Should men with an unmanageable pornography addiction give up on dating?

Anonymous #1

Thoughts?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Seek therapy or some sort of counselling.it can be cured

Reply 2

Old Skool Freak

Depends.

If they're into some really freaky dangerous stuff (e.g. violent porn), then yes! The last thing anyone in their right mind would want that individual acting out that nasty s*** on any poor unsuspecting human being.

Some people seem to think mainstream porn is completely harmless, but it can give the addict an unrealistic expectation of sex (both in terms of how attractive the models are, and the "performance" they give)… that it becomes impossible for a normal girl to be able to satisfy you sexually.

On the other hand, if it's a case of you can't resist a "5 Knuckle Shuffle" every night, then this is different. It's fairly normal (especially for hormonal teenagers lol)… However, IMHO, the real thing should always be a better option if it's available to you. If you compare sex to hunger, I would liken masturbation (porn) and actual sexual intercourse like comparing a jam sandwich with a gromet meal. Therefore, if you're passing up opportunities of real sex, in favour of watching porn, then it's a problem.

In either case, as with any other addition, I would suggest getting help if you feel it's taking over your life

Reply 3

Anonymous #3

Not give up, but people with addictions should sort themselves out first before involving other people. Therapy…

Reply 4

Foxehh

Maybe not give up but definitely be open from the start with any partners. Some people might be up for sticking with you through recovery and others might not be for obvious reasons. It would definitely be easier to get a handle on it before focusing on dating though.

Reply 5

StriderHort

Yeah pretty much, if you've given up on the idea of 'managing' it.

Reply 6

JDINCINERATOR

No, all that needs to happen is the partner needs to know about it and that the men have no designs on these women. I guess men will try to do what they do in private, but really I think if women didn't like it then they could do everything in their power to be all the man thinks about in this regard.

Reply 7

Username123ab

Yes, I immediately shut porn watchers out of my dating pool lmao. Good way to catch them out is to ask “what kind of porn do you watch?” Instead of “do you watch porn?”. That way they think you’re the “cool girl” (read, okay with being degraded) and let their guards down and I can spring it on them that I have higher self worth than subjecting myself to dating a porn watcher.