My ex has posted his new gf after a week of being offical

I’m questioning how he felt about me. He was that person who didn’t post on instagram. He would have me on his Instagram highlights but for the final year of our relationship he didn’t post me once. He’s met a new girl at uni after we broke up and got all caught up in uni life and done an actual post with her. I feel worthless

Reply 1

nonchalant-

Stop checking for him, block him and your feelings won't get hurt.

Reply 2

s1enn5

out of sight out of mind baby. when you acknowledge your self worth, you realise men like those are nothing but a waste of time. see this as a learning experience and be grateful the universe took him out of your life, it will bring in someone who will love you above and beyond because you are deserving. take advantage of this opportunity and upgrade your life. remember what goes around comes around! such is the nature of karma

xo

Reply 3

username7144506

Original post by Anonymous

Sounds like a rebound thing to be honest.

Reply 4

Zarek

Relationships are best and worst moments. There is both a right person and a right time to settle down. When things don’t work out it doesn’t mean that the good times meant nothing. Call upon friends, take up new pursuits, get on the hunt for new love

(edited 5 months ago)

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Original post by hairyswordsman

Sounds like a rebound thing to be honest.

Even if he was messaging her before he even broke up with me? I remeber the day before breaking up he kept going to the toilet for ages with his phone

Reply 6

JVorJrose

Original post by hairyswordsman

Sounds like a rebound thing to be honest.

I second this, he wouldn’t normally do that as he doesn’t normally post. He has only just done that to get over the break up even more and make you feel bad about yourself, but you should not. Do not feel worthless OP, he has got nothing on you. He’s not worth you, he’s done it on purpose to cope, forget about him and focus on yourself your wealth and your health and when he sees that happenin he’ll post even more cah he’ll be ****ed, and basically will try to get your attention but you would have moved onto greener pastures, trust in the process🙏

Reply 7

Dunnig Kruger

"I feel worthless"

That's hyperbolic! It's also fuzzy labelling.
What you were is unattractive to your ex in the final stages of your relationship with him.

This is something that you can fix easily. Like overnight. By this time tomorrow. So that it doesn't happen again.

Here's a couple of important concepts:

People like people who are how they'd like to be.

Mental and emotional strength is attractive. Mental and emotional weakness is unattractive.

Most people would like to be happy, joyful, at ease in social situations, doing a job or studying something that they enjoy, where they enjoy the process of the work or study.
Taking yourself and your life less seriously than you have done up till now would be a huge step towards you becoming the sort of person that other people would like to be. Especially if you combine it with positivity, enthusiasm, get up and go, getting on and getting things done.

Whenever you're presented with 2 possible paths you can take - especially in a dating or relationship context - take the emotionally and mentally stronger path. Keep doing this till it becomes an automatic part of who and what you are.

What's emotionally stronger? To feel happy for your ex that he has a new girlfriend? Or to let him having a new girlfriend ruin your good mood?

The sub-text to all this is that you can treat this whole episode as something to help you mature as a person (positive spin on this). Or you can revert to immature toddler mode for processing this (negative spin).