My girlfriend is cheating, but I kind of like it?

Reply 100

Anonymous #2

Original post by ShropshireLad

Why?

I suspect you’ll discover at your threesome😂

Reply 101

NeoIan

13

Original post by ShropshireLad

I've talked to my girlfriend, without letting on a was suspicious about anything, about suggesting a threesome or something else like that. She loves the idea and is really excited. She says she is going to think about who we should involve.
I was really nervous about talking to her about it but as usual she was so lovely and made it all really easy. I'm so lucky to have her.

Wow ok thanks for the update Shropshire lad , when you say who you will involve ? Surely just you and the guy - what is this an orgy haha

Reply 102

Anonymous #6

Original post by ShropshireLad

I though being a cuck was an insult right wing people use? I didn't think it was a real thing.

Well it’s the same as using gay as an insult, the initial use of the word isn’t meant to be insulting. It comes from this double standard sexism that guys who share a girl are scolded and called cucks (derogatory) but women sharing a man are concubines and he’s a player winning at life.

Reply 103

NeoIan

13

I wouldnt worry about the words used or clarification of such practice to be honest guys - let try and solve this situation for our friend the shropshire lad, other wise we get into a scenario of wokeness over practicality.
There shouldnt be anyone here being mean about anyone or using derogatory language about anyone simple as, Shorpshire lad is struggling with a situation and seems to be ok to share his gf so there it is.

Reply 104

ShropshireLad

OP

4

Original post by NeoIan

Wow ok thanks for the update Shropshire lad , when you say who you will involve ? Surely just you and the guy - what is this an orgy haha

Well, I guess she'll pick him. I'm not entirely sure. I will speak to her about it soon.

Reply 105

ShropshireLad

OP

4

Original post by Anonymous

Well it’s the same as using gay as an insult, the initial use of the word isn’t meant to be insulting. It comes from this double standard sexism that guys who share a girl are scolded and called cucks (derogatory) but women sharing a man are concubines and he’s a player winning at life.

Yeh, I'm trying to rise about that kind of sexist attitude. Cuckolding should be looked at positively if it's breaking down gender bias in the way open relationships work.

Reply 106

NeoIan

13

Original post by ShropshireLad

Well, I guess she'll pick him. I'm not entirely sure. I will speak to her about it soon.

What do you mean she will pick him though, I thought you said she was open to your ideas for a threesome ?

Reply 107

Dunnig Kruger

20

Original post by ShropshireLad

I've talked to my girlfriend, without letting on a was suspicious about anything, about suggesting a threesome or something else like that. She loves the idea and is really excited. She says she is going to think about who we should involve.
I was really nervous about talking to her about it but as usual she was so lovely and made it all really easy. I'm so lucky to have her.

That was a sensible move for you to keep your suspicions to yourself.

That's a bad sign that you're nervous talking to her about stuff.
Maybe you need to go through the cycle of falling in love, having a relationship, separating and falling in love with a different person a few times. When you've done that you should feel quite at ease discussing intimate stuff with people you've been intimate with.

Being lovely with words when you're feeling guilty is sooo easy.
She has not been lovely with her actions. She's been the opposite. Having sex with another and not telling you about it.
She has behaved in a deeply selfish and disrespectful way towards you.

In addition, when was the last time the 2 of you made love with each other? What sort of frequency are you making love with each other? Is your sex life with her still non-existent?

There is nothing lucky about having a girlfriend that cheats on you and stops having sex with you.
It's actually an awful situation you're in and she's a rotten girlfriend.

If you never draw boundaries people will take advantage of you and fail to respect you.
She's free to do whatever she wants. But your boundary should be that you're NOT going to sit there and be a victim. You're going to go out and get yourself a better girlfriend than her.

Original post by ShropshireLad

Well, I guess she'll pick him. I'm not entirely sure. I will speak to her about it soon.

When you speak to her about it, put it to her that it will be 2 girls and 1 boy.
If she insists on 2 boys 1 girl, you counter with 2 girls 1 boy first time, 2 boys 1 girl 2nd time.

If she won't agree to that, call the whole thing off.

Original post by ShropshireLad

Yeh, I'm trying to rise about that kind of sexist attitude. Cuckolding should be looked at positively if it's breaking down gender bias in the way open relationships work.

Cuckolding, in the vast majority of cases - including yours - does nothing to rise above sexist attitudes and does nothing to break down gender bias in the way open relationships work.

The only thing that cuckolding is doing in your case is to give your girlfriend some pleasure and excitement and to massively reduce the quality of your relationship with her. So much so that it's not worth continuing with her at all - due to the massive loss of respect, admiration, attraction she has for you.

You being cuckolded has not made the world a better place at all. It's just a sordid affair involving 3 people.

Reply 108

Anonymous #6

Original post by ShropshireLad

Yeh, I'm trying to rise about that kind of sexist attitude. Cuckolding should be looked at positively if it's breaking down gender bias in the way open relationships work.

Keep in mind though that it’s still a tricky situation since, even though you’re into it, your gf is still being disrespectful by cheating. That’s why it’s important to discuss with her very candidly to see why she’s cheating and whether the relationship will still work for her. If she’s honest about still wanting to be with you you can discuss an open relationship but be realistic in your expectations. All the best brother.

Reply 109

ShropshireLad

OP

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Ok so I know a lot of you are going to think I'm crazy but we have arranged a meet soon for him to come round for pizza. I'm crazy nervous and crazy excited!

Reply 110

ageshallnot

21

Original post by ShropshireLad

Ok so I know a lot of you are going to think I'm crazy but we have arranged a meet soon for him to come round for pizza. I'm crazy nervous and crazy excited!

Pizza? Meat feast, presumably?!?!?

Reply 111

NeoIan

13

lol is this for real 🙂 Shropshire lad ? Or are you making it up haha

Reply 112

Anonymous #7

Original post by ShropshireLad

Hi, I'm 24 (male) and my is girlfriend (21) and we both live in the UK. I really really love her and she is wonderful and extremely attractive and charismatic but I'm 95% sure she is cheating on me. She's spending a huge amount of time with this guy from her gym. They started working out together a lot (which is very physically intimate) and now she is going out socializing with him. She dolls herself up to go out with him basically like she's going on a date. She has lost a lot of sexual interest in me and when she has seen him she comes back with that 'Ive just been f**ked kind of aura. She's still very kind and loving with me and otherwise our relationship is still perfect. I haven't had the courage to ask her yet.
But the strange thing is, I'm not even that angry. In fact, and I know this will sound weird, but the thought of her being with him is such a turn on. The last few times she went out with him I spent most of the time at home masturbating. I almost don't want it to stop.
I know this sounds weird but what should I do? Should I just break up with her? But I feel she may be the one and I'll never have such a beautiful girl again? What should I say to her? Help?

Maybe you have a cuck fetish🤷*♀️🤷*♀️

Reply 113

Dunnig Kruger

20

Original post by ShropshireLad

Ok so I know a lot of you are going to think I'm crazy but we have arranged a meet soon for him to come round for pizza. I'm crazy nervous and crazy excited!

Good for you.

Life at its' best is about experiencing different things.
My personal recommendation would be to keep an open mind. You may find that this sort of thing works well for you. Or you may find it a complete disaster. Or somewhere in the middle. Whatever the outcome, this experiment is worth doing. You'll be older and wiser after it.

Coming back to life at its' best, how often are you and the girlfriend making love with each these days?
If it's never or rarely, your girlfriend is taking the mick. And that's not good.

Reply 114

ShropshireLad

OP

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Original post by ageshallnot

Pizza? Meat feast, presumably?!?!?

Haha well I guess this is just the first step. I don't know if we will do anything the first night or just talk things through and get to know each other.

Reply 115

ShropshireLad

OP

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Original post by Anonymous

Maybe you have a cuck fetish🤷*♀️🤷*♀️

Is that ok?

Reply 116

Anonymous #7

Original post by ShropshireLad

Is that ok?

The fetish itself, no. You just have to find someone who is into that which would be hard but not impossible. Also don’t pressure any future partners into it in the future because I know a few people whose boyfriends that had a cuck fetish forced them into it and it just made them hate their relationship, theirselves and their partners.

Now in this context, the truth your girlfriend is cheating and you shouldn’t be enjoying. If she was aware of the fetish and you both discussed having her sleep with another guy, that would be fine. You both discussed and consented. That however is not what is happening, she is disrespectful you by cheating and even further insulting you by bringing her affair partner to meet you. This situation is not ideal and you truly deserve better. She doesn’t love you and while you might get off from her actions SHE DOESNT LOVE YOU, DOESNT RESPECT YOU AND BABES YOU DESERVE A MILLION TIMES BETTER. You should leave the relationship

But then again, I’m just a stranger from the internet and can’t tell you what to do. The decision truly is yours and I hope you make the best decision for yourself ❤️.

One last thing, don’t ever let my fetish define you. I am sure there is an amazing person behind the lad who enjoys being cuckold

All the best!
Stranger From The Internet ❤️

Reply 117

Anonymous #7

Original post by Anonymous

The fetish itself, no. You just have to find someone who is into that which would be hard but not impossible. Also don’t pressure any future partners into it in the future because I know a few people whose boyfriends that had a cuck fetish forced them into it and it just made them hate their relationship, theirselves and their partners.
Now in this context, the truth your girlfriend is cheating and you shouldn’t be enjoying. If she was aware of the fetish and you both discussed having her sleep with another guy, that would be fine. You both discussed and consented. That however is not what is happening, she is disrespectful you by cheating and even further insulting you by bringing her affair partner to meet you. This situation is not ideal and you truly deserve better. She doesn’t love you and while you might get off from her actions SHE DOESNT LOVE YOU, DOESNT RESPECT YOU AND BABES YOU DESERVE A MILLION TIMES BETTER. You should leave the relationship
But then again, I’m just a stranger from the internet and can’t tell you what to do. The decision truly is yours and I hope you make the best decision for yourself ❤️.
One last thing, don’t ever let my fetish define you. I am sure there is an amazing person behind the lad who enjoys being cuckold
All the best!
Stranger From The Internet ❤️

**** I meant to say that the fetish was okay

“The fetish itself, *yes*”

But I can’t edit it because it is anonymous

Reply 118

ageshallnot

21

Original post by ShropshireLad

Haha well I guess this is just the first step. I don't know if we will do anything the first night or just talk things through and get to know each other.

Or how about extra sausage? 😆

Reply 119

DarylO

18

I have no idea what sort of clownery I just read. I'm speechless. She really picked a doormat. I don't judge cuckolds but healthy open relationships involve consent from both parties PRIOR to any sexual engagements with outsiders. There are clear boundaries and rules. She just cheated, laughed about it in his face, and he invited the guy over for dinner to watch them cheat more.

Also, I don't remember when feminist values about body autonomy involved sleeping around while being in a committed relationship. This feminist sure doesn't do that, and neither do her friends. If this entire post isn't an elaborate joke, OP could be an ad for doormat companies. Goodluck with your future of dining with all the men she cheats with.

I'm out 🚶*♀️

My girlfriend is cheating, but I kind of like it?

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