My girlfriend is cheating, but I kind of like it?

well hang on though isnt this her causing this bim ? shes basically having a bit of both and shrop lad is enjoying the idea of it. Theres no bad treatment of the females here ....

No need for that - we dont shut down people do we as thats why society is going bad right now - no ones allowed to say anything anymore. Shrop lad is our freind, he has some issues with his lady freind, and yes to some of us hes being a little less than the man we think he should be ..however - thats part of the fun in talking about it for him no ?

wow this gets deeper - and more interesting like a sit com... just please do something here and talk to her and find out whats gonna pan out ok? I cant bear the suspecnce to be honest.
Get a spy to find out if they are up to something...

When you say talk to her do you mean ask if she's cheating or tell her I fantasise about it?

We definitely do not watch the same sitcoms.
On a basic level there is nothing wrong with the OP being turned on by this or having these kinds of fetishes. These sorts of kinks are increasingly common and there are plenty of relationships where it works perfectly well. It's also perfectly fine for a man who is 'masculine' in day to day life to be more submissive sexually. It's common for one person to be more submissive or dominant than the other when it comes to sex, or indeed for one or both to be both submissive and dominant from time to time. It all comes down to what gives individuals and couples pleasure within a relationship. There are endless different ways to do it, and there's nothing wrong with any of it.
There is, however, a big problem here, and that is that in order for these sorts of things to work in practice, it requires very clear and careful communication. Most people don't get out of the fantasy phase with this sort of thing, and the OP hasn't yet either. Being submissive sexually doesn't mean you're submissive within the relationship as a whole, nor does it mean you're not equal within a relationship. Partners should absolutely be equal in any relationship. Being submissive or dominant doesn't affect that. Everything needs to be clear and consensual. That is not an easy thing to establish.
In the first instance the OP has to talk to his girlfriend about this. It simply cannot continue like this with him suspecting her of cheating and being turned on by it. It's not sustainable for any length of time. Whether she is cheating or not, he needs to establish the sort of relationship that he wants, and she needs to be on board with that. That doesn't mean immediately specifying everything to the smallest detail. It takes time to figure that out, and progress in that regard should be gradual with, as I say, very clear communication. But his girlfriend needs to at least be attracted to the idea of it. She may not be, in which case the relationship is certainly over if she is cheating on him. If she isn't it just becomes a fantasy again that she can play into or not, and if she doesn't want to go further with it then the OP has to decide if it's a deal breaker for him.
It really isn't that complicated. It requires the OP to think properly about what he wants, and it requires him to communicate with his girlfriend. In other words, it's basically like every other issue in a relationship.

"On a basic level there is nothing wrong with the OP being turned on by this or having these kinds of fetishes. These sorts of kinks are increasingly common and there are plenty of relationships where it works perfectly well."
Nowadays people tend to be so open minded their ******* brains fall out with with regards to sexual stuff. what ever happened to going to church?

The OP is probably a vicar! 😆

lol omg ))

Thanks for the thoughtful reply, but I don't see why me providing the emotional and mental support to her has to come with sexual control. We are both feminists and that perspective of me owning her body is not something I agree with. Our sex life has always had me more in a submissive role anyway. I'm not afraid to be called nice or a white knight.
If being a cheat makes her such a terrible person I should give her the opportunity to make things right and make things open and honest in our relationship again. But I don't want her to feel sexually limited and controlled. I just have to find the best way to do that. I don't know if asking her if she wants to try a threesome or something is the best way to do it.

Maybe she's not been open about this because there is so much social pressure and stigma about monogamy?

We've not properly had sex in about a month

We know a couple who have threesomes. I was thinking of mentioning them, kind of making a joke about it, and then seeing if that gets a conversation started.
Neither of us had sex before we got together as she came from quite a conservative family so I know she is curious about this stuff but kind of repressed.

Why do you have to try and possess your partner and be the only one she can turn to to fulfill all her needs? We don't do that with most needs, so why sexual needs?

I'm not sure. Maybe as a threesome but more with me just watching? Maybe her having 'date nights' with him when she needs something more sexually raw and then telling me about it afterwards.

Why though? Why try to be dominant? Why pretend to be something I'm not?

Fair comments Jamie, and i get your POV, i just dont think its healthy sorry, but maybe im more old school. And caring about Shrops I personally wouldnt chase this girl in this way... just my angle.

Nowadays people tend to be so open minded their ******* brains fall out with with regards to sexual stuff. what ever happened to going to church?

No. I'm straight, I think.

Hi, I'm 24 (male) and my is girlfriend (21) and we both live in the UK. I really really love her and she is wonderful and extremely attractive and charismatic but I'm 95% sure she is cheating on me. She's spending a huge amount of time with this guy from her gym. They started working out together a lot (which is very physically intimate) and now she is going out socializing with him. She dolls herself up to go out with him basically like she's going on a date. She has lost a lot of sexual interest in me and when she has seen him she comes back with that 'Ive just been f**ked kind of aura. She's still very kind and loving with me and otherwise our relationship is still perfect. I haven't had the courage to ask her yet.
But the strange thing is, I'm not even that angry. In fact, and I know this will sound weird, but the thought of her being with him is such a turn on. The last few times she went out with him I spent most of the time at home masturbating. I almost don't want it to stop.
I know this sounds weird but what should I do? Should I just break up with her? But I feel she may be the one and I'll never have such a beautiful girl again? What should I say to her? Help?

Hi, I'm 24 (male) and my is girlfriend (21) and we both live in the UK. I really really love her and she is wonderful and extremely attractive and charismatic but I'm 95% sure she is cheating on me. She's spending a huge amount of time with this guy from her gym. They started working out together a lot (which is very physically intimate) and now she is going out socializing with him. She dolls herself up to go out with him basically like she's going on a date. She has lost a lot of sexual interest in me and when she has seen him she comes back with that 'Ive just been f**ked kind of aura. She's still very kind and loving with me and otherwise our relationship is still perfect. I haven't had the courage to ask her yet.
But the strange thing is, I'm not even that angry. In fact, and I know this will sound weird, but the thought of her being with him is such a turn on. The last few times she went out with him I spent most of the time at home masturbating. I almost don't want it to stop.
I know this sounds weird but what should I do? Should I just break up with her? But I feel she may be the one and I'll never have such a beautiful girl again? What should I say to her? Help?

Is this thread still going, whats the update from the scene ?🙂

What was the outcome here please ?

I think you’ve just discovered that you have a cuckoldery kink. There’s still a risk of her replacing you with this other man and breaking up with you, I think it’s worth discussing this with her tbh and be very honest with eachother. Maybe it will give you a chance to open up new doors to the relationship and have an open relationship or something.

no you're not

I though being a cuck was an insult right wing people use? I didn't think it was a real thing.