Miserable and i do not even know what to do anymore
this is not a question but just a way for me to get some things off my chest since i feel like i am suffocating. I am a year 12 student taking the subjects bio,chem,sociology. I did not begin my academic year very well as i kept getting E/U/D's in biology despite revising like crazy and trying every method i could possibly do. Ever since then, my biology teacher and form tutor has been non stop telling me to "drop the subject and take btec" or "i am not good enough for it" or to "consider my uni choices". although my teachers never failed to remind me of how i cannot do bio or achieve a good grade in it, i still continued to have faith in myself and managed to get an A in my gateway exams despite the multiple doubtful comments and reminders. However, recently my school had parents evening and told my parents that they are kind of confused of how i scored significantly higher in my paper 2 when i scored exactly the marks needed to get an A in my paper 1. unfortunately, since my parents take my doubtful bio teacher's feedback and comments, this kind of puts me in a "me vs parents AND teacher". Also, this "confusion" of theirs led me to think that these teachers do not want to see me succeed. it got me thinking like that because even when i achieved the best grade, they are still doubting me and kind of almost dont believe my efforts. honestly, i do not even know what to do anymore because i have worked to the bone to get this grade and to prove my stupid teachers wrong. i know that youre not supposed to mirror your grades to your self-worth but honestly my grades always mean so much to me. it always has been. but this one did not feel fulfilling for some reason and i feel... almost miserable. After i recieved my final report card of the year and parents evening, i felt demotivated and hopeless or almost in a rut (i hope it is just a rut and nothing further) where i do not know what to do anymore. i am very stressed now because i must prepare for my a-levels but i almost feel too tired. i feel mentally tired from school but most of all from my teachers. i have cried alot after that incident (still crying here and there every time i remember it ) and now i am just here. i feel very miserable and somehow unaccomplished even though i achieved a good grade. i keep telling myself that i should just focus on getting the final alevel grades that i want and need and just ignore my teachers, but with my parents on their side, i have to hear about both from home and school. this is exactly why i did not want my parents to attend parents evening since they will take my pessimistic teacher's view ver mine. i am trying to do the things that i enjoy since i think i am burnt out but non of it is working and i do not want it to affect my summer what so ever. furthermore, i just found out that my doubtful teachers (bio and form tutor) kept telling my head of sixthform to have a conversation with me about dropping bio. honeslty, at the end of the day, like i said i just keep telling myself to ignore them but with how it is taking a toll on me right now, i dont know how i am going to handle it on my final year when do my examinations and do my lessons in general. i genuinely despite my teachers very much and i honeslty do not know how i will manage this attitude coming from them. thank you reading !!
Reply 1
It's now the summer holidays. Time to chill out, relax and take stock.
Are there any other 6th forms you could go to with decent academic records? If so transfer. Start the transfer process on Monday.
Your drive to get the best grades you can is great. One key to unlocking a great adult life for yourself will be transferring that competitiveness to fulfilling the needs and desires of your clients and customers as well as you can. With this having the side effect of increasing your money earning.
Start using your self-motivation today to start your own business. What that business is will depend on you and what you're passionate about. It doesn't matter if the business flops. It will all be great experience for you. And you should ideally enjoy or at least tolerate the process of running the business. And if nothing else it'll take your mind off the negativity of your teachers and parents.
When someone tells you you can't succeed at something, that should make you quietly determined to prove them wrong. It shouldn't make you disheartened. Maintain your positive and enthusiastic (or at least a "let's suck it and see...") frame. Don't fall into their "You're wasting your time" frame.
Set yourself the target that by the age of 21, you'll be earning more than your biology teacher. And you'll enjoy whatever you do to earn money more than your teacher does.
Are there any other 6th forms you could go to with decent academic records? If so transfer. Start the transfer process on Monday.
Your drive to get the best grades you can is great. One key to unlocking a great adult life for yourself will be transferring that competitiveness to fulfilling the needs and desires of your clients and customers as well as you can. With this having the side effect of increasing your money earning.
Start using your self-motivation today to start your own business. What that business is will depend on you and what you're passionate about. It doesn't matter if the business flops. It will all be great experience for you. And you should ideally enjoy or at least tolerate the process of running the business. And if nothing else it'll take your mind off the negativity of your teachers and parents.
When someone tells you you can't succeed at something, that should make you quietly determined to prove them wrong. It shouldn't make you disheartened. Maintain your positive and enthusiastic (or at least a "let's suck it and see...") frame. Don't fall into their "You're wasting your time" frame.
Set yourself the target that by the age of 21, you'll be earning more than your biology teacher. And you'll enjoy whatever you do to earn money more than your teacher does.
Reply 2
Take a break and relax for a while because it seems that you need it.
I want to comment and congratulate you on your progress, you said at the start of the year your grades were very low but an A . Honestly that might be one of the best comebacks I have ever heard and that says a lot about your character and perseverance (which universities love hearing about). Apart from the stress, I hope you are enjoying the content and the course because A-level is different to GCSE.
Now don't fall into the pitfall, its good to weigh your risks and make informed decisions but what you are experiencing I call "professional bullying". It's the notion where they "strongly recommend" for "your good" that you do something, but in reality its economical/political (school funding for high grades, reputation) which should mean nothing to you. As a student you strive to learn and it's obvious you have the capacity since you have clearly proven it.
Use your frustration positively! There will be days where you will not do as well but set your goal and use every failure as fuel to keep going. A-Level, like most English qualifications have many shortcuts, repeats and tricks that you can learn. They are not as scary as they seem but it's important to know how to play the game. Also, try to stay consistent with how much work you do but at the same time manage the workload to avoid burnout because that's more serious. It's mostly about consistency and not about pure intellectual abilities. Don't compare yourself to others and keep a flexible and creative mind. Reading around the subject also helps to widen your horizon and for inspiration. I personally enjoyed reading biochemist Nick Lane, he has some very good books.
Finally, keep asking questions! Whenever you have an issue ask questions, clarification etc that will best help you.
I want to comment and congratulate you on your progress, you said at the start of the year your grades were very low but an A . Honestly that might be one of the best comebacks I have ever heard and that says a lot about your character and perseverance (which universities love hearing about). Apart from the stress, I hope you are enjoying the content and the course because A-level is different to GCSE.
Now don't fall into the pitfall, its good to weigh your risks and make informed decisions but what you are experiencing I call "professional bullying". It's the notion where they "strongly recommend" for "your good" that you do something, but in reality its economical/political (school funding for high grades, reputation) which should mean nothing to you. As a student you strive to learn and it's obvious you have the capacity since you have clearly proven it.
Use your frustration positively! There will be days where you will not do as well but set your goal and use every failure as fuel to keep going. A-Level, like most English qualifications have many shortcuts, repeats and tricks that you can learn. They are not as scary as they seem but it's important to know how to play the game. Also, try to stay consistent with how much work you do but at the same time manage the workload to avoid burnout because that's more serious. It's mostly about consistency and not about pure intellectual abilities. Don't compare yourself to others and keep a flexible and creative mind. Reading around the subject also helps to widen your horizon and for inspiration. I personally enjoyed reading biochemist Nick Lane, he has some very good books.
Finally, keep asking questions! Whenever you have an issue ask questions, clarification etc that will best help you.
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