I don't think I'll ever date again.
Hi,
I'm 15 (nearly 16) and I have autism. In February, I started dating my first boyfriend. He was really nice to me, funny and we shared similar experiences and interests. Soon, when I started showing my autistic traits more and stopped masking, he became incredibly mean. He said that I was too autistic to date him, too sensitive, weird, and that I was too pretty for my personality (whatever... That means). He then told me I needed someone better than him. It became really unhealthy, and then he broke up with me just a mere 3 months later. I wasn't sad over the breakup because the relationship was becoming something I didn't like, but I was sad due to the offensive remarks he had made about me. I also felt regretful, as I had trusted him wholeheartedly and showed him a side of me that I never showed anyone before.
Because of this, I don't know if I'll date again. I definitely won't be dating any boy in my school because I can't bond with them that well, I can hardly bond with the girls to be friends with them. My own friend told me she could never see me getting married or being in a long-term relationship and this made it worse.
I'm 15 (nearly 16) and I have autism. In February, I started dating my first boyfriend. He was really nice to me, funny and we shared similar experiences and interests. Soon, when I started showing my autistic traits more and stopped masking, he became incredibly mean. He said that I was too autistic to date him, too sensitive, weird, and that I was too pretty for my personality (whatever... That means). He then told me I needed someone better than him. It became really unhealthy, and then he broke up with me just a mere 3 months later. I wasn't sad over the breakup because the relationship was becoming something I didn't like, but I was sad due to the offensive remarks he had made about me. I also felt regretful, as I had trusted him wholeheartedly and showed him a side of me that I never showed anyone before.
Because of this, I don't know if I'll date again. I definitely won't be dating any boy in my school because I can't bond with them that well, I can hardly bond with the girls to be friends with them. My own friend told me she could never see me getting married or being in a long-term relationship and this made it worse.
He was a jerk. Please don't let one bad experience in dating scare you off relationships for life.
I've ADHD and my girlfriend is autistic. I openly stim, extremely forgetful, and I'm never on time. She regularly gets overstimulated, has frequent melt downs, and can't eat most food. We work together and have a lot of patience with each other. We don't mock each other for our differences or quirks. If you're going to date someone, they need to be sensitive to the issues you deal with. And if they make fun of you or get annoyed with you for things out of your control - dump em.
Most of my friendship circle is also neurodivergent, and most of them are also dating other neurodivergent people. The reason for this is it is easier to relate and understand people who deal with the same daily issues. Might be something to think about when you're older and think you want to date again.
I've ADHD and my girlfriend is autistic. I openly stim, extremely forgetful, and I'm never on time. She regularly gets overstimulated, has frequent melt downs, and can't eat most food. We work together and have a lot of patience with each other. We don't mock each other for our differences or quirks. If you're going to date someone, they need to be sensitive to the issues you deal with. And if they make fun of you or get annoyed with you for things out of your control - dump em.
Most of my friendship circle is also neurodivergent, and most of them are also dating other neurodivergent people. The reason for this is it is easier to relate and understand people who deal with the same daily issues. Might be something to think about when you're older and think you want to date again.
Original post by greendaygurl1039
Hi,
I'm 15 (nearly 16) and I have autism. In February, I started dating my first boyfriend. He was really nice to me, funny and we shared similar experiences and interests. Soon, when I started showing my autistic traits more and stopped masking, he became incredibly mean. He said that I was too autistic to date him, too sensitive, weird, and that I was too pretty for my personality (whatever... That means). He then told me I needed someone better than him. It became really unhealthy, and then he broke up with me just a mere 3 months later. I wasn't sad over the breakup because the relationship was becoming something I didn't like, but I was sad due to the offensive remarks he had made about me. I also felt regretful, as I had trusted him wholeheartedly and showed him a side of me that I never showed anyone before.
Because of this, I don't know if I'll date again. I definitely won't be dating any boy in my school because I can't bond with them that well, I can hardly bond with the girls to be friends with them. My own friend told me she could never see me getting married or being in a long-term relationship and this made it worse.
I'm 15 (nearly 16) and I have autism. In February, I started dating my first boyfriend. He was really nice to me, funny and we shared similar experiences and interests. Soon, when I started showing my autistic traits more and stopped masking, he became incredibly mean. He said that I was too autistic to date him, too sensitive, weird, and that I was too pretty for my personality (whatever... That means). He then told me I needed someone better than him. It became really unhealthy, and then he broke up with me just a mere 3 months later. I wasn't sad over the breakup because the relationship was becoming something I didn't like, but I was sad due to the offensive remarks he had made about me. I also felt regretful, as I had trusted him wholeheartedly and showed him a side of me that I never showed anyone before.
Because of this, I don't know if I'll date again. I definitely won't be dating any boy in my school because I can't bond with them that well, I can hardly bond with the girls to be friends with them. My own friend told me she could never see me getting married or being in a long-term relationship and this made it worse.
Hey! People in Highschool are unnecessarily mean! I just finished college and got close to a girl this year who happens to be autistic, I didn’t like her at all at the start but she’s one of my closest friends now and I introduced her to my friendship group which she’s a part of now and literally none of us care ab her autism and we don’t overthink anything she does that might be considered as “ weird”
Original post by greendaygurl1039
Hi,
I'm 15 (nearly 16) and I have autism. In February, I started dating my first boyfriend. He was really nice to me, funny and we shared similar experiences and interests. Soon, when I started showing my autistic traits more and stopped masking, he became incredibly mean. He said that I was too autistic to date him, too sensitive, weird, and that I was too pretty for my personality (whatever... That means). He then told me I needed someone better than him. It became really unhealthy, and then he broke up with me just a mere 3 months later. I wasn't sad over the breakup because the relationship was becoming something I didn't like, but I was sad due to the offensive remarks he had made about me. I also felt regretful, as I had trusted him wholeheartedly and showed him a side of me that I never showed anyone before.
Because of this, I don't know if I'll date again. I definitely won't be dating any boy in my school because I can't bond with them that well, I can hardly bond with the girls to be friends with them. My own friend told me she could never see me getting married or being in a long-term relationship and this made it worse.
I'm 15 (nearly 16) and I have autism. In February, I started dating my first boyfriend. He was really nice to me, funny and we shared similar experiences and interests. Soon, when I started showing my autistic traits more and stopped masking, he became incredibly mean. He said that I was too autistic to date him, too sensitive, weird, and that I was too pretty for my personality (whatever... That means). He then told me I needed someone better than him. It became really unhealthy, and then he broke up with me just a mere 3 months later. I wasn't sad over the breakup because the relationship was becoming something I didn't like, but I was sad due to the offensive remarks he had made about me. I also felt regretful, as I had trusted him wholeheartedly and showed him a side of me that I never showed anyone before.
Because of this, I don't know if I'll date again. I definitely won't be dating any boy in my school because I can't bond with them that well, I can hardly bond with the girls to be friends with them. My own friend told me she could never see me getting married or being in a long-term relationship and this made it worse.
Clearly he was a total and utter Jerk. Do not let that one mistake put you off dating, just be extra careful to choose right one next time.
Original post by greendaygurl1039
Hi,
I'm 15 (nearly 16) and I have autism. In February, I started dating my first boyfriend. He was really nice to me, funny and we shared similar experiences and interests. Soon, when I started showing my autistic traits more and stopped masking, he became incredibly mean. He said that I was too autistic to date him, too sensitive, weird, and that I was too pretty for my personality (whatever... That means). He then told me I needed someone better than him. It became really unhealthy, and then he broke up with me just a mere 3 months later. I wasn't sad over the breakup because the relationship was becoming something I didn't like, but I was sad due to the offensive remarks he had made about me. I also felt regretful, as I had trusted him wholeheartedly and showed him a side of me that I never showed anyone before.
Because of this, I don't know if I'll date again. I definitely won't be dating any boy in my school because I can't bond with them that well, I can hardly bond with the girls to be friends with them. My own friend told me she could never see me getting married or being in a long-term relationship and this made it worse.
I'm 15 (nearly 16) and I have autism. In February, I started dating my first boyfriend. He was really nice to me, funny and we shared similar experiences and interests. Soon, when I started showing my autistic traits more and stopped masking, he became incredibly mean. He said that I was too autistic to date him, too sensitive, weird, and that I was too pretty for my personality (whatever... That means). He then told me I needed someone better than him. It became really unhealthy, and then he broke up with me just a mere 3 months later. I wasn't sad over the breakup because the relationship was becoming something I didn't like, but I was sad due to the offensive remarks he had made about me. I also felt regretful, as I had trusted him wholeheartedly and showed him a side of me that I never showed anyone before.
Because of this, I don't know if I'll date again. I definitely won't be dating any boy in my school because I can't bond with them that well, I can hardly bond with the girls to be friends with them. My own friend told me she could never see me getting married or being in a long-term relationship and this made it worse.
hey there, a few words of encouragement.
don't let people's chattings aka "verbal" get to your head alright, it's just that; chattins.
you're only 15 (nearly 16). you are still so young. people even date up until their mid 30s before they settle down to get married into their late 30s. There is someone out there in this world waiting for you and you don't even know it; heck, they don't even know it yet lol. but it's been set in stone. you will find thta person when the time is right. they're somewhere on this earth at school right now, and so are you. don't let the experience you had with this mug put you off, okay, things don't always work out first try. he was never, meant to be. your "own friend" to say that therefore classifies herself as not your "own friend". she is not your friend, she is an opp/paigon like them (the guy). she's projecting her own insecurities onto yourself, because she fears that you will get married and she won't (weird).
Forget all those people and move away from that headspace it seems untrustworthy for real, I acknowledge that some or is it, most neurotypical people don't understand people who aren't well at all, and it's probably because they don't know how to react or something I'm not sure but, keep your head up. Focus on yourself. Post-16 education; alevels in sixth form, college; or apprenticeship, and just focus on the grind. and as 233w341 said too; consider gym to help with physical and mental health also (i need to be consistent myself, recent "visual snow" has just made me not want to head out for a while because of the visual disturbances outside smh), but um, for real OP I hope that you do start to begin feeling better. give it heaing time. focus on yourself, your studies; the grind. don't worry, what people have to say because, honestly; people will have chat for days, especially when they see you doing well it's human nature people will always have talk or gossip or attitude towards other people for all, sorts of reasons, and it's wrong. some people talk about others because of their hair, who they are as a person, their skin; even what they like if it doesn't match with their own tastes, etc. so forget about whatever the boy said to you, and that really weird n strange comment your (fake) friend told you. because she might defend herself and say that she's "being realistic" when she's not being realistic– she is being absolutely pathetic.
Original post by greendaygurl1039
Hi,
I'm 15 (nearly 16) and I have autism. In February, I started dating my first boyfriend. He was really nice to me, funny and we shared similar experiences and interests. Soon, when I started showing my autistic traits more and stopped masking, he became incredibly mean. He said that I was too autistic to date him, too sensitive, weird, and that I was too pretty for my personality (whatever... That means). He then told me I needed someone better than him. It became really unhealthy, and then he broke up with me just a mere 3 months later. I wasn't sad over the breakup because the relationship was becoming something I didn't like, but I was sad due to the offensive remarks he had made about me. I also felt regretful, as I had trusted him wholeheartedly and showed him a side of me that I never showed anyone before.
Because of this, I don't know if I'll date again. I definitely won't be dating any boy in my school because I can't bond with them that well, I can hardly bond with the girls to be friends with them. My own friend told me she could never see me getting married or being in a long-term relationship and this made it worse.
I'm 15 (nearly 16) and I have autism. In February, I started dating my first boyfriend. He was really nice to me, funny and we shared similar experiences and interests. Soon, when I started showing my autistic traits more and stopped masking, he became incredibly mean. He said that I was too autistic to date him, too sensitive, weird, and that I was too pretty for my personality (whatever... That means). He then told me I needed someone better than him. It became really unhealthy, and then he broke up with me just a mere 3 months later. I wasn't sad over the breakup because the relationship was becoming something I didn't like, but I was sad due to the offensive remarks he had made about me. I also felt regretful, as I had trusted him wholeheartedly and showed him a side of me that I never showed anyone before.
Because of this, I don't know if I'll date again. I definitely won't be dating any boy in my school because I can't bond with them that well, I can hardly bond with the girls to be friends with them. My own friend told me she could never see me getting married or being in a long-term relationship and this made it worse.
I went through something similar a year ago and from a personal view point I understand the feeling of never wanting to date again. As I said it’s been a year but I’ve found a new and healthy relationship with someone I was great friends with before we started dating so maybe try and find someone that you connect with before dating and if at some point you start seeing red flag is recommended leaving. It might hurt you and the other person but it would be easier in the long run even if it’s harder.
Also recommend giving yourself some time to let go, relax and spend time with friends doing activities that you like. Reminding yourself that there’s other things than relationships can really help 👍
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