendly when they’re out! Or if you don’t like nights out you could go to other social events during the day that your student union may put on and see if you meet people this way!

I hope some of this helps and good luck with your placement year 🙂

Lucy -SHU student ambassador.

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I go to astonuni and making friends is so stress I’m in second year going to placement and I haven’t found any friends it’s so difficult. I’ve joined societies and been involved with different groups but I haven’t really clicked with anyone

Hi there, I am so sorry to hear that. Personally as an international student I also had difficulty making close friends within my course. It was only after a year where I started making some friends through regularly attending a society and my part time job as a student ambassador which let me meet other like-minded people. I also made a few friends during my placement year and summer internships so theres always a chance you may meet someone that you can click with! 🙂 These things take time to develop so don't stress over it!

Zhi En
(Kingston Student Rep.)

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I go to astonuni and making friends is so stress I’m in second year going to placement and I haven’t found any friends it’s so difficult. I’ve joined societies and been involved with different groups but I haven’t really clicked with anyone

Hi there, I'm sorry to hear that you haven't really clicked with anyone yet. University can feel like a very isolating experience sometimes. If you are about to go on placement, you may find that you can befriend some of your coworkers! I think most companies offering placements will take multiple students so you are likely to find people in a similar situation to you. Additionally, since you will be returning to university with a different cohort of people after your placement year, you may be able to find some people you like next year as well, whether that is on your course, through societies, accommodation, etc. It is also important to remember that university life is not the be all and end all, it is often advertised as the best social years of your life, and whilst that may be true for some people it definitely isn't for everyone! You will definitely find your people at some point, even if that point is after university.
I hope your placement year goes well!
-Kat (2nd year Psychology Undergraduate at Lancaster University)

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I go to astonuni and making friends is so stress I’m in second year going to placement and I haven’t found any friends it’s so difficult. I’ve joined societies and been involved with different groups but I haven’t really clicked with anyone

Hello!

I’m sorry to hear you’ve been struggling with making friends, I only made friends during my second year and even then, they’re not the lifelong friendships a lot of people praise university for. Everyone is on different paths, and some people make their friends after university and that’s just as valid and valuable as making friends during university.

If you’re feeling up to it and if it is really integral to you that you make your friendship group during university, I would suggest persevering. Maybe chat to the people you’re on placement with, invite them out to hang out to do different things. You could even do the same with the people you’ve met in your societies that, even if you haven’t clicked straight away, you could be great friends if you gave it a shot and spent some more time around them?

I hope this helps!

Estelle
Third Year Psychology
University of Huddersfield

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I go to astonuni and making friends is so stress I’m in second year going to placement and I haven’t found any friends it’s so difficult. I’ve joined societies and been involved with different groups but I haven’t really clicked with anyone

Hi there!

I’m sorry to hear this and can understand what this feels like. University can feel a little isolating and lonely sometimes however like all things, it takes time, and I am sure you will find your people when the time is right.

I did a placement year and after joining a different class after finishing my placement, I ended up making friends for life. When you join back after your placement year, you will have another opportunity to meet more people and make new friends from your new class, societies, and accommodation.

You may also make new friends on your placement as companies often recruit multiple students. 😊

Hope this helps and good luck with your placement.
Jakub - Fashion promotion and marketing student

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