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My girlfriend is cheating, but I kind of like it?

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Reply 40

Original post by NeoIan
well maybe - but if she is sleeping with him then from a hygene pov u should know right ? is she sleeping with you both ?

We've not properly had sex in about a month

Reply 41

Original post by Anonymous
Would you mind sharing what your family circumstances growing up were? This may explain your somewhat unusual approach.

Pretty normal. My parents are together.

Reply 42

Would you comfortable with your parents having the sort of relationship you are considering? Think about whether this something you could live with long term. She is not fulfilled solely by you and at some point she may decide to leave altogether.

Reply 43

Original post by Anonymous
You say that it is a big turn on knowing that she is getting the big D from another guy and you are good with that talk to her. Start talking to her letting her know that you are not mad and that it turns you on a lot of girls like that. You are going to talk about if she can do it can you do it. Some women love when their partner watches.
What does your girlfriend look like ??

She's really beautiful. Slim, big brown eyes, pale skin, brunette hair.

How do I start that conversation with her?

Reply 44

Original post by ShropshireLad
She's really beautiful. Slim, big brown eyes, pale skin, brunette hair.
How do I start that conversation with her?

You make a light conversation about it, but if you know her well you know how ? just say it.

Reply 45

The strongest relationship is the open relationship. The cheating can't ruin them.

Reply 46

Original post by NeoIan
You make a light conversation about it, but if you know her well you know how ? just say it.

We know a couple who have threesomes. I was thinking of mentioning them, kind of making a joke about it, and then seeing if that gets a conversation started.

Neither of us had sex before we got together as she came from quite a conservative family so I know she is curious about this stuff but kind of repressed.

Reply 47

Original post by Slowpoke99
The strongest relationship is the open relationship. The cheating can't ruin them.

That's a good way of thinking about it and I think I'd be really happy for the relationship to be open for her. Do you have any experience?

Reply 48

Original post by Slowpoke99
The strongest relationship is the open relationship. The cheating can't ruin them.

An open relationship is hardly a relationship

Reply 49

depends on the other guy as well - whats he gonna do and think?

Reply 50

Original post by ShropshireLad
That's a good way of thinking about it and I think I'd be really happy for the relationship to be open for her. Do you have any experience?

Personally, I don't. But I have friends who are in an open relationship and they are happy. I even know some businessmen paying money to other men for having sex with their partner/GF. Jelousy is a big kink and turn on.

Reply 51

Original post by tellizard
An open relationship is hardly a relationship

It's a different kind of relationships or a new level of relationship.
(edited 1 year ago)

Reply 52

Yep it’s a kink basically but then it’s a portal to basically insanity so be careful 🙂

Reply 53

Original post by NeoIan
Yep it’s a kink basically but then it’s a portal to basically insanity so be careful 🙂


Classic comment.

Reply 54

Original post by Slowpoke99
It's a different kind of relationships or a new level of relationship.


It’s a relationship where both members are not completely fulfilled by each other…….

Reply 55

Original post by Slowpoke99
Personally, I don't. But I have friends who are in an open relationship and they are happy. I even know some businessmen paying money to other men for having sex with their partner/GF. Jelousy is a big kink and turn on.

Yeh I get that. It's a really big turn on for me tbh. It's hard to describe why but it is.

Reply 56

Original post by Anonymous
It’s a relationship where both members are not completely fulfilled by each other…….

Why do you have to try and possess your partner and be the only one she can turn to to fulfill all her needs? We don't do that with most needs, so why sexual needs?

Reply 57

Original post by Anonymous
And doubts as to future paternity

The guy I think she is seeing isn't the same race as us so it would be easy to tell.

Reply 58

Original post by ShropshireLad
Yeh I get that. It's a really big turn on for me tbh. It's hard to describe why but it is.

How do you envisage it playing out?

Reply 59

Original post by ageshallnot
How do you envisage it playing out?

I'm not sure. Maybe as a threesome but more with me just watching? Maybe her having 'date nights' with him when she needs something more sexually raw and then telling me about it afterwards.

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