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Advice pls
This might sound like a rant and it's honestly not my intention. I have a best friend who over the holidays has started hiding things from me and ignoring my messages. She recently stopped doing a Snapchat streak with me and when I tried to talk to her she would reply with 'okay' or 'good'. I heard from another friend that she apperently she doesn't want to speak to anyone which is fine and understandable. I asked her if she was okay and she just replied with 'yh'. Let me just say that when we started being friends she would treat me horribly and say that 'i give her bad vibes' or that I apperently gave her weird looks. She only started being my friend when my other friend told her to stop assuming things of me but to talk to me instead. During the year she has had a lot of breakups with other people (mainly her fault) and I've stuck by her side, hugged her when she cried cos her crush rejected her. And now she is ignoring me . I'm a big over thinker so I always analyse the whole thing hence the long ass paragraph. I'm also going to be going college next year and she is going to. And advice will be helpful
This might sound like a rant and it's honestly not my intention. I have a best friend who over the holidays has started hiding things from me and ignoring my messages. She recently stopped doing a Snapchat streak with me and when I tried to talk to her she would reply with 'okay' or 'good'. I heard from another friend that she apperently she doesn't want to speak to anyone which is fine and understandable. I asked her if she was okay and she just replied with 'yh'. Let me just say that when we started being friends she would treat me horribly and say that 'i give her bad vibes' or that I apperently gave her weird looks. She only started being my friend when my other friend told her to stop assuming things of me but to talk to me instead. During the year she has had a lot of breakups with other people (mainly her fault) and I've stuck by her side, hugged her when she cried cos her crush rejected her. And now she is ignoring me . I'm a big over thinker so I always analyse the whole thing hence the long ass paragraph. I'm also going to be going college next year and she is going to. And advice will be helpful
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Hi,
It definitely sounds as if she's the defensive sort, which may be due to her having some personal conflicts whether that's issues at home or with herself (I won't be assuming)
It can definitely hurt to see someone withdraw themselves from a friendship, especially if you felt it was going well. You have put the effort in but it hasn't been reciprocated, and sometimes that's just the sign you need. You can't devote 100% to a person constantly and accept that you're getting 10% back, it's unhealthy.
You should take a step back and take a look at the bigger picture, your other friendship dynamics. College will serve as the perfect opportunity for you to understand who your people are, even if they won't be your forever friends. This friend of yours, if she cares enough, will return to your life and will make those efforts, but until she does, you shouldn't feel inclined to keep trying.
If it's meant to be, she will find her way back to you. Don't dwell on this situation, it isn't on you and it's definitely something that shouldn't be taking up your brain power.
Enjoy your summer, surround yourself with the positive people, take it easy
It definitely sounds as if she's the defensive sort, which may be due to her having some personal conflicts whether that's issues at home or with herself (I won't be assuming)
It can definitely hurt to see someone withdraw themselves from a friendship, especially if you felt it was going well. You have put the effort in but it hasn't been reciprocated, and sometimes that's just the sign you need. You can't devote 100% to a person constantly and accept that you're getting 10% back, it's unhealthy.
You should take a step back and take a look at the bigger picture, your other friendship dynamics. College will serve as the perfect opportunity for you to understand who your people are, even if they won't be your forever friends. This friend of yours, if she cares enough, will return to your life and will make those efforts, but until she does, you shouldn't feel inclined to keep trying.
If it's meant to be, she will find her way back to you. Don't dwell on this situation, it isn't on you and it's definitely something that shouldn't be taking up your brain power.
Enjoy your summer, surround yourself with the positive people, take it easy
Reply 2
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Original post by eriksks
Hi,
It definitely sounds as if she's the defensive sort, which may be due to her having some personal conflicts whether that's issues at home or with herself (I won't be assuming)
It can definitely hurt to see someone withdraw themselves from a friendship, especially if you felt it was going well. You have put the effort in but it hasn't been reciprocated, and sometimes that's just the sign you need. You can't devote 100% to a person constantly and accept that you're getting 10% back, it's unhealthy.
You should take a step back and take a look at the bigger picture, your other friendship dynamics. College will serve as the perfect opportunity for you to understand who your people are, even if they won't be your forever friends. This friend of yours, if she cares enough, will return to your life and will make those efforts, but until she does, you shouldn't feel inclined to keep trying.
If it's meant to be, she will find her way back to you. Don't dwell on this situation, it isn't on you and it's definitely something that shouldn't be taking up your brain power.
Enjoy your summer, surround yourself with the positive people, take it easy
It definitely sounds as if she's the defensive sort, which may be due to her having some personal conflicts whether that's issues at home or with herself (I won't be assuming)
It can definitely hurt to see someone withdraw themselves from a friendship, especially if you felt it was going well. You have put the effort in but it hasn't been reciprocated, and sometimes that's just the sign you need. You can't devote 100% to a person constantly and accept that you're getting 10% back, it's unhealthy.
You should take a step back and take a look at the bigger picture, your other friendship dynamics. College will serve as the perfect opportunity for you to understand who your people are, even if they won't be your forever friends. This friend of yours, if she cares enough, will return to your life and will make those efforts, but until she does, you shouldn't feel inclined to keep trying.
If it's meant to be, she will find her way back to you. Don't dwell on this situation, it isn't on you and it's definitely something that shouldn't be taking up your brain power.
Enjoy your summer, surround yourself with the positive people, take it easy
Thank you for replying to my post and when I was reading this, I generally thought I was going to cry. You took the words right out of my mouth and told me what I needed to hear. I'm considering to stop doing the Snapchat streak with her since she has been responding very dryly with my messages. I have tried my best to start a conversation with her so ik atleast that I did nothing wrong on my behalf, but she is showing that she could care less about me. I really want to start college, find my people and study. I also just deleted Snapchat and Instagram but not my accounts , cos I really need some time to work on myself. Do you think not replying to her streaks is a good option? And thank U for replying to my post
Reply 3
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Original post by Mimosns
Thank you for replying to my post and when I was reading this, I generally thought I was going to cry. You took the words right out of my mouth and told me what I needed to hear. I'm considering to stop doing the Snapchat streak with her since she has been responding very dryly with my messages. I have tried my best to start a conversation with her so ik atleast that I did nothing wrong on my behalf, but she is showing that she could care less about me. I really want to start college, find my people and study. I also just deleted Snapchat and Instagram but not my accounts , cos I really need some time to work on myself. Do you think not replying to her streaks is a good option? And thank U for replying to my post
Definitely. Taking time for yourself isn’t a bad thing, I encourage it a lot. A streak can always be started again if she has a problem, but you don’t owe it to her to sort that out now or in the future. You’re definitely doing the appropriate thing
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