Is it normal to get hit by your parents at 18 years old?

Is this a normal thing because I thought my parents would stop once I became an adult but they haven’t. Anyone have similar experiences ?

Reply 1

Admit-One

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It's not normal, no. I believe that growing up it's more common in some cultures than others, but anywhere around 18 I would think is very uncommon.

Anecdotally, I can only recall getting a smack on the legs once when i was very young. So to me, anything beyond that is basically abuse. But your mileage may vary.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Genuinely if your experiencing this sort of treatment especially from your parents then they they obviously have issues. No it’s not normal to be hit by anyone and it shouldn’t be happening. Honestly, if your ever in this type of situation again try and stand up for yourself as hard as it may be. Your an adult now and on one deserves to be subjected to this kind of abuse. Xx

Reply 3

Trinculo

Lol, no. If you are getting hit by your parents over the age of 18, that's straight up no questions asked domestic violence. What you do about it is up to you because if you go public with it, you'll almost certainly have to move out.

Reply 4

DarylO

It's not normal. I'm not the type to see physical discipline as abuse, as long as it isn't excessive. A little pop on the back of the hand or pinch on the ear doesn't phase me. However, parents who do that are of the opinion that little kids understand that better than words. At 18, you're more than old enough to understand words and they have no excuse to lay their hands on you. They can't hit you just because they disagree with the choices you make as an adult. Now, it's a matter of trying to control you instead of trying to educate you, and that's abusive. My parents are very strict yet I remember they stopped physical discipline when I was 11 and told them to speak to me like a human instead of smacking me. I did a lot of silly things after and they spoke to me about it because I could understand conversations. They wouldn't dare hit me at 18.

Reply 5

farawaymum

Original post by Anonymous

Is this a normal thing because I thought my parents would stop once I became an adult but they haven’t. Anyone have similar experiences ?

It’s not normal at all. Parents who hit their grown children need therapy or stern warnings from law enforcement.
I come from a culture where they try to portray it as ‘after all it’s your parent only, so forgive him’. But it is just not okay. The behaviour has to change.

Reply 6

JDINCINERATOR

It's not normal, but I think many growing up got hit by their parents but the behaviour dwindles in time. You should warn them that you're an adult and that you could get them in trouble with the police for it. You gotta stand up for yourself now that you're 18, nobody's going to do it for you.

Reply 7

maxxisz

Original post by Anonymous

Is this a normal thing because I thought my parents would stop once I became an adult but they haven’t. Anyone have similar experiences ?

I still get the odd smacks around the face. I think it was last year or before that when I was 18. I got pushed a couple of months ago or maybe last year. Doesn't really happen often. I do remember sitting on the train and I saw what I think was a dad whacking his son with an umbrella and pushing his face. It does happen although it shouldn't.

(edited 10 months ago)

Reply 8

Anonymous #3

Original post by maxxisz

I would immediately report that to Police using 999. You would be amazed how quick Police will come out for children involvement. Could have been stepfather, and as per news reports etc can be a lot of abuse by a few of them.

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