Help! Unbearable pain losing Virginity
Now before you say "it's suppose to hurt the first time" or "you are a wimp" or "just tough it out", I have a high pain tolerance. I have had surgeries done awake, I have piercings, and gotten tattoos, even as a toddler I didn't cry when I got vaccines. Even with foreplay, lube, time, etc. it is unbearable pain for him to enter me. He's amazing at being patient and stopping and trying again some other time. We both want to do it with the right person and we are in a relationship together. Both agreed and decided the same thing, I feel stressed out/ashamed I am not able to "do my half" and have to keep stopping. Different positions doesn't make a difference either. I get random times where the whole pelvic floor muscles just tense up and won't relax, I just have to wait and ride it out. Often accompanied by stinging/burning/soreness of the V-canal. Trying dilators, still no luck, still as painful as hell. Anything doctors can do? Besides sexual therapy? TIA
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I’m absolutely not an expert, but I’d definitely go to see a doctor if you’re able. They’ll be able to rule out any physical causes eg. infections or thrush (which can both be treated pretty easily), and, if that’s not the case, they’ll probably diagnose it as vaginismus, which is more common in late teens tbf. Besides sexual therapy, they’d probably offer pelvic floor exercises, relaxation techniques etc.
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