I am not interested in girls or relationships at all.
Background: I am male 18 years old and I'll be attending university this fall.
For the past five years I've been attending an all boys' school, and this coupled with the fact that I've always been quite introverted means that I've never really been interested in dating and whatnot. Most of my peers already have girlfriends or are actively searching for one, so I'm quite alone in that I'm really not interested in dating one. I was usually too busy with studying to care anyway.
What really brought this to my attention though was attending my school's graduation banquet a few weeks ago. A lot of boys brought girls with them, and I remember feeling so put off by seeing these girls. I couldn't help but feel exhausted when imagining romantic relationships with them. I do find these girls attractive, some very attractive even, and I am 100 percent certain that I'm straight, but I just have no desire for them whatsoever. Again, the idea of dating and anything related instantly makes me feel exhausted. I don't think being in university will help either.
I don't want girls, I have zero interest in sex, I can't imagine being tied down by raising children and having a family. So really, I've been seriously considering staying single for the rest of my life these days - I had always entertained this idea. However, I don't think this is a realistic path. For one, my parents really really really want grandchildren, so I feel that I'll be letting them down if I don't marry. I'm the only child too, so I'm their only hope. I'd hate to see them lonely and sad as they grow old. I also really don't want to die alone, and I'd really want to have someone close to me when I pass. Plus, the idea of not having any descendants just sounds so depressing. I mean, I'd be happy if I can just undergo mitosis and have children that way, but I don't think that's very likely to happen.
What do I freaking do?
For the past five years I've been attending an all boys' school, and this coupled with the fact that I've always been quite introverted means that I've never really been interested in dating and whatnot. Most of my peers already have girlfriends or are actively searching for one, so I'm quite alone in that I'm really not interested in dating one. I was usually too busy with studying to care anyway.
What really brought this to my attention though was attending my school's graduation banquet a few weeks ago. A lot of boys brought girls with them, and I remember feeling so put off by seeing these girls. I couldn't help but feel exhausted when imagining romantic relationships with them. I do find these girls attractive, some very attractive even, and I am 100 percent certain that I'm straight, but I just have no desire for them whatsoever. Again, the idea of dating and anything related instantly makes me feel exhausted. I don't think being in university will help either.
I don't want girls, I have zero interest in sex, I can't imagine being tied down by raising children and having a family. So really, I've been seriously considering staying single for the rest of my life these days - I had always entertained this idea. However, I don't think this is a realistic path. For one, my parents really really really want grandchildren, so I feel that I'll be letting them down if I don't marry. I'm the only child too, so I'm their only hope. I'd hate to see them lonely and sad as they grow old. I also really don't want to die alone, and I'd really want to have someone close to me when I pass. Plus, the idea of not having any descendants just sounds so depressing. I mean, I'd be happy if I can just undergo mitosis and have children that way, but I don't think that's very likely to happen.
What do I freaking do?
You don't have to do anything. It's a long life and you may well feel differently down the line.
I'm in the same only child boat, I'm older but still with little/no intent of kids and I do feel a little pressure for grandkids, but no, you don't bring kids into the world to appease others with the novelty - if parents are lonely there's other options.
As for descendants - meh, I don't see what's so special about my genetics and with medical and genetic science the way it is we're hardly on the edge of extinction, I feel I should be able to look beyond my biological urge to procreate for species survival. I'd quite like someone who loved me enough to look after me a bit in my end years, but that's just selfishness really.
I'm in the same only child boat, I'm older but still with little/no intent of kids and I do feel a little pressure for grandkids, but no, you don't bring kids into the world to appease others with the novelty - if parents are lonely there's other options.
As for descendants - meh, I don't see what's so special about my genetics and with medical and genetic science the way it is we're hardly on the edge of extinction, I feel I should be able to look beyond my biological urge to procreate for species survival. I'd quite like someone who loved me enough to look after me a bit in my end years, but that's just selfishness really.
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Background: I am male 18 years old and I'll be attending university this fall.
For the past five years I've been attending an all boys' school, and this coupled with the fact that I've always been quite introverted means that I've never really been interested in dating and whatnot. Most of my peers already have girlfriends or are actively searching for one, so I'm quite alone in that I'm really not interested in dating one. I was usually too busy with studying to care anyway.
What really brought this to my attention though was attending my school's graduation banquet a few weeks ago. A lot of boys brought girls with them, and I remember feeling so put off by seeing these girls. I couldn't help but feel exhausted when imagining romantic relationships with them. I do find these girls attractive, some very attractive even, and I am 100 percent certain that I'm straight, but I just have no desire for them whatsoever. Again, the idea of dating and anything related instantly makes me feel exhausted. I don't think being in university will help either.
I don't want girls, I have zero interest in sex, I can't imagine being tied down by raising children and having a family. So really, I've been seriously considering staying single for the rest of my life these days - I had always entertained this idea. However, I don't think this is a realistic path. For one, my parents really really really want grandchildren, so I feel that I'll be letting them down if I don't marry. I'm the only child too, so I'm their only hope. I'd hate to see them lonely and sad as they grow old. I also really don't want to die alone, and I'd really want to have someone close to me when I pass. Plus, the idea of not having any descendants just sounds so depressing. I mean, I'd be happy if I can just undergo mitosis and have children that way, but I don't think that's very likely to happen.
What do I freaking do?
For the past five years I've been attending an all boys' school, and this coupled with the fact that I've always been quite introverted means that I've never really been interested in dating and whatnot. Most of my peers already have girlfriends or are actively searching for one, so I'm quite alone in that I'm really not interested in dating one. I was usually too busy with studying to care anyway.
What really brought this to my attention though was attending my school's graduation banquet a few weeks ago. A lot of boys brought girls with them, and I remember feeling so put off by seeing these girls. I couldn't help but feel exhausted when imagining romantic relationships with them. I do find these girls attractive, some very attractive even, and I am 100 percent certain that I'm straight, but I just have no desire for them whatsoever. Again, the idea of dating and anything related instantly makes me feel exhausted. I don't think being in university will help either.
I don't want girls, I have zero interest in sex, I can't imagine being tied down by raising children and having a family. So really, I've been seriously considering staying single for the rest of my life these days - I had always entertained this idea. However, I don't think this is a realistic path. For one, my parents really really really want grandchildren, so I feel that I'll be letting them down if I don't marry. I'm the only child too, so I'm their only hope. I'd hate to see them lonely and sad as they grow old. I also really don't want to die alone, and I'd really want to have someone close to me when I pass. Plus, the idea of not having any descendants just sounds so depressing. I mean, I'd be happy if I can just undergo mitosis and have children that way, but I don't think that's very likely to happen.
What do I freaking do?
You don't have to have kids in a relationship you don't have to have a girlfriend either it's your life choose your path and don't let other convince you to take a different one but know its good to try new things as well
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