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Feeling bad about myself

So I’m 21 almost 22 and feel very bad about myself because I just see all these people all over the world doing these great things like climbing the highest mountains , sailing the world or other great things and I just feel like I’m sitting here all these years in one place and accomplished nothing in my life . I never even travelled anywhere . My family celebrates me for going to university or in general people around me celebrate those with titles or high paying jobs like lawyers or engineers but to me that’s nothing compared to doing something big like climbing ever last or going to Antarctica . I feel really bad and like I’m not worth that much because of that and even when I try and think positive it’s hard . It dosnet help I live in a small town and spent years not really developing a passion for anything specific . Yes writing I would say is a passion of mine but it’s one of those things that’s almost impossible to get heard or make something out of it unlike something like music you can easily get heard . How do I overcome feeling inadequate whilst living where I do? I tried to accept it but the older I get the more it breaks my heart . I’m young and feel like I’m missing out on life and that I’ll just have to do a 9-5 office job and be worth nothing more than I am

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Original post by Anonymous
So I’m 21 almost 22 and feel very bad about myself because I just see all these people all over the world doing these great things like climbing the highest mountains , sailing the world or other great things and I just feel like I’m sitting here all these years in one place and accomplished nothing in my life . I never even travelled anywhere . My family celebrates me for going to university or in general people around me celebrate those with titles or high paying jobs like lawyers or engineers but to me that’s nothing compared to doing something big like climbing ever last or going to Antarctica . I feel really bad and like I’m not worth that much because of that and even when I try and think positive it’s hard . It dosnet help I live in a small town and spent years not really developing a passion for anything specific . Yes writing I would say is a passion of mine but it’s one of those things that’s almost impossible to get heard or make something out of it unlike something like music you can easily get heard . How do I overcome feeling inadequate whilst living where I do? I tried to accept it but the older I get the more it breaks my heart . I’m young and feel like I’m missing out on life and that I’ll just have to do a 9-5 office job and be worth nothing more than I am

You are still very young who can achieve and do things you wish to do.

Do you have an ambition? Aspirations? Hobbies and interests?

Would you like to do or travel places?

There is a lot of support out there such as:

-The Samaritans, you can call 116 123, which is available 24 hours a day

-Mind, 0300 123 3393

-Saneline, 0300 304 7000, from 4.30pm-10.30pm

-The mix, 0800 808 4994, 11am-11pm

-SHOUT, text 852258, 24 hour text service

-Crises, 741741, text service

-Papyrus, 0800 068 4141, if you have thoughts of suicide or in emotional distress

-Rethink mental health, 0300 5000 927

-No Panic, 0800 138 8889

-Relate, they have a chat advisor

-Mental Health 24/7: 0800 008 65

-hubofhope website, useful contact information for your local area

You can self refer yourself to talking therapies on the NHS website.

There is the mind forum

Also Facebook groups

You can join support groups

You can contact a crises team if things get very bad

Plenty of resources online, information regarding well being.

Reply 2

Original post by Anonymous
So I’m 21 almost 22 and feel very bad about myself because I just see all these people all over the world doing these great things like climbing the highest mountains , sailing the world or other great things and I just feel like I’m sitting here all these years in one place and accomplished nothing in my life . I never even travelled anywhere . My family celebrates me for going to university or in general people around me celebrate those with titles or high paying jobs like lawyers or engineers but to me that’s nothing compared to doing something big like climbing ever last or going to Antarctica . I feel really bad and like I’m not worth that much because of that and even when I try and think positive it’s hard . It dosnet help I live in a small town and spent years not really developing a passion for anything specific . Yes writing I would say is a passion of mine but it’s one of those things that’s almost impossible to get heard or make something out of it unlike something like music you can easily get heard . How do I overcome feeling inadequate whilst living where I do? I tried to accept it but the older I get the more it breaks my heart . I’m young and feel like I’m missing out on life and that I’ll just have to do a 9-5 office job and be worth nothing more than I am

Idk if I’m really like the best person for this considering I am only 16, but I know what’s it like to feel bad about yourself. one thing my therapist had me do that helped was make a list of all the things u don’t like about yourself, then make another list of things you would say to someone else if they were feeling that way. For example, “I hate my body”, you then would write a response, as if someone else had said that about themselves. We as humans are always so hard on ourselves, we say things to ourselves that we would never think about saying to anyone else. Be kind

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