Should I message or not?

Basically, I went on a few dates with this girl a short while ago, she ended things but wanted to remain friends which I was happy to do. For the past two months we’ve stayed in regular contact and a good friendship has developed. However, the past few weeks she has suddenly stopped responding to messages.

As she was the one that wanted the friendship and I have invested I’m somewhat feeling annoyed about it. I’m not sure whether I should send a final message or simply move on. If I do send a message I’m thinking something along the lines of

‘’Hey, not sure what’s gone on but as I’ve noticed the communication has died recently I’m going to assume you don’t want to continue a friendship. I’ve enjoyed talking to you and the door is open if you wish to reconnect''.

Should I send the message or just leave it?

Reply 1

Admit-One

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21

Original post by Anonymous

Basically, I went on a few dates with this girl a short while ago, she ended things but wanted to remain friends which I was happy to do. For the past two months we’ve stayed in regular contact and a good friendship has developed. However, the past few weeks she has suddenly stopped responding to messages.

As she was the one that wanted the friendship and I have invested I’m somewhat feeling annoyed about it. I’m not sure whether I should send a final message or simply move on. If I do send a message I’m thinking something along the lines of

‘’Hey, not sure what’s gone on but as I’ve noticed the communication has died recently I’m going to assume you don’t want to continue a friendship. I’ve enjoyed talking to you and the door is open if you wish to reconnect''.

Should I send the message or just leave it?

I would leave it. The ball is already in their court and I don't think it really adds anything.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

I think we all should text Hello Hi once in a while as a good gesture despite getting or not getting the reply.

Reply 3

saraalegria

12

Original post by Anonymous

Basically, I went on a few dates with this girl a short while ago, she ended things but wanted to remain friends which I was happy to do. For the past two months we’ve stayed in regular contact and a good friendship has developed. However, the past few weeks she has suddenly stopped responding to messages.
As she was the one that wanted the friendship and I have invested I’m somewhat feeling annoyed about it. I’m not sure whether I should send a final message or simply move on. If I do send a message I’m thinking something along the lines of
‘’Hey, not sure what’s gone on but as I’ve noticed the communication has died recently I’m going to assume you don’t want to continue a friendship. I’ve enjoyed talking to you and the door is open if you wish to reconnect''.
Should I send the message or just leave it?

I think you should text her as u deserve an answer and if she doesn’t give you one then I guess you know where u really stand

Reply 4

Dunnig Kruger

20

Ring her up and ask her for a favour. Not a huge favour. A low pressure easy for her to do favour.
You know her and you better than we do. I'm sure you can think of a good favour to ask her.
This favour should involve you and her getting together in real life.

When you're with her act like a charming, attractive guy.

And take things from there.

Don't send her the message you were thinking of sending. It won't do any good. It's too negative, needy, clingy, insecure and is too much like the sort of message your grandmother would send.

Reply 5

StriderHort

21

I'd go for the less dramatic option and just ask if everything's ok since she's been so quiet. If no reply I'd just leave it.

Reply 6

Zarek

21

The message is a bit passive aggressive and would almost certainly be ignored. The best bet is probably just to leave the ball in her court and move on. A message like StriderHort suggest would be a better option if you do want to have a final go at retaining the friendship

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