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Non autistic girl with autistic boy

Are there any girls here who don't have autism and have gone out before with a known autistic boy?
Original post by Anonymous
Are there any girls here who don't have autism and have gone out before with a known autistic boy?

Yes me :smile:
Original post by Anonymous
Are there any girls here who don't have autism and have gone out before with a known autistic boy?

me why
Reply 3
well, i was just thinking of any difficulties due to it being a social disorder.
Tbh I barely noticed it and it was just like a normal relationship. Sometimes you might need to be a bit more empathetic but that's the same with any relationship really :smile:
Reply 5
Original post by Anonymous
Tbh I barely noticed it and it was just like a normal relationship. Sometimes you might need to be a bit more empathetic but that's the same with any relationship really :smile:

That's good to hear, thank you!
Hi! I'm an autistic girl. I would recommend that if you are in a relationship, or even friendship, to ask the person about their boundaries. Autistic people may be more sensitive, so knowing what upsets them can avoid emotional outbursts. Apologise sincerely. Ask them questions about their interests. Ask before certain things maybe (like, "can I kiss you?") and ask them how you can support them if they are anxious, burnt out or overstimulated!
Original post by Anonymous
Yes me :smile:

and i assume your BF was the one who asked you out and made a move on you
Reply 8
Original post by greendaygurl1039
Hi! I'm an autistic girl. I would recommend that if you are in a relationship, or even friendship, to ask the person about their boundaries. Autistic people may be more sensitive, so knowing what upsets them can avoid emotional outbursts. Apologise sincerely. Ask them questions about their interests. Ask before certain things maybe (like, "can I kiss you?") and ask them how you can support them if they are anxious, burnt out or overstimulated!
Yes! Precisely!
If I may add to that (as an autistic person as well) say EXACTLY what you mean. If you want your autistic partner to do the dishes, don’t say ‘oh there are dishes in the sink’ or anything you would say to another neurotypical to get them to wash up, ask them outrightly ‘could you do the washing up please?’ That’s a bit of a crude example, but if you want something or are trying to communicate, you’ll have to get good at speaking literally.
Also, something that I’m sure your partner would really appreciate: learn about autism, and ask them about their autism. Try to be a safe place for them where they don’t have to mask around you and can just relax, which will come naturally once they realise that you accept them, not despite of them being autistic, but as an autistic person. That will make the relationship feel so much easier for them.
I’m sure you are already doing a lot of this. But I thought it was just better to put out there.
Good luck! I hope you have a happy and long lasting relationship!
(edited 3 months ago)

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