Is it really hard to meet women in India if you don't have a social life?

I am a 23 year old guy living in Bangalore in India but born in Siliguri in West Bengal in India and currently studying MBA and never had a girlfriend, been on only one first date, hugged only 2 girls in person which was only for few seconds and never kissed a girl. As today is 13th July, I was feeling emotional and sad because last year on 13th July was my first day of MBA and this girl(lets call her A) who is also 23 now was the first girl to say me Hi and later even ask me whether I had lunch or not. So soon enough I got crush on her and she was really nice and would even call me cute and I gave her chocolate twice and had crush on her for 7 months between July 2023 to Feb 2024 but in Feb I messed up after getting crush on a much prettier girl(lets call her AK) who is also within 21-23 age range but in a different classroom and ever since I got crush on AK, A stopped talking to me and I basically wasted 3 months running behind AK who was never into me at all and I was just infatuated with her. Now we are having summer break from our University and next semester classes will start next month and I am missing A so badly and today I am feeling even more worse as just a year ago, she said me Hi for the first time. So to divert my mind, I went out today to eat but no one to hang out with me so I went all alone and it was really bad.

I could see so many couples in this posh area of our city Bangalore or are with groups and I was the only odd one out. I went to the shopping complex and also the cafes around thinking maybe I can find a woman to socialize with but not even one woman who was alone. All were either with a partner or with a group of friends. As an introvert, I am much more shy to talk to women when they are in groups. I have improved quite a lot tho as last month I literally initiated conversation with a foreign woman in the same posh area of the city and she is an expat here from Germany and we had a decent conversation and I was really wishing to see her today so I can ask her to have coffee with me in a nearby Cafe in the area but I didn't even see her. Yeah the area has a big expat population who are Caucasians and East Asians as Bangalore is a major metropolitan city of India and also a major IT hub and there were many of them in the big shopping complex but even the expat women weren't alone as they were with their boyfriend or husband too. Many were also middle aged and with their husbands too and even the younger ones who looked in their 20s or 30s were with their partners or were accompanied by at least someone probably their acquaintances. I was basically one of the only one who was having lunch all alone in a restaurant. As its weekend today, it was crowded and majority of people were either in groups or were couples. Even in cafes too it was hard to find a woman who is alone so I can strike a conversation. I was feeling terrible and angry seeing couples holding hands and walking. I didn't see the German woman today but I wouldn't be surprised if she also has a boyfriend or probably even a husband. Is it really hard to meet women in Indian cities if you want to socialize or even date one day? Tried dating apps but barely even getting matches and even if I get matches, no replies at all. Why did I find it so hard to find any woman who isn't with someone so I can initiate a conversation or get to know them?

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yupcabra23

dunno mate, guess your not a rizzler

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Anonymous #1

Original post by yupcabra23

dunno mate, guess your not a rizzler

Yeah I am not. I was shy throughout most of my school days and then studied undergrad in engineering in a college with skewed gender ratio with much more males than females so never really interacted or talked with girls before the age of 21 and only recently at the age of 23 I am kinda getting more confident but still some shyness is there.

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