Experience with telling a strict parent you want to go to a far uni?

Does anyone have experience with telling a strict parent that you want to go to a far away uni? My first try didn't work out (medical issues and covid) so I ended up back at my parents' abroad for a year. My dad didn't want to let me go the first time and thinks that due to this I never commit to anything/just want to waste time/money/etc. I did mess up with that and apologised a lot but I haven't made it up yet apparently.
I have an offer I'm happy with and my mum's happy with me going there but I'm not sure how to tell my dad. I depend on his work's medical insurance for medical stuff here but it shouldn't be a problem back in the UK. He thinks that I should stay here and get an online degree or go to a "local" uni that's around 50km away and commute, but this wouldn't be good for the field I want to go into.
I plan on getting a job at uni to pay for tuition so with my scholarship I shouldn't have many loans for him to stress about.

Does anyone have experience with a similar situation?

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Anonymous #2

This is so relatable! My mom doesn't want me to leave but has accepted it. My dad wants me to stay super close so I can apparently visit all the time (that wouldn't happen if I was their neighbour. I don't want to come back more than once a year.) and so I can save money by going to a crappy college in the middle of nowhere. I didn't tell him anything, but I never talk to him anyway. He found out from my mother and came to me trying to change his mind. I just answered all of his arguments calmly and made sure not to argue because I didn't want to get yelled at for being disrespectful. Now we don't talk about it, and his outlet is my mother, who occasionally tells me stupid arguments he was having with her. So yeah, just try not to argue and if he comes after you to start an argument, be firm.