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What does "okay we'll see if possible"? Mean from a girl after reconnection context?

I've recently reconnected with a girl I had mutual attraction with in the past. We hadn't talked for four months, and when I reached out, she seemed very excited and nervous. She even thanked me multiple times for contacting her and engaged in our conversation with lengthy voice messages and paragraphs and emojis. When I ended the convo by saying I'm out of city right now I'll be back next month, suggested meeting up next month, she replied, "Okay, we'll see if possible. You should take care of yourself for now. Hopefully, we will talk again☺️."

What does "Okay, we'll see if possible" mean in this context? Is she being non-committal, or is she genuinely interested but cautious? Any insights would be appreciated!

Reply 1

Dont hang on words my freind, she sayes what she sayes and it could mean anything, as you get older you will realise that people say all kinds and mean all kinds of things. Dont attatch to one girl or one bunch of words. Be confident in yourself, if shes interested its likely other girls will be.
Also let her do some of the work, its not our job as guys to always chase now, if shes interested she will get back in touch or drop a message or two in next few weeks. Attatch to nothing.....

Reply 2

Original post by Anonymous
I've recently reconnected with a girl I had mutual attraction with in the past. We hadn't talked for four months, and when I reached out, she seemed very excited and nervous. She even thanked me multiple times for contacting her and engaged in our conversation with lengthy voice messages and paragraphs and emojis. When I ended the convo by saying I'm out of city right now I'll be back next month, suggested meeting up next month, she replied, "Okay, we'll see if possible. You should take care of yourself for now. Hopefully, we will talk again☺️."
What does "Okay, we'll see if possible" mean in this context? Is she being non-committal, or is she genuinely interested but cautious? Any insights would be appreciated!

Sorry to say this, but whenever a girl says "We'll see..." to any proposed invitation, rendezvous etc it's almost always a polite way of saying "No thanks". However, this obviously does ultimately depend on the surrounding context. Fair enough, you'd spoken 'at length' and she seemed grateful for you contacting her, but how flirty was the conversation? Did she mention / reference a boyfriend or romance in any way? Does she make the effort to contact you, or does she only respond when you're chasing her? Did she ask why you were away or when (exactly) you'll be back?

If I were you, I'd stay quiet and let her contact you... if she does like you, she'll let you know when she's free or available for a meet. The very most you want to do in chasing her is maybe sending a short text when you're back in town, and see if she then responds suggesting a meet up. If she doesn't chase you or show signs of interest, then unfortunately she's not interested... but it is sometimes nice to connect with someone from the past.




Original post by NeoIan
Dont hang on words my freind, she sayes what she sayes and it could mean anything, as you get older you will realise that people say all kinds and mean all kinds of things. Dont attatch to one girl or one bunch of words. Be confident in yourself, if shes interested its likely other girls will be.
Also let her do some of the work, its not our job as guys to always chase now, if shes interested she will get back in touch or drop a message or two in next few weeks. Attatch to nothing.....

Agreed

@OP, don't be so focused on one person that you miss out on other potential partners.
(edited 1 year ago)

Reply 3

As you’ve picked up, it’s not the most encouraging choice of words. When your back, I make one clear meet up suggestion and see how it goes

Reply 4

Original post by Old Skool Freak
Sorry to say this, but whenever a girl says "We'll see..." to any proposed invitation, rendezvous etc it's almost always a polite way of saying "No thanks". However, this obviously does ultimately depend on the surrounding context. Fair enough, you'd spoken 'at length' and she seemed grateful for you contacting her, but how flirty was the conversation? Did she mention / reference a boyfriend or romance in any way? Does she make the effort to contact you, or does she only respond when you're chasing her? Did she ask why you were away or when (exactly) you'll be back?
If I were you, I'd stay quiet and let her contact you... if she does like you, she'll let you know when she's free or available for a meet. The very most you want to do in chasing her is maybe sending a short text when you're back in town, and see if she then responds suggesting a meet up. If she doesn't chase you or show signs of interest, then unfortunately she's not interested... but it is sometimes nice to connect with someone from the past.
Agreed
@OP, don't be so focused on one person that you miss out on other potential partners.

no not always. I had a lot of female friends say this. Its a way to test If he will insist or is really interested. She doesnt want to look very excited and want to be conquered.

Reply 5

Original post by Serisnar
no not always. I had a lot of female friends say this. Its a way to test If he will insist or is really interested. She doesnt want to look very excited and want to be conquered.

All due respect, but I stand by my post... however, remember I DID say it depends on the context.

I agree that if she's specific about her impeding commitments, or anything else going on in her life, then it's more likely to be genuine (she should volunteer this information; he shouldn't have to ask for it)... but from my experience, vague open ended responses are normally a brush-off. Admittedly some people do like to play games and test the water, but I'd say they're the exception rather than the rule.

Who's right? I guess we'll find out in a months time (if the OP can be asked to update us on the matter 😉 )

Reply 6

Original post by Old Skool Freak
All due respect, but I stand by my post... however, remember I DID say it depends on the context.
I agree that if she's specific about her impeding commitments, or anything else going on in her life, then it's more likely to be genuine (she should volunteer this information; he shouldn't have to ask for it)... but from my experience, vague open ended responses are normally a brush-off. Admittedly some people do like to play games and test the water, but I'd say they're the exception rather than the rule.
Who's right? I guess we'll find out in a months time (if the OP can be asked to update us on the matter 😉 )

Nah I stand my point too, with she respect too. I know girls who were really into that guy and have answered "let me see It If possible" etc.

I understand that its not the best answer. Im a woman and I know that men get insecure with this kind of answer and I myself find those answers unecessary. It can be that she is not that into him. But not necessarily. If she stops answering or refuses to go with a lame excuse, then he has the answer. But while that, she or sure wants him to take charge. She is probably gauging his interest without commiting much or have much expectatives. Probably the no contact of 4 months left her wondering and in doubt of his intentions and his level of interest so he will have to make for It.

Believe me. Its an annoying answer, not the best, but not necessarily a negative one. Yes, the woman is testing waters.
(edited 1 year ago)

Reply 7

Original post by Serisnar
Nah I stand my point too, with she respect too. I know girls who were really into that guy and have answered "let me see It If possible" etc.
I understand that its not the best answer. Im a woman and I know that men get insecure with this kind of answer and I myself find those answers unecessary. It can be that she is not that into him. But not necessarily. If she stops answering or refuses to go with a lance excuse, then he has the answer. But while that, she for sure wants him to take charge. She is probably gauging his interest without commiting much or have much expectatives. Probably the no contact of 4 months left her wondering and in doubt of his intentions and his level of interest.
Believe me. Its an annoying answer, but not necessarily a negative one.

Maybe you're right... but as I said, we'll find out if / when the OP updates us later on.

If I'm right, you owe me £10 😛

Reply 8

Original post by Old Skool Freak
Maybe you're right... but as I said, we'll find out if / when the OP updates us later on.
If I'm right, you owe me £10 😛

Ok. And if im right you owe me a beer.

Reply 9

Original post by Serisnar
Ok. And if im right you owe me a beer.

Ha ha deal 🤝

Reply 10

Okay, we'll see if possible. You should take care of yourself for now. Hopefully, we will talk again☺️.

That is actually a positive message from her. About a week before you return you start a soft close sequence to arrange meeting her.

Such as phoning her and having a brief, positive, light hearted chat. EG "blah blah blah... You know how you said I should take care of myself? Well that went totally out the window! 🤣 (followed by a brief amusing anecdote)" During the phone call you gauge her reaction and either don't invite her to meet up on that call or do invite her to meet up. Maybe even kidding her about it eg "So.... Are you available on Tuesday?... Oh that's a shame, I'll still be in Timbuktu! 😃 But I can meet you on Tuesday week, as I'll be back then."

Or just texting her "How do feel about drinks and witty banter with well travelled boys?"

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