Wanting to get

So, I sent a breaking up text to my bf. Sole reason I broke is because his communication was pretty wack. He apparently had personal issues at home. At the time I would tell him I was upset that we barely spoke, it would cause arguments. I wasn't in the greatest mindsets myself. I took that anger and broke up with him. I feel absolutely gutted.
I took a few weeks off to work on my personal problems as well as managing my own behaviour. I missed him so i texted him saying i missed him to which he responded immediately saying he misses me too. I apologised saying I wasn't in the greatest mental state, and I acted on impulse and broke up. I have managed to change myself and I will continuously try to do so, but I really do miss him and I would do anything to make things right. His responses have slowed down and he said he doesn't know.
He said 'why would i want to put in effort knowing nothing will change, you said you would, but still argued'. I told him I took the time off to get things into perspective and I really want to put the effort to fix things. I know his feelings is still there as he said he isn't unsure about his feelings, he's unsure about 'us'.
He said 'why didn't this change happen all this time we were together?'.
I'm not sure what to do. Please help

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

I dont know what happened to the thread title, it cut off.
But, I texted him saying that i couldn't fix myself whilst i was constantly worrying about you and us, ive had personal things going on. I really took that time off just to better myself. I asked him if his feelings are still there and I am convincing him that i have changed and i still will, i dont understand what's making it hard for him to get back together and work things out? And if he is not wanting to fix things, then to block me so I have some sort of closure. I texted this yesterday, to which he replied a few hours after saying he is out and will replying to everything. Still waiting.

Reply 2

Surnia

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Why is something as major as this in your relationship being conducted over text? Meet him and discuss it!

Don't complain about waiting for a reply when you've set up a situation where you can't have a proper conversation.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Original post by Surnia

Why is something as major as this in your relationship being conducted over text? Meet him and discuss it!
Don't complain about waiting for a reply when you've set up a situation where you can't have a proper conversation.

I know and i feel gutted that i placed me and him in this position. But I was also hurt.
I can't talk to him other than on text as we are long distance. I wont be able to see him till I start uni in Sept.

Reply 4

Surnia

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Original post by Anonymous

If you can text you can phone...

And what is stopping you both travelling, having a meet in the middle?

(edited 11 months ago)

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Original post by Surnia

If you can text you can phone...
And what is stopping you both travelling, having a meet in the middle?

He does travel for work around my area. I just have really strict parents who havent really let me go out even to see my on friends who my mother know inside out (I'm South Asian). even at times calling is hard apart from when my parents arent around. I plan to call him tomorrow whilst im at training for work, or if he doesn't pick up, leave a vm for him. We havent called in around 2 months now, he's been really busy with work then got so distant to a point we stopped texting altogether.