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I like a girl but i am not her type

I have known this girl for the past 3 months and she lives half an hour away. I started talking to her because a friend added her on snapchat from my phone (ik it sounds weird). That friend used to talk to her and she liked him but he didn't like her back. He is my height so not so high has black curly hair and didn't even care a little bit about her, while i have straight brownish hair and not really the best looking. But i do ask her how she is and always try to lighten the mood. At the start when we started talking she seemed interested and was flirting and stuff but a few days later she just talked about my classmate (The guy she was into) I comforted her and she got kinda over it now. So i was her shoulder to cry on. I fell for here there but my heart shattered when she started talking about other guys and that she will go on a third date with a guy. That was for her short lived because the guy said he doesn't want to go even tho they planned it. She then asked me what to do. I said do what you think is right. She later ended things with him and send me a screenshot of him from instagram. He is really similar to my classmate she was into. Last week she started talking to yet another dude and i snapped. I wasnt angry on text but she caught up that something was wrong. I kept telling her nothing was but she wasnt sure i also started having longer response times. I usually texted her back the same minute but i texted her back every two hours or so. I am now starting to talk to her again but she seems really different and distant. She just doesnt want to tell me anything about her and i am getting worried i messed up big time. This is also my first time since i was usually a really shy dude. She even offered to call but i pretended i was busy because i was scared to talk to her. I then hinted to her that she can call if she wants but she never did. I dont know what to do and i am extremely sorry that i wrote such a detailed story. I just wanted to write out what i feel. Please help me.

Reply 1

Original post by Anonymous
I have known this girl for the past 3 months and she lives half an hour away. I started talking to her because a friend added her on snapchat from my phone (ik it sounds weird). That friend used to talk to her and she liked him but he didn't like her back. He is my height so not so high has black curly hair and didn't even care a little bit about her, while i have straight brownish hair and not really the best looking. But i do ask her how she is and always try to lighten the mood. At the start when we started talking she seemed interested and was flirting and stuff but a few days later she just talked about my classmate (The guy she was into) I comforted her and she got kinda over it now. So i was her shoulder to cry on. I fell for here there but my heart shattered when she started talking about other guys and that she will go on a third date with a guy. That was for her short lived because the guy said he doesn't want to go even tho they planned it. She then asked me what to do. I said do what you think is right. She later ended things with him and send me a screenshot of him from instagram. He is really similar to my classmate she was into. Last week she started talking to yet another dude and i snapped. I wasnt angry on text but she caught up that something was wrong. I kept telling her nothing was but she wasnt sure i also started having longer response times. I usually texted her back the same minute but i texted her back every two hours or so. I am now starting to talk to her again but she seems really different and distant. She just doesnt want to tell me anything about her and i am getting worried i messed up big time. This is also my first time since i was usually a really shy dude. She even offered to call but i pretended i was busy because i was scared to talk to her. I then hinted to her that she can call if she wants but she never did. I dont know what to do and i am extremely sorry that i wrote such a detailed story. I just wanted to write out what i feel. Please help me.

Maybe she really likes you . I would simply get the courage to ask her whether she would like to go somewhere on a weekend (say bowling or something) make anything up just see whether she says yes or no. That way you might get time to talk etc.

Reply 2

Leave the ball in her court and see what happens. Look for other love interests. Setbacks in dating are the norm, you have to roll with it

Reply 3

bro you got this, just do it, the worst thatvhappens is the worst that happens, youll be okay!
Do you really know her? Have you met?

Reply 5

As someone who’s often failed to show my feelings towards people, just tell her you find her attractive and get it over with. She likely knows you like her in my experience, and you not telling her isn’t fair to both of you. Confidence my friend. At the worst she just says no and you move on.

Reply 6

Original post by Anonymous
I have known this girl for the past 3 months and she lives half an hour away. I started talking to her because a friend added her on snapchat from my phone (ik it sounds weird). That friend used to talk to her and she liked him but he didn't like her back. He is my height so not so high has black curly hair and didn't even care a little bit about her, while i have straight brownish hair and not really the best looking. But i do ask her how she is and always try to lighten the mood. At the start when we started talking she seemed interested and was flirting and stuff but a few days later she just talked about my classmate (The guy she was into) I comforted her and she got kinda over it now. So i was her shoulder to cry on. I fell for here there but my heart shattered when she started talking about other guys and that she will go on a third date with a guy. That was for her short lived because the guy said he doesn't want to go even tho they planned it. She then asked me what to do. I said do what you think is right. She later ended things with him and send me a screenshot of him from instagram. He is really similar to my classmate she was into. Last week she started talking to yet another dude and i snapped. I wasnt angry on text but she caught up that something was wrong. I kept telling her nothing was but she wasnt sure i also started having longer response times. I usually texted her back the same minute but i texted her back every two hours or so. I am now starting to talk to her again but she seems really different and distant. She just doesnt want to tell me anything about her and i am getting worried i messed up big time. This is also my first time since i was usually a really shy dude. She even offered to call but i pretended i was busy because i was scared to talk to her. I then hinted to her that she can call if she wants but she never did. I dont know what to do and i am extremely sorry that i wrote such a detailed story. I just wanted to write out what i feel. Please help me.


Thanks for replying but she just send me a pic of her on a date

Reply 7

Original post by Anonymous
Thanks for replying but she just send me a pic of her on a date

Hmm, thats a bit of a *****y thing to do. Personally I would find the prettiest girl you can, who will oblige ,and take a selfy and send it to HER and say "well this is me on my date" !

Reply 8

Original post by Surnia
Do you really know her? Have you met?


Yes we have met

Reply 9

Original post by Anonymous
Hmm, thats a bit of a *****y thing to do. Personally I would find the prettiest girl you can, who will oblige ,and take a selfy and send it to HER and say "well this is me on my date" !


Can’t really drop someone like that

Reply 10

Original post by Anonymous
Can’t really drop someone like that

Nope I actually meant find a girl who will JUST let you take a selfie with her . Even could explain why !

Reply 11

Time to next her. If she's too stupid and/or blind to see how great you are then that's her fault.

Reply 12

Original post by Anonymous
I have known this girl for the past 3 months and she lives half an hour away. I started talking to her because a friend added her on snapchat from my phone (ik it sounds weird). That friend used to talk to her and she liked him but he didn't like her back. He is my height so not so high has black curly hair and didn't even care a little bit about her, while i have straight brownish hair and not really the best looking. But i do ask her how she is and always try to lighten the mood. At the start when we started talking she seemed interested and was flirting and stuff but a few days later she just talked about my classmate (The guy she was into) I comforted her and she got kinda over it now. So i was her shoulder to cry on. I fell for here there but my heart shattered when she started talking about other guys and that she will go on a third date with a guy. That was for her short lived because the guy said he doesn't want to go even tho they planned it. She then asked me what to do. I said do what you think is right. She later ended things with him and send me a screenshot of him from instagram. He is really similar to my classmate she was into. Last week she started talking to yet another dude and i snapped. I wasnt angry on text but she caught up that something was wrong. I kept telling her nothing was but she wasnt sure i also started having longer response times. I usually texted her back the same minute but i texted her back every two hours or so. I am now starting to talk to her again but she seems really different and distant. She just doesnt want to tell me anything about her and i am getting worried i messed up big time. This is also my first time since i was usually a really shy dude. She even offered to call but i pretended i was busy because i was scared to talk to her. I then hinted to her that she can call if she wants but she never did. I dont know what to do and i am extremely sorry that i wrote such a detailed story. I just wanted to write out what i feel. Please help me.

She doesn't like you. Give up. If you keep pursuing her, either you'll end up sad or she'll end up feeling threatened into a relationship.

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