Help a first-timer

Hi
I am a 23yo Female, I had sex for the first time today. Even while making out I didnt feel anything, I wasnt even turned on to begin with. He couldnt penetrate because I was too tight, but I did have minor blood spottings. Throughtout the entire thing I did not feel a single thing, but apparently liked the head I gave him. Also I wasnt even wet at all. This is definitely not normal, what should I do, please help

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

Hi
I am a 23yo Female, I had sex for the first time today. Even while making out I didnt feel anything, I wasnt even turned on to begin with. He couldnt penetrate because I was too tight, but I did have minor blood spottings. Throughtout the entire thing I did not feel a single thing, but apparently liked the head I gave him. Also I wasnt even wet at all. This is definitely not normal, what should I do, please help

Not an expert at all just offering an opinion!

Have you ever felt turned on before? Did you feel attracted to him? Did you do any f*replay? Have you considered the fact that you could be asexual?
If not, a recent study has found that female attraction is much more complicated that physical touch and includes many contextual things like emotional connection etc - there was a recent video from Psych2Go on YouTube that you might find helpful! x
But overall, try not to worry about what is "normal" as everyone experiences things differently - you should mainly be focusing on what makes you happy! 🫶

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Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Anonymous

Not an expert at all just offering an opinion!
Have you ever felt turned on before? Did you feel attracted to him? Did you do any f*replay? Have you considered the fact that you could be asexual?
If not, a recent study has found that female attraction is much more complicated that physical touch and includes many contextual things like emotional connection etc - there was a recent video from Psych2Go on YouTube that you might find helpful! x
But overall, try not to worry about what is "normal" as everyone experiences things differently - you should mainly be focusing on what makes you happy! 🫶

I have felt turned on before. But there wasnt any/as such foreplay as for most of the part I was giving him a head and he fingured me for like a minute maxx.
Um, I havent been attracted to him for the most part but Im 23 and a virgin and just wanted to get it over with, but barely did I know it would turn out like this

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Anonymous #2

If you weren't really attracted to him and you didn't really do any foreplay then I wouldn't stress about it - not every person will make you "feel something" and that's okay! It would probably be a different experience with the right person x

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Anonymous #2

Also you might find this video interesting about the scientific research behind female desire, and how it differs from media portrayal.

https://youtu.be/4QnhHjeDbX8?si=FDMC_kJ-DSahOnrn

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NeoIan

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I had that first time for me as well don’t worry about it it’s nerves that’s all :smile:

) pm me if you want and I’ll tell you about it . Neo

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sleepless-italy

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Original post by Anonymous

Hi
I am a 23yo Female, I had sex for the first time today. Even while making out I didnt feel anything, I wasnt even turned on to begin with. He couldnt penetrate because I was too tight, but I did have minor blood spottings. Throughtout the entire thing I did not feel a single thing, but apparently liked the head I gave him. Also I wasnt even wet at all. This is definitely not normal, what should I do, please help