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I am a (15F) that is sexually active. I know I am pretty young for it but it’s wtv. I have had sex with my (15M) bf.( lost my virginity to him)There’s a problem tho. Every time I have sex with him I don’t feel anything. I let him do whatever he wants during sex because either way I don’t feel nothing. At first I started doubting that it was me. then I remembered that I simply do feel pleasure with two small fingers so it couldn’t be me.Then I thought it was because I wasn’t tight butttt there’s times he struggles to put it in because of how tight I am. But still the doubt is still here. The only feeling I do be getting rarely is just pain. I used to get horny when he would kiss my neck suck on my breast and stuff but when it came to having sex I just ended up getting bored. I have to pretend that I like it and have to fake moan. I act like I want more and I haven’t told him anything because I know it would really mess up his pride and I’m not going to do that. Now it’s so difficult for me to get horny with him I try to get horny and I just can’t even when he does the things that got me horny before don’t work. It’s like if I have lost all desire with him. I keep having sex with him till this moment just it’s hard to get in the mood. The thing is that I’m a very like horny person just that idk this is happening to me out of the blue. I don’t know what to do because I also want to feel good I don’t want to keep faking orgasms and fake moaning.i also try to get in a position ones in a while to see if that’s whats the problem but it doesn’t work. Any advice on what I can do to solve this problem ? Pls don’t judge!!!

Reply 1

Original post by Anonymous
I am a (15F) that is sexually active. I know I am pretty young for it but it’s wtv. I have had sex with my (15M) bf.( lost my virginity to him)There’s a problem tho. Every time I have sex with him I don’t feel anything. I let him do whatever he wants during sex because either way I don’t feel nothing. At first I started doubting that it was me. then I remembered that I simply do feel pleasure with two small fingers so it couldn’t be me.Then I thought it was because I wasn’t tight butttt there’s times he struggles to put it in because of how tight I am. But still the doubt is still here. The only feeling I do be getting rarely is just pain. I used to get horny when he would kiss my neck suck on my breast and stuff but when it came to having sex I just ended up getting bored. I have to pretend that I like it and have to fake moan. I act like I want more and I haven’t told him anything because I know it would really mess up his pride and I’m not going to do that. Now it’s so difficult for me to get horny with him I try to get horny and I just can’t even when he does the things that got me horny before don’t work. It’s like if I have lost all desire with him. I keep having sex with him till this moment just it’s hard to get in the mood. The thing is that I’m a very like horny person just that idk this is happening to me out of the blue. I don’t know what to do because I also want to feel good I don’t want to keep faking orgasms and fake moaning.i also try to get in a position ones in a while to see if that’s whats the problem but it doesn’t work. Any advice on what I can do to solve this problem ? Pls don’t judge!!!

Have you ever reached orgasm by any method?

Reply 2

Original post by ageshallnot
Have you ever reached orgasm by any method?

Yes I have

Reply 3

Original post by Anonymous
Yes I have

By what method/s?

Reply 4

Original post by ageshallnot
By what method/s?

Like fingering, toys and ect

Reply 5

Original post by Anonymous
Like fingering, toys and ect

Well, comparing what you did with those what is the difference with intercourse? Different amounts of clitoral stimulation?

Have you orgasmed with your bf before or just solo?

Reply 6

You need to do something about the situation because continuing to have sex when you are not in the mood for it and when you are not enjoying is likely to cause you issues down the line. As ageshallnot has asked above, have a think about what's different about intercourse to what you normally enjoy, and whether there is any way of incorporating that into intercourse. Don't keep pretending you are enjoying sex if you are not, that is not doing anyone any good - I would hope your boyfriend wants you to have a good time too and if you are not telling him you are not, he doesn't know he needs to do things differently.

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