are dating apps gross?

I'm 18 and I've been using dating apps for a couple of weeks (sort of out of boredom bc I've just finished a levels and had my first breakup). I'm not looking to date, just something casual but I feel really disgusting about it. I've only met one person from an app and slept with him, I also recently had a one night stand from a nightclub (something I've never done before). I had my first relationship, first kiss, first everything in January so this is really out of character for me and I'm feeling stressed, like I'm gross and I don't feel like myself. I don't know what I want by asking this but I just want some input on if this is normal and why I feel so bad about it.

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chloex56

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Original post by Anonymous

I'm 18 and I've been using dating apps for a couple of weeks (sort of out of boredom bc I've just finished a levels and had my first breakup). I'm not looking to date, just something casual but I feel really disgusting about it. I've only met one person from an app and slept with him, I also recently had a one night stand from a nightclub (something I've never done before). I had my first relationship, first kiss, first everything in January so this is really out of character for me and I'm feeling stressed, like I'm gross and I don't feel like myself. I don't know what I want by asking this but I just want some input on if this is normal and why I feel so bad about it.

no need to feel gross, in the long run having a few one night stands really means nothing, give yourself a break life can be very stressful and overwhelming sometimes and we all have our ways of distressing and even if you regret those one night stands its not the end of the world as long as you enjoyed the moment then that’s all that matters

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username7144506

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Original post by Anonymous

I'm 18 and I've been using dating apps for a couple of weeks (sort of out of boredom bc I've just finished a levels and had my first breakup). I'm not looking to date, just something casual but I feel really disgusting about it. I've only met one person from an app and slept with him, I also recently had a one night stand from a nightclub (something I've never done before). I had my first relationship, first kiss, first everything in January so this is really out of character for me and I'm feeling stressed, like I'm gross and I don't feel like myself. I don't know what I want by asking this but I just want some input on if this is normal and why I feel so bad about it.

I'm a guy and after a while I feel **** and I also feel wrong on swiping left on people with potentially beautiful personalities. Nothing moral about dating, so I haven't used one in months.

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

They certainly can feel gross, the key is not to get too invested. Remember they are 100% profit orientated like most things nowadays so they’re designed to keep you swiping and feeling ****.

Reply 4

Anonymous #3

If you’re looking for casual sex and casual hookups then i’d advise against it, especially if the breakup was very recent.

I regretted it fully, there’s nothing wrong with casually swiping talking and scrolling through tinder but do not meet up with them for this. Every casual hookup I had to try get over my ex after our breakup made me feel disgusting, each time I felt worse and worse knowing that I did it to help ease my mind over him and in reality it just made it worse. It took me over a year to get over him, as he meant a lot to me.

What helped me the most was distancing myself from shared friends who would tell me everything he got up to, which shattered my soul every single time I heard. I erased him from social media’s, Hang out with your friends and do things you enjoy as distractions. They are so hard and hurtful but the last thing you need is to do things that’ll damage you mentally even further. Give yourself time to get over it before jumping into things like this as they really can mentally impact you.

I wish I could fully erase that year from my life as I went to all lengths to get over him, but from a mixture of casual hookups and bad friends it made everything worse and harder. Surround yourself with good people and take it easy.

Reply 5

Zarek

21

There is something a bit dehumanising about swiping and being treated in this way reduces dating to something less enjoyable than job hunting. Getting out to a decent pub is better

Reply 6

Gazpacho.

14

No at all.

If you are having one night stands and feeling bad afterwards, just stop. That is not down to dating apps. That is down to your choices.

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