Friendship advice

My friend Is friends with someone who continously treats me badly. I tried to explain to my friend how this person treats me. They didn't get it and didn't seem to think it was true. So I chose to distance myself from that friend and find safer friendship spaces. However they have tried to reach out a few times now just thinking I'm busy not realising it's to do with them continuing to be friends with that person. Should I reply and explain the situation or should I just keep my distance. I was thinking maybe if they realised that it was to do with that situation I would feel comfortable meeting and discussing but that's not the case.

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

I would let them know.

Reply 2

JDINCINERATOR

If friends aren't listening to you then you're wasting your time communicating with them. You should find people who understand you and can give you the advice you want in this situation. You could answer them and ask them straight about listening to you about these problems, and if they don't help you out, then leave them and find the help you seek from someone you know is reliable. You deserve to be taken seriously when you are serious.

Reply 3

sasha201

it might be a good idea to reach out to this friend and be completely honest about everything that’s bothering you. you could say something like ‘person a is treating me really badly and i feel like you’re endorsing that behaviour. this is making me feel really unsure about the future of our friendship, because i don’t feel like you’re respecting me or my experiences.’ this person might be understanding of what’s happening if you talk openly about how you’ve been feeling. summarise it in one big conversation, just so everything is on the table! then you can both work from there and hopefully come to a conclusion - whether that’s working towards a better friendship or going your separate ways. wishing you luck! 🙂