Could things get better?

My sibling is in their early 20s and they're a bit troubled into terms of career and another personal issue. I've tried to help them, but they're just living this sad life style, keeping themselves away from others...they're also taking pot all the time.

As my sibling grows more in their 20's could they snap out of this troubled lifestyle? I sometimes hear stories of people having a rough time in their lives and they later lead better lives with more positive outcomes.

Could the same thing happen to my sibling?

This situation is having an impact on my mental health. My sibling and I grew up in a loving and caring household, we didn't grow up with trauma. Our parents worked hard and did the best for us both.

I don't understand why they're so "hopeless"

Could things with my sibling get better?

Reply 1

Compyjo

Unfortunately there are so many factors and influences at play that their journey is not predictable.

They didn't talk themselves into feeling low and therefore can't talk themselves out of it.

Some kind of snapping out their situation through some kind of ephiphany sounds a bit Hollywood.

You don't sound particularly knowledgeable, empathetic and understanding about what they are going through because you sound judgemental about their sad and wasted life, i.e 'our parents are lovely, he wasn't traumatised (to your knowledge anyway) and his behaviour is having an awful impact on you.

You will be able to find resources on how to support a person going through a tough time which will show you how to be so critical of them and how to understand them better from their perspective rather than yours.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

My sibling is in their early 20s and they're a bit troubled into terms of career and another personal issue. I've tried to help them, but they're just living this sad life style, keeping themselves away from others...they're also taking pot all the time.
As my sibling grows more in their 20's could they snap out of this troubled lifestyle? I sometimes hear stories of people having a rough time in their lives and they later lead better lives with more positive outcomes.
Could the same thing happen to my sibling?
This situation is having an impact on my mental health. My sibling and I grew up in a loving and caring household, we didn't grow up with trauma. Our parents worked hard and did the best for us both.
I don't understand why they're so "hopeless"
Could things with my sibling get better?

They could snap out of their lifestyle - but it will be hard.
The best thing you could do is support your sibling and try your best to convince them to get therapy.
If your sibling really is living the lifestyle you described then please understand that their mental health must be very bad plus you dont know , they might have experienced trauma in some point of their life. I know it might be affecting your mental health aswell but just understand that their mental health is worse atm. When supporting your sibling look at it from their perspective, how are they feeling right now? Overall please dont compare your mental health to theirs, and furthermore try talk to them about seeking professional help.