I can't decide whether to go to prom, please help me!! It's in 3 days.

I went to my first prom when I was 16 and had an AMAZING time and really looked forward to my next one. But I am 18 now and my second ever prom is in 3 days. I have been really unwell so have gained so much weight that I no longer feel comfortable in my body, my feet are swollen and have big blisters so I am worried I will not be able to dance and walk in heels, I'm not friends with anyone who is going to this prom so I'm really worried about being awkward and lonely, and I have no dress. I am looking desperately for something to wear, but I feel too fat, and my religious parents are only happy with dresses that are SO UGLY they make me want to throw up, they're practically worse than just wearing a sack. I have already paid for prom and will unlikely get a refund, but I can't decide if I want to go anymore, what should I do? Please help me, it's in 3 days!! I haven't bought a dress yet, so I haven't spent any money on that, but I feel torn about not going as I feel like I will miss out and was really looking forward to it, as this would be my last opportunity to go to prom. Please help me!

I went to my first prom when I was 16 and had an AMAZING time and really looked forward to my next one. But I am 18 now and my second ever prom is in 3 days. I have been really unwell so have gained so much weight that I no longer feel comfortable in my body, my feet are swollen and have big blisters so I am worried I will not be able to dance and walk in heels, I'm not friends with anyone who is going to this prom so I'm really worried about being awkward and lonely, and I have no dress. I am looking desperately for something to wear, but I feel too fat, and my religious parents are only happy with dresses that are SO UGLY they make me want to throw up, they're practically worse than just wearing a sack. I have already paid for prom and will unlikely get a refund, but I can't decide if I want to go anymore, what should I do? Please help me, it's in 3 days!! I haven't bought a dress yet, so I haven't spent any money on that, but I feel torn about not going as I feel like I will miss out and was really looking forward to it, as this would be my last opportunity to go to prom. Please help me!

I will repeat the comment above me and say that you don’t have to wear heels!! If you want to dance then prioritise your fun and enjoyment over an additional 2 inches of height!
Also you can wear what you want to prom, my bff wore a suit, other people wore a jumpsuit (which is an amazing option for comfort and style and glam btw would recommend), wear whatever is comfortable for you.
If, however, you rly can’t find anything and it’s too late to find anything then you are under no obligation to go, obviously it’s a bit annoying after you’ve paid but if you’re not comfortable going then you shouldn’t feel forced to

Thank you for all your replies everyone! I think I may have found a dress that's very plain, and is just totally black, but at least I have one. I'm just really worried about going with no friends. What do I do without friends? It's a sit down dinner I think with lots of photobooths etc. but if I am alone, what will I do there all night? I am also worried I will feel very self-conscious and embarrassed on my own looking fat with an ugly dress, whilst everyone around me is skinny and pretty and is having the times of their lives getting drunk etc (which I can't do due to health reasons). Sorry for such a long rant, I'm just really worried and don't know what to do, I don't want to live in regret, but have no idea what to do. Please help!

Thank you for your replies! I think I have decided to go, and I have found another dress that's very outdated and looks like a prom dress that would be more appropriate to wear in like the 2000's and I look really fat wearing it, so I feel silly wearing it, but there's no other choice now. I am just really worried about being on my own, as I have no friends going and it is 5 hours long of just a buffet and dancing. I am bad at dancing and have foot injuries so I don't think I can dance, and I also struggle with an eating disorder (I also feel super self-conscious eating in front of people and I just generally starve myself) so I'm really worried about the buffet. Any advice for going completely alone with no friends and about the buffet situation? Also I am being forced to wear something super ugly over the dress which I intend to take off as soon as I get there, but I would be in MASSIVE trouble if they ever found out that I took it off, which they might as the school takes photos of the prom, but I'm not sure if parents receive them. Any advice? Thank you for all the help!

hey guys I just wanted to come back and thank all of you for your advice and being so kind! I ended up going and even though my dress was a bit ugly, I was really happy with my makeup and everyone was super nice and I got lots of compliments! I had a really great time, so thank you so much for encouraging me to go! all of my worries turned out to be non-issues, such as the buffet which I managed to handle well, which I am really proud of myself for. I had a great time so thank you everyone!

Aww so happy that it went ok for you 😊😊

Hey I just wanted to put an update here in case anyone who feels the same way I did, like you're fat, ugly and worthless and is reading this needs some hope.
I've come so far since prom and I'm really glad I went because it gave me confidence I have used for the future. I am now at my DREAM UNI, have been clubbing and drinking and partying, had amazing fun every day, had loads and loads of boys come up and express attraction in me, ask for my number try to buy me a drink or ask me on a date. I find it very strange as I still don't feel attractive, but I had my first kiss and lots of other experiences I NEVER THOUGHT could be possible, and life has changed so much from then. I somehow stumbled into a boy who I wasn't even interested in but he pursues me, tells me I'm pretty, kisses me and is so sweet, coming to help me anytime I need help and whenever we're drunk we meet up and just lay in bed and cuddle and its just so amazing - I never thought Id experience any of this because I hated the way I looked SO SO SO MUCH and I still kind of do. Although I doubt it, but if anyone is reading this thread and is considering not going to some event because of the way they look, please please go, I am so glad that I have put myself out there despite hating the way I look, and it has lead to some AMAZING experiences.

Hi, great to hear this! So nice that you got into your dream uni; I'm jealous lol. Thanks for updating/encouraging and I hope your self-confidence continues to grow 🥰

thank you, I hope so too. tbh I am being bullied by a lot of people, but the people who are nice to me right now seem to think it's because they're jealous of me, which I could never beleive but idk I guess!