Having multiple crushes

Hey guys,
I really need some help, I notice that I keep on crushing on people like I find a lot of people cool and so I have quite a few crushes like not at one time but I swear like every couple of months I will have a new crush and I will be soooo down bad like I will be thinking of them constantly throughout the day and I just don't know what to do I can't imagine not having a crush on people. And I don't think I'm undatable like I take care of myself and present myself well but whenever I have crushes they don't like me back and I think its cos I detach myself from them as soon as I catch feelings for them but it's actually really sad cos I want to be in a relationship but idk whats wrong with me and whether people actually like me or not and I am not giving them a chance, cos I've been told that I am pretty (not boasting I am not the prettiest girl alive) but I have never had a guy or girl ever approach me. I just need some tips to stop crushing on people and feel better cos I feel undatable atm.
Thanks!!!

Hey guys,
I really need some help, I notice that I keep on crushing on people like I find a lot of people cool and so I have quite a few crushes like not at one time but I swear like every couple of months I will have a new crush and I will be soooo down bad like I will be thinking of them constantly throughout the day and I just don't know what to do I can't imagine not having a crush on people. And I don't think I'm undatable like I take care of myself and present myself well but whenever I have crushes they don't like me back and I think its cos I detach myself from them as soon as I catch feelings for them but it's actually really sad cos I want to be in a relationship but idk whats wrong with me and whether people actually like me or not and I am not giving them a chance, cos I've been told that I am pretty (not boasting I am not the prettiest girl alive) but I have never had a guy or girl ever approach me. I just need some tips to stop crushing on people and feel better cos I feel undatable atm.
Thanks!!!

Perhaps you're just growing up? It's natural to be interested in dating & relationships especially as a teenager.

sounds like limerence! i don't really experience it but from what i understand limerence is extreme infatuation with people for short periods of time and then just getting over it really quickly. although there is no one simple fix for it, limerence is more likely to occur when you don't have the greatest self awareness nor psychoeducation of self. if you are combating with low self esteem (dw we've ALL been there), then its important for you to step back and focus on yourself; everyone should have the self love and respect to say no to people, even if you fear they will be your “only chance". if you are seeking a long term, healthy relationship, please adapt a “go big or go home” mindset; you should never EVER settle, even if that means you’ll be “alone” (which won’t even happen).
good luck! teendom is not fun!!! 😓

That's so funny because I was going to mention that I thought this was limerence but I wasn't sure if it was, I think recently I've noticed that my self esteem is actually much lower than I thought it was. Bc in my life people tell me I have a lot of confidence and I act like I have a lot of confidence but on the inside I still feel like I have some issues with rejection that I need to address which stemmed from not fitting in with others in and being a social reject in my childhood. I think I certainly do need to take a step back and focus on growing myself - it's just so hard to esp when my so many of my friend's are and have been in relationships and I haven't even had my first kiss yet (also I'm 19 so feeling quite a lot of pressure to date which I do want to do ). Thank you so much though I've been struggling with this for a while and I didn't think anyone was going to respond!