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Should I leave him or not?

i was supposed to be meeting up with a guy yesterday and he knew we was supposed to be meeting up. i messaged him during the week as a reminder. on the day, we messaged each other until 11am. I messaged him last and he hasn’t replied. i was in another town and went to church and went to have some food with my friends. i missed the train just so i can get back in time for me and him to meet up and go out. i eventually got back and still no reply. we are supposed to be meeting up at 6.30pm and he said he’ll pick me up. 6.30 comes round no response and im waiting. so i decided to message him and he replied when it was 8pm ish. i was frustrated. his response was he got carried away with work with his dad. he could’ve replied and i messaged him saying you could’ve messaged me and I would’ve stopping dressing up I was waiting for you. you could’ve told me this in advance.

we’ve been talking for a a few months and we stopped at some point due to lack of communication. I gave him a second chance. now it’s the morning and I feel guilty so I decided to message him again apologising and hoping we can meet up again. I don’t know what to do. imagine if he ends it because of this? he messaged me back and didn’t apologise, he only said we can meet up another time. I deicided to carry on with the conversation as if nothing happened. I want to bring up the fact he didn’t apologise but I don’t know what I should do.

I’m 20 and the guy is 21
Reply 1
I doubt his attitude is going to improve. Unless he’s got some seriously redeeming features I’d knock it on the head. Plenty more fish after all
Reply 2
I understand him getting carried away with work, but not apologising to you is absolutely dreadful considering he completely wasted your time. I would ask him about the way he went about the situation and if he doesn't redeem himself or if his mannerisms show you that this is who he is as a person he's not worth the trouble at ALL.
Complete waste of time, I think you should get out of this relationship. If he decided to meet you straight away then you could get on knowing each other, but it's clear that he's frustrating you and by not apologizing he doesn't even respect you. I know it's easy to be insecure and not knowing how things work at 20/21, but put yourself first ALWAYS. If people waste your time and don't apologize for mistakes-they don't deserve your time. You need people around you who represent the best parts of you, and people who respect your time and respect you. Take these words with you throughout life and you'll have a robust mindset.
I would speak to him about how you feel. Relationships take a lot of talking about feelings and any conflicts you might have.
The fact he didn’t apologise is dreadful , he’s wasted your time; especially when you reminded him earlier in the week. It shows the respect he has for you. I understand him being busy at work but that never stops a quick message apologising for a delay.

Focus on yourself and always put yourself first. There’s plenty more fish in the sea. But at least it’s happened at the early stages instead of later on in a relationship.
Reply 5
Original post by Anonymous
I would speak to him about how you feel. Relationships take a lot of talking about feelings and any conflicts you might have.
The fact he didn’t apologise is dreadful , he’s wasted your time; especially when you reminded him earlier in the week. It shows the respect he has for you. I understand him being busy at work but that never stops a quick message apologising for a delay.
Focus on yourself and always put yourself first. There’s plenty more fish in the sea. But at least it’s happened at the early stages instead of later on in a relationship.

Thank you for the reply I’ll definitely let him know how I feel
Reply 6
Original post by Anonymous
I would speak to him about how you feel. Relationships take a lot of talking about feelings and any conflicts you might have.
The fact he didn’t apologise is dreadful , he’s wasted your time; especially when you reminded him earlier in the week. It shows the respect he has for you. I understand him being busy at work but that never stops a quick message apologising for a delay.
Focus on yourself and always put yourself first. There’s plenty more fish in the sea. But at least it’s happened at the early stages instead of later on in a relationship.

Thank you very much, I’ll definitely tell him how I feel as this has been dreading on my mind
Original post by timblims
i was supposed to be meeting up with a guy yesterday and he knew we was supposed to be meeting up. i messaged him during the week as a reminder. on the day, we messaged each other until 11am. I messaged him last and he hasn’t replied. i was in another town and went to church and went to have some food with my friends. i missed the train just so i can get back in time for me and him to meet up and go out. i eventually got back and still no reply. we are supposed to be meeting up at 6.30pm and he said he’ll pick me up. 6.30 comes round no response and im waiting. so i decided to message him and he replied when it was 8pm ish. i was frustrated. his response was he got carried away with work with his dad. he could’ve replied and i messaged him saying you could’ve messaged me and I would’ve stopping dressing up I was waiting for you. you could’ve told me this in advance.
we’ve been talking for a a few months and we stopped at some point due to lack of communication. I gave him a second chance. now it’s the morning and I feel guilty so I decided to message him again apologising and hoping we can meet up again. I don’t know what to do. imagine if he ends it because of this? he messaged me back and didn’t apologise, he only said we can meet up another time. I deicided to carry on with the conversation as if nothing happened. I want to bring up the fact he didn’t apologise but I don’t know what I should do.
I’m 20 and the guy is 21

I would simply play it very cool, and decline any meetings he proposes and tell him you are too busy. If he persists THEN maybe accept a new meeting.

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