Is she acting Immature Here

My partner scrolls through a lot of TikToks, and I have no idea to how her for you page has become influential or taken to her mind, although lately she’s been watching videos that convinced her of me cheating even though she said she knows I wouldn’t yet, with our 2 years of our relationship coming up in August she bought up something that happened in the past about me exchanging conversations with a work colleague and not as close friend and that actions such as hiding my phone when typing away from her or deleting messages, in her eyes was considered to be cheating. If I were to hide anything I would completely be honest because the guilt would eat me alive so as a person I wouldn’t do that but am I not allowed to communicate with the opposite gender as a friend Whilst we weren’t talking to each other when that happened that week last year, she had the confidence to be seen huddled around with 4/5 guys. I hadn’t accused her of cheating, why is she bringing up something that is the past, if she says and as she says she loves me why bring it up and is she being immature here about this. Who’s in the wrong here?

My partner scrolls through a lot of TikToks, and I have no idea to how her for you page has become influential or taken to her mind, although lately she’s been watching videos that convinced her of me cheating even though she said she knows I wouldn’t yet, with our 2 years of our relationship coming up in August she bought up something that happened in the past about me exchanging conversations with a work colleague and not as close friend and that actions such as hiding my phone when typing away from her or deleting messages, in her eyes was considered to be cheating. If I were to hide anything I would completely be honest because the guilt would eat me alive so as a person I wouldn’t do that but am I not allowed to communicate with the opposite gender as a friend Whilst we weren’t talking to each other when that happened that week last year, she had the confidence to be seen huddled around with 4/5 guys. I hadn’t accused her of cheating, why is she bringing up something that is the past, if she says and as she says she loves me why bring it up and is she being immature here about this. Who’s in the wrong here?

I dont think anyone is in the wrong maybe she js likes u so is scared that u do her dirty(overanalyses )and its fine for u to have some privacy and communicate w the other gender
Try spending more time with her and slowly bring up that topic how u feel like shes addicted to tt alot and its making u feel likes she being locked and influenced by it ?

Well both of you have opposite gender friends so jealousy will exist of course. But accusing you of cheating with no profound basis or evidence is wrong and unfair. I simply think a sit down and talk about boundaries and accusations are needed. You can express your uncomfortability with her being around several guys and she can discuss why she feels like you're cheating on her. Possibly she is insecure with herself and feels like she is not assured in how much you love her so that could be a factor. You won't know unless you book down a talk and conversate, not argue.

Thanks. But why would I ever do my girl dirty. I take care of her health, wellbeing welfare. Ensure she’s cared for, I love seeing her happy and smile and I do everything I can for that to be possible, she doesn’t deserve to not be happy, and cheating would just be criminal, the guilt would always eat me out alive and I could never do that. If I communicate with the other gender other than my workplace for working purposes I don’t communicate nor am friends with any of them at all. I’ve bought that up whilst over text about the type of for you page and time spent on tt and I did raise the fact her being influenced over this is leading to it but I’ve just become silent and I’ve refused to speak to her since. The thought of being convinced yet alone influenced by something like tt is just hurtful.

Does she have any past traumas
People with life traumas such as attachment traumas, growing in a toxic house or childhood traumas ( specifically parents love ) tend to not feel safe when they’re being cared for or loved and find it abnormal so they will try causing issues to feel safe. U seem like a sweetheart and genuinely love her but sometimes theres nothing u can do when the other partner is constantly accusing u of cheating ( being insecure) there must another factor influencing.

I mean whilst in each other presence she would always say am I clingy. Is it a bad thing I’m clingy I too myself would admit I’m clingy but that’s purely because I love her so much. And I appreciate the amount of time and attention I get out of her and her company. She has grown out of a toxic house parents wise. Her parents come across as strict and at this moment are barriers towards our marriage. I’d be taking her to like museum and amusement trips watching movies at the cinema like Inside out. Taking her mini golfing or to the arcade but ever since she’s told her parents or her dad to say the least about a boy she wishes in marrying he’s been on her case as he has been. Yeah I would also say she has childhood traumas because she hasn’t got neither of the love of her parents as she’s supposed to not from her dad anyways her dad spots a fault on her, putting her in the wrongdoing everything is time restricted to her and there’s a constant need and knowing of where she’s going what she’s doing.

that’s partially an answer/factor.
She probably didn’t mean to hurt ur feelings by accusing u of cheating.
Its the trauma caused by her strict parents as a child thats playing the major role in the way shes acting.
Its hard for her to accept love since she grew up in a toxic environment where she didn’t get much love, its not ur fault either for showing love.
Maybe she should consider therapy not necessarily a doctor but attempts to understand her self more( reading abt childhood traumas or yt videos )
its not ur responsibility to accept false accusations of cheating when u purely js love that person, Don’t accept false accusations draw a boundary and show her that these do hurt you.

Thank you. How can I draw this boundary exactly. This is her penultimate and final year of university I wanted her to have the best summer ever going with confidence and ease and belief and momentum she can do it because there’s been several instances where she came to giving up, and dropping out yet she said herself I kept her going all this summer plan now stopped because of her parents and to what we are limited to.

If it happens again or she hints at it show that you are upset in a way that doesn’t show u hate her, but hate the way she acts.
Allow your self to be upset and explain to her if she confronts you how much it hurts to see that she doesn’t have trust in you even though you are trying your very best to be there for her. tell her that she doesn’t know how much you love her and worried for her. If you don’t draw that boundary now this will only weaken the relationship and the situation will get worse. Ik this might sound harsh since she is also going through a hard time but its for the best of this relationship to last. you are js as important as anything else in her life including her studies and life, dont be the person that she can blame when things go wrong. Js like how her studies, summer and life are important your feelings and self are js as important if not more.
Im sure she will understand if she loves you as much as you do.

Okay thank you I’ll do that. Yeah at this minute everything become mute between us.

Any developments or updates? How has it been going?

5th August was our 2 year anniversary of our relationship. Took you lots advice been going well now

Amazing man I'm really happy for you. Good on you for reaching out to other and guidance too instead of shutting down or just lashing out. I hope you two have an amazing relationship.