Attachment issues
I honestly thought i’d formed a connection with one of my teachers but now that i’ve left I’m starting to feel like it was all one sided and that she never cared about me at all which is obviously fine but just hurts that she was only nice bc she HAD to be not bc she cared.
And Idk how to deal with this now, I feel so rejected and I can’t stop thinking and stressing ab results day bc obviously the grades and uni but also bc i’ll have to see her
And Idk how to deal with this now, I feel so rejected and I can’t stop thinking and stressing ab results day bc obviously the grades and uni but also bc i’ll have to see her
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That sucks
Reply 2
Original post by Anonymous
I honestly thought i’d formed a connection with one of my teachers but now that i’ve left I’m starting to feel like it was all one sided and that she never cared about me at all which is obviously fine but just hurts that she was only nice bc she HAD to be not bc she cared.
And Idk how to deal with this now, I feel so rejected and I can’t stop thinking and stressing ab results day bc obviously the grades and uni but also bc i’ll have to see her
And Idk how to deal with this now, I feel so rejected and I can’t stop thinking and stressing ab results day bc obviously the grades and uni but also bc i’ll have to see her
Just because someone does not care about you to the same extent you care about them does not mean they dont care about you. But you have to be realistic, she would not be as good a teacher if she felt a students loss so strongly, as remember she has to do this every year with perhaps 100 plus students. Can you imagine what that would be like if she did, having 100 close relationships end in one go every single year and have to start all over again? No one i know could cope with this, and so teachers learn to care about people but at a distance, never allowing themselves to get completely immersed in the relationship and thus preventing them getting as hurt when it ends. It still doesnt mean she doesnt care or faked it though, it just means she has to move on to form new relationships with the next 100 students. If it meant something to you, it meant something, but now like your teacher you must move on to the next experience. Id wager in time you will realise it wasnt the loss of her that hurt but instead the loss of a supportive and caring adult relationship. It sounds like she has gifted you a template of what you need, but your job now is to thank her by developing this with other people outside of school.
Greg
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