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When I started university, I was so excited and I really wanted so join the volleyball team.So, I went to their freshers events, but I didn't really bond with anyone. But as time passed, they started to bully me. I think I am going to drop out

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Original post by robertuni

When I started university, I was so excited and I really wanted so join the volleyball team.So, I went to their freshers events, but I didn't really bond with anyone. But as time passed, they started to bully me. I think I am going to drop out

Hi @robertuni ,

I'm sorry to hear about your experience ☹️

You should not be made to feel like that, from anyone. Is there a staff lead within the team that oversees everything within the club in general, or a staff member in control of student led sporting activities? If so, you should most certainly raise this issue and inform them.

Furthermore, look after your own mental health and take the step of leaving for yourself. You should be surrounded by those that will uplift you, in an environment that is supportive when not in university lectures.

I hope things improve for you!

~Zaynab
University of Bradford

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Original post by robertuni

When I started university, I was so excited and I really wanted so join the volleyball team.So, I went to their freshers events, but I didn't really bond with anyone. But as time passed, they started to bully me. I think I am going to drop out

This environment is awful clearly, but people shouldn't be bullying you at all-that's just disgusting behaviour. It's a tough situation, but although it is best to go to an environment where you're welcome and where you're valued, I think you should stick it out just a little bit longer, especially to see if you can make new friends at that university that can help you repel this bullying. Sometimes I think bullying is a test of character and endurance. If you stick around and survive through it you will get stronger, but at the same time you shouldn't waste your time in an environment that isn't helping you out. University is a big place and you should find good people, but it's important to go after what you want and need.

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Original post by robertuni

When I started university, I was so excited and I really wanted so join the volleyball team.So, I went to their freshers events, but I didn't really bond with anyone. But as time passed, they started to bully me. I think I am going to drop out

Its pretty terrible you feel that way. One bit of advice that can be really helpful is to distance yourself from the society, and probably join others that will be more welcoming of you. Dropping out should be seen only as a last resort, because you will surely come across people in university who want to form good relations with you. You can always talk to people on this forum as well.

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Original post by robertuni

When I started university, I was so excited and I really wanted so join the volleyball team.So, I went to their freshers events, but I didn't really bond with anyone. But as time passed, they started to bully me. I think I am going to drop out

@robertuni

By all means leave the volleyball team, you don't need to put up with bullying, but if you mean you plan to leave university because of the volleyball team then I think that is something to reconsider. The university hopefully has more to offer than the volleyball team and you have started a degree, which will hopefully lead you to work in your chosen subject area. If you are enjoying your course and doing well, even though you may need to make new friends in second year, it might be a good idea to stay.

You can leave the volleyball team and cut off the stress, but it may also be in your interests to address the matter with your Student Union, so the necessary action can be taken so that others are not put off playing or end up experiencing some of the things you have. It may be a people thing, where the bullies will graduate next year and the problem will go with them or it may be that there is a bullying culture. If you feel able, then do try and raise the issue at your university. If you feel too uncomfortable or anxious about that then just look after yourself and move on from the volleyball team.

It's unfortunate things have not worked out, but there may be other sports societies you can join. It is important to stay active and it's beneficial for your wellbeing, so do look for something you can do, even it's doing weights, joining some exercise classes, or running.

All the best,

Oluwatosin – 3rd year student – University of Huddersfield

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