keep relapsing on porn
Hi, apologise if this is a long post guys I keep relapsing on Porn, and it is tough for me to get off it. I do stuff to keep my mind busy like going to the gym, walking my dog, and playing video games. one time I have lasted 20 days without watching it I think I am making progress.
But keep slipping away, and I feel dirty and guilty and shameful afterwards. Honestly, I wish I could quit for good as in masturbation and porn altogether.
And people say that masturbation has benefits is total BS. People are consumed by content creators on YouTube or the term (No Fap) and they are getting the wrong impression off it. As they are brainwashed by certain views or clicks each creator has.
Don't get me wrong I do respect them no hate or anything I just think A lot of audiences get brainwashed into believing in stuff like this on the internet these days. I am not saying I am an expert on it myself on it apart from I just think porn is unhealthy in generation and it gets the wrong impression towards women.
In general, what you see online is nothing like what you interact with a real girl and would like to hear your stories of how managed to quit and how gave you a different perspective.
But keep slipping away, and I feel dirty and guilty and shameful afterwards. Honestly, I wish I could quit for good as in masturbation and porn altogether.
And people say that masturbation has benefits is total BS. People are consumed by content creators on YouTube or the term (No Fap) and they are getting the wrong impression off it. As they are brainwashed by certain views or clicks each creator has.
Don't get me wrong I do respect them no hate or anything I just think A lot of audiences get brainwashed into believing in stuff like this on the internet these days. I am not saying I am an expert on it myself on it apart from I just think porn is unhealthy in generation and it gets the wrong impression towards women.
In general, what you see online is nothing like what you interact with a real girl and would like to hear your stories of how managed to quit and how gave you a different perspective.
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Original post by NeoIan
Don’t be harsh on your self - just gradually come off it like any drug or addiction 
) and find a nice lady 🙂
) and find a nice lady 🙂is porn really the reason why I haven't got a girlfriend? I know people say girlfriends happen unexpectedly. Even though I have made some form of progress to quitting but it just seems like I have given up and had said this to myself. And seems nothing really changes, I don't focus on getting one as I focus on myself and my own goals and what not I just sort off given ups the fact a girlfriend wont happen and just live life and enjoy it as life short you know.
I think porn is basically you watching two or more people having the pleasure like you were a voyeur or somebody looking at a couple's privacy through a window. I mean if there's an incentive to stop for people-that might be it!
Original post by Anonymous
is porn really the reason why I haven't got a girlfriend? I know people say girlfriends happen unexpectedly. Even though I have made some form of progress to quitting but it just seems like I have given up and had said this to myself. And seems nothing really changes, I don't focus on getting one as I focus on myself and my own goals and what not I just sort off given ups the fact a girlfriend wont happen and just live life and enjoy it as life short you know.
Watching porn won't prevent you from getting a girlfriend, women don't have a sixth sense to notice men who masturbate. If it makes you feel any better, most of the women I have been friends with do it.
Contrary to what you said in your first post, masturbation is healthy, and most people enjoy it in a healthy way. Porn isn't a great representation of real relationships and shouldn't be taken as one, but as long as you know that when going in and you don't do it too much, there's nothing to be ashamed of or worried about.
With that said, I have not seen any of your previous threads and so I'm assuming that you were at one point addicted to porn? If so I don't think you should watch porn, but don't punish yourself because of it.
Original post by Doomotron
Watching porn won't prevent you from getting a girlfriend, women don't have a sixth sense to notice men who masturbate. If it makes you feel any better, most of the women I have been friends with do it.
Contrary to what you said in your first post, masturbation is healthy, and most people enjoy it in a healthy way. Porn isn't a great representation of real relationships and shouldn't be taken as one, but as long as you know that when going in and you don't do it too much, there's nothing to be ashamed of or worried about.
With that said, I have not seen any of your previous threads and so I'm assuming that you were at one point addicted to porn? If so I don't think you should watch porn, but don't punish yourself because of it.
Contrary to what you said in your first post, masturbation is healthy, and most people enjoy it in a healthy way. Porn isn't a great representation of real relationships and shouldn't be taken as one, but as long as you know that when going in and you don't do it too much, there's nothing to be ashamed of or worried about.
With that said, I have not seen any of your previous threads and so I'm assuming that you were at one point addicted to porn? If so I don't think you should watch porn, but don't punish yourself because of it.
Agreed
Also try making friends that might also help pm if you need help or any questions
Be gentle of your psyche and yourself. Imagine a circle that is divided into segments. In life there are a whole group of segments that should all be in balance - most of the time.
At times, these segments get imbalanced. Areas such as the 'sleep' and 'rest' when you are invaded by a new born or kids generally are the ones that take over life. Particularly when offspring are unwell. The sleep banks suffer and the whole of your life takes a tilt to a 'survival' mode and maintaining a sense of humour is a herculean task. Everything else is secondary. Equally the much maligned 'work life' balance is another. If work is out of kilter to 'life' you can swim under water for so long but eventually you have to come up for a breath. If you don't you 'burn out' or your health suffers.
So now look at the 'porn' issue. When did 'porn' become significantly more important in your life than life itself? When did it become more important than sex or a relationship with someone who really cares for you? What area in your life does 'porn' fulfil that is currently missing? Outsourced in an isolated vacuum? What areas are out of balance in your life? What are you hiding away from? 'Porn' can be ok in a relatively mild form but it is a very lonely activity. What can you do to address this and find those real genuine people? Work on that and make yourself believe this is a closed chapter in your life. Try not to overthink the one sided fake imagery where everyone seems happy and sexually fulfilled, because it is - fake. Just try and let your head go free. You might even enjoy the feeling.
At times, these segments get imbalanced. Areas such as the 'sleep' and 'rest' when you are invaded by a new born or kids generally are the ones that take over life. Particularly when offspring are unwell. The sleep banks suffer and the whole of your life takes a tilt to a 'survival' mode and maintaining a sense of humour is a herculean task. Everything else is secondary. Equally the much maligned 'work life' balance is another. If work is out of kilter to 'life' you can swim under water for so long but eventually you have to come up for a breath. If you don't you 'burn out' or your health suffers.
So now look at the 'porn' issue. When did 'porn' become significantly more important in your life than life itself? When did it become more important than sex or a relationship with someone who really cares for you? What area in your life does 'porn' fulfil that is currently missing? Outsourced in an isolated vacuum? What areas are out of balance in your life? What are you hiding away from? 'Porn' can be ok in a relatively mild form but it is a very lonely activity. What can you do to address this and find those real genuine people? Work on that and make yourself believe this is a closed chapter in your life. Try not to overthink the one sided fake imagery where everyone seems happy and sexually fulfilled, because it is - fake. Just try and let your head go free. You might even enjoy the feeling.
Original post by Anonymous
Hi, apologise if this is a long post guys I keep relapsing on Porn, and it is tough for me to get off it. I do stuff to keep my mind busy like going to the gym, walking my dog, and playing video games. one time I have lasted 20 days without watching it I think I am making progress.
But keep slipping away, and I feel dirty and guilty and shameful afterwards. Honestly, I wish I could quit for good as in masturbation and porn altogether.
And people say that masturbation has benefits is total BS. People are consumed by content creators on YouTube or the term (No Fap) and they are getting the wrong impression off it. As they are brainwashed by certain views or clicks each creator has.
Don't get me wrong I do respect them no hate or anything I just think A lot of audiences get brainwashed into believing in stuff like this on the internet these days. I am not saying I am an expert on it myself on it apart from I just think porn is unhealthy in generation and it gets the wrong impression towards women.
In general, what you see online is nothing like what you interact with a real girl and would like to hear your stories of how managed to quit and how gave you a different perspective.
But keep slipping away, and I feel dirty and guilty and shameful afterwards. Honestly, I wish I could quit for good as in masturbation and porn altogether.
And people say that masturbation has benefits is total BS. People are consumed by content creators on YouTube or the term (No Fap) and they are getting the wrong impression off it. As they are brainwashed by certain views or clicks each creator has.
Don't get me wrong I do respect them no hate or anything I just think A lot of audiences get brainwashed into believing in stuff like this on the internet these days. I am not saying I am an expert on it myself on it apart from I just think porn is unhealthy in generation and it gets the wrong impression towards women.
In general, what you see online is nothing like what you interact with a real girl and would like to hear your stories of how managed to quit and how gave you a different perspective.
You are 100% correct in what you say. Porn is a very bad adiction to have and it destroys relationships. There is nothing better than being in a good relationship, and i have found then, even without sex with partner, I do not want to view porn at all. It feels like im cheating in a way if I do.
Find a good partner is best way of quitting. OR try finding a Hypnotherapist on "Hypnotherapy Directory" on Google,They def can help.
Unironically think porn addicts are worse than any kind of drug addict
Original post by Username123ab
Unironically think porn addicts are worse than any kind of drug addict
Thats not a kind thing to say though is it to the poster? And doesnt help either.... Drug addicts cause other issues such as supporting illegal supply chains and also cause significant pain to themselves and others. Porn i would say although is having effect on the producers of it, does not cause medical issues to the greater extent.
The Podcast from time point 25.07 onwards is about addiction to pornography. And yes you can view The Guardian for Free.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/audio/2024/jul/06/kevin-bacon-interview-porn-addicts-private-tutors-for-the-rich
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/audio/2024/jul/06/kevin-bacon-interview-porn-addicts-private-tutors-for-the-rich
Fellow porn addict here, if you find a way of curbing it let me know. It can take over completely, like every opportunity I was masturbating, even at school. I never got caught but I had a few near misses.
Original post by Anonymous
Hi, apologise if this is a long post guys I keep relapsing on Porn, and it is tough for me to get off it. I do stuff to keep my mind busy like going to the gym, walking my dog, and playing video games. one time I have lasted 20 days without watching it I think I am making progress.
But keep slipping away, and I feel dirty and guilty and shameful afterwards. Honestly, I wish I could quit for good as in masturbation and porn altogether.
And people say that masturbation has benefits is total BS. People are consumed by content creators on YouTube or the term (No Fap) and they are getting the wrong impression off it. As they are brainwashed by certain views or clicks each creator has.
Don't get me wrong I do respect them no hate or anything I just think A lot of audiences get brainwashed into believing in stuff like this on the internet these days. I am not saying I am an expert on it myself on it apart from I just think porn is unhealthy in generation and it gets the wrong impression towards women.
In general, what you see online is nothing like what you interact with a real girl and would like to hear your stories of how managed to quit and how gave you a different perspective.
But keep slipping away, and I feel dirty and guilty and shameful afterwards. Honestly, I wish I could quit for good as in masturbation and porn altogether.
And people say that masturbation has benefits is total BS. People are consumed by content creators on YouTube or the term (No Fap) and they are getting the wrong impression off it. As they are brainwashed by certain views or clicks each creator has.
Don't get me wrong I do respect them no hate or anything I just think A lot of audiences get brainwashed into believing in stuff like this on the internet these days. I am not saying I am an expert on it myself on it apart from I just think porn is unhealthy in generation and it gets the wrong impression towards women.
In general, what you see online is nothing like what you interact with a real girl and would like to hear your stories of how managed to quit and how gave you a different perspective.
An addiction is when it messes with you everyday life. If you are just feeling guilty that is different. I'd guess many guys masturbate and watch porn 1-10 times a week some even 1-3 times a day. You can join groups chats to recover/rehab for those kinds addictions. Certain apps with passwords and restrictions can block websites then just have someone else set the password. Guys naturally have more testosterone which means higher sex drive/need/desire.
Original post by Oscar Gibbons
Fellow porn addict here, if you find a way of curbing it let me know. It can take over completely, like every opportunity I was masturbating, even at school. I never got caught but I had a few near misses.
how clean are you now? I am trying to quit but it lasts a week or two and I relapse. I try and distract myself as much as possible but it's mostly at night when in bed thinking about fapping that's when the craving starts.
IMHO, one of the things that is unique about porn addiction is that it's often in secret, and the "addict" can live a normal life on the surface without other knowing about it (unlike other kinds of addiction, where there are often tell-tale signs... well maybe getting caught having a tug in the locker room is a bit of a give-away lol). This can often make outside intervention a lot harder.
Sorry, I don't have much more advice to have about quitting; the only contribution I can really make is that it's a psychological addiction. It's not like smoking, drinking or certain types of recreational drugs where the body has a physical addiction... therefore, I would have thought a strong mind-set and will to succeed is probably the most important thing.
That's a big statement to make... and you can't really just say something like that without justifying it.
Granted, a porn addiction is far from a healthy or aspirational thing... but... (to my knowledge, at least), porn addicts don't burgle houses or steal from their friends / family...or mug the elderly / weak / vulnerable... or act really erratically in public, freaking out innocent bystanders... or get behind the wheel of a car and end up killing someone or destroying property.
So come on then, enlighten us... why do you think porn addicts are worse than ANY KIND of drug addict?!?
Agreed (PRSOM BTW).
Assuming the OP is not into illegal stuff, and is not forcing his desires on other people, I don't see how anyone is getting harmed by his addiction, apart from himself.
Sorry, I don't have much more advice to have about quitting; the only contribution I can really make is that it's a psychological addiction. It's not like smoking, drinking or certain types of recreational drugs where the body has a physical addiction... therefore, I would have thought a strong mind-set and will to succeed is probably the most important thing.
Original post by Username123ab
Unironically think porn addicts are worse than any kind of drug addict
That's a big statement to make... and you can't really just say something like that without justifying it.
Granted, a porn addiction is far from a healthy or aspirational thing... but... (to my knowledge, at least), porn addicts don't burgle houses or steal from their friends / family...or mug the elderly / weak / vulnerable... or act really erratically in public, freaking out innocent bystanders... or get behind the wheel of a car and end up killing someone or destroying property.
So come on then, enlighten us... why do you think porn addicts are worse than ANY KIND of drug addict?!?
Original post by NeoIan
Thats not a kind thing to say though is it to the poster? And doesnt help either.... Drug addicts cause other issues such as supporting illegal supply chains and also cause significant pain to themselves and others. Porn i would say although is having effect on the producers of it, does not cause medical issues to the greater extent.
Agreed (PRSOM BTW).
Assuming the OP is not into illegal stuff, and is not forcing his desires on other people, I don't see how anyone is getting harmed by his addiction, apart from himself.
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Original post by Anonymous
how clean are you now? I am trying to quit but it lasts a week or two and I relapse. I try and distract myself as much as possible but it's mostly at night when in bed thinking about fapping that's when the craving starts.
If I can get through the morning then I can distract myself for the rest of the day, but mornings are the worst time for me. There's something about clean pants that arouses me and I want to jerk off in them.
It is a shame that the energy that goes into Pornography does not go into find a partner and putting that energy into the Relationship. Porn is just a like being addicted to tobacco, it is slowly "killing" relationships. It is definitely unhealthy.
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