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Friendship Trio

Basically I’m in a trio, that was a duo before but the duo invited me to join them. They were close friends for around a year before I joined them
They are caring for my feelings and always willing to give me support and good advice, I feel really safe around them. They never excluded me from class projects either
We went out on the last day of gcse, but after that they never invited me to go out with them whenever they do, as I’ve seen on their Instagram posts (sometimes include people idk about which is fine), and they talk more in private than they do in our group chat, and they hang out frequently

My situation is that my parents are more strict than theirs and so it’s harder for me to go out (easier now because it’s summer) but I have a history of turning down multiple plans due to this
I’m feeling a little sad and left out about this, because they never offered an invite after the gcse hangout, but I don’t know bc they’ve known eachother longer and know I have stricter parents. Any thoughts?
Reply 1
Original post by Anonymous
Basically I’m in a trio, that was a duo before but the duo invited me to join them. They were close friends for around a year before I joined them
They are caring for my feelings and always willing to give me support and good advice, I feel really safe around them. They never excluded me from class projects either
We went out on the last day of gcse, but after that they never invited me to go out with them whenever they do, as I’ve seen on their Instagram posts (sometimes include people idk about which is fine), and they talk more in private than they do in our group chat, and they hang out frequently
My situation is that my parents are more strict than theirs and so it’s harder for me to go out (easier now because it’s summer) but I have a history of turning down multiple plans due to this
I’m feeling a little sad and left out about this, because they never offered an invite after the gcse hangout, but I don’t know bc they’ve known eachother longer and know I have stricter parents. Any thoughts?


maybe let your friends know you might be able to go out more bc it’s the summer (so they’re more likely to invite you) and talk to your parents about having experiences as a teenager. that’s something i feel i’ve had problems with as well as i’m also in a trio and have slightly stricter parents. i’ve been trying to hint to my mum that i need to be able to try things and have experiences as a teenager (because she’s quite protective and only has good intentions) or else i’ll become an incompetent adult, especially as this is such a key time for learning and kinda doing trial and error with independence. (i’m 16 btw) obvs i don’t know how similar we are in this sense but this is my current experience.

also when i talk about experiences as a teenager i kinda mean staying out later, going out with my friends casually and just generally more freedom in that way. she will let me go out with them but sometimes i feel as if she makes it into a big deal because i never really used to go out ‘casually’ and i know most of my peers have that kind of trusting relationships with their parents and are trusted enough to go out more independently. i know really my mum just wants me to be safe but sometimes she just goes really over the top with it and that’s where my particular problems lie. :smile:
Reply 2
Original post by dottii
maybe let your friends know you might be able to go out more bc it’s the summer (so they’re more likely to invite you) and talk to your parents about having experiences as a teenager. that’s something i feel i’ve had problems with as well as i’m also in a trio and have slightly stricter parents. i’ve been trying to hint to my mum that i need to be able to try things and have experiences as a teenager (because she’s quite protective and only has good intentions) or else i’ll become an incompetent adult, especially as this is such a key time for learning and kinda doing trial and error with independence. (i’m 16 btw) obvs i don’t know how similar we are in this sense but this is my current experience.
also when i talk about experiences as a teenager i kinda mean staying out later, going out with my friends casually and just generally more freedom in that way. she will let me go out with them but sometimes i feel as if she makes it into a big deal because i never really used to go out ‘casually’ and i know most of my peers have that kind of trusting relationships with their parents and are trusted enough to go out more independently. i know really my mum just wants me to be safe but sometimes she just goes really over the top with it and that’s where my particular problems lie. :smile:


i think based off what you said i have less strict parents than you but so idk if my response was very useful lmao- sorry if not
Reply 3
Original post by dottii
i think based off what you said i have less strict parents than you but so idk if my response was very useful lmao- sorry if not


Hahah no problem, I acc do think our parents are quite similar, I’ve never been able to go out just on the go because my knowledge of my surroundings is minimal asf😭. Thanks for your advice though, I’ll be willing to tell them!
Reply 4
Original post by Anonymous
Basically I’m in a trio, that was a duo before but the duo invited me to join them. They were close friends for around a year before I joined them
They are caring for my feelings and always willing to give me support and good advice, I feel really safe around them. They never excluded me from class projects either
We went out on the last day of gcse, but after that they never invited me to go out with them whenever they do, as I’ve seen on their Instagram posts (sometimes include people idk about which is fine), and they talk more in private than they do in our group chat, and they hang out frequently
My situation is that my parents are more strict than theirs and so it’s harder for me to go out (easier now because it’s summer) but I have a history of turning down multiple plans due to this
I’m feeling a little sad and left out about this, because they never offered an invite after the gcse hangout, but I don’t know bc they’ve known eachother longer and know I have stricter parents. Any thoughts?


i don’t have strict parents so i can’t speak from experience, but socialising can be hard when you have strict parents!! my advice would also be to let your friends know that you will be able to hang out more in summer, and also maybe suggest making plans in advance if that will mean you’re more likely to go? as well as that, maybe just let them know that you would like to be invited even if they think you won’t be able to go, as it’s nice to know they want you there!!

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