Advice pls

So I’m here looking for abit of advice if anyone is willing to read. I’m a very reserved person so this is very much outside my comfort zone but I desperately need advice.

So I’ll give you abit of history. This girl who is in my local uni started at my work a little over a year ago and I instantly had a crush on her, nothing really ever came of it until about around 3 months ago where I fixed her car which was more out of kindness than the fact I was into her, after this I fixed problems on her car a number of other times and in these times we spent a lot of time with each other and I was starting to like her more and more each time. We were in daily contact over message and I bit my tongue and asked her out on a date, this is where I found out she also was into me and had been for a while which I was completely oblivious too tbh. Since then we have grown closer and spent alot of time with each other and shared our feelings for each other a number of times and talked about the future. Now here’s the thing she is most likely moving away to complete her degree in 2 months, which would obviously entail a long distance relationship if we were together by then and that’s a very big “if”.
There are a couple of minor things that would prevent that which I don’t want to go into to much detail in as it’s personal information, she’s had a tough year with a couple of things and is only just starting to get back onto her feet mentally, but Is still struggling. Now we’ve talked about this and we’ve talked about our potential future but not come to a conclusion. Me personally whenever she isn’t doing to great I feel bad because I think that I’m just adding to the madness that she’s in, even though each time she reassures me and tells me that me being in the picture is more of a good thing than a bad thing. But to me I still feel undecided, I feel that I’m not helping and morally the best thing I think I can do is end this before one of us gets hurt, I’ve told her this and she didn’t want to end it but also didn’t know what to do so we kinda shrugged it off and decided to go with the flow. She is potentially moving away in 2 months time so I’m starting to feel the deadline more and more, she said at the start if we aren’t in a relationship by then there’s no point in us continuing to talk as it won’t work unless we are in a relationship and that we obviously had a lot more to learn about each other etc.
Before meeting this girl I’d completely given up on trying to find someone. I absolutely adore this girl and have never had feelings this deep for anyone else before so I’m willing to do whatever it takes to make it work, if that means having a long distance relationship or moving away to start a life together I’ll do it. These are all problems and discussions for the future.
A part of me feels that I’m overthinking and another feels that I’m not being real enough.
Now I’m not asking for anyone to decide for me, I’m just asking for some friendly advice. TIA

Reply 1

el.1234

Hey!!
If she’s saying that you’re not adding to the “madness” and doesn’t want to end it, it might be doing her some good having someone there. I feel life is too short to put deadlines on things my advice is take it day by day and try not get in your head about this, take this time to learn about each other more and when the time comes to her moving away then you both can come up with a decision