Sexual abuse and new relationship (TW)

Hey there,
Firstly, I am so sorry this happened to you, and it's amazing to hear you feel well enough to give dating another go.
In terms of how little or how much you tell your current partner, that is choice only you can make.
There definitely isn't any right or wrong answer, but what I can say is that a suitable partner would respect your wishes and do everything in their power to make sure your wellbeing is at the forefront. And they can and should go at a pace that suits you, whatever that may involve.
Whatever you decide, I wish you well

Thanks so much for your comment and for reminding me that the right partner will care about my well-being, because it can be hard to remember that sometimes. Things are still very far off intimacy with this new person but I have decided I will not tell him anything beforehand and see how things go. If I do freak out, his reaction will probably help me gauge whether the relationship is worth continuing to pursue further or whether it is still not the right time for me/he is not the right person.

To cut a long story short, I'm an adult (female) but my only experience of sex has been in a sexually abusive relationship and I have not had sexual contact with anyone since it ended several years ago. I'm now in a position where I am speaking to someone and things are possibly heading in the direction of a relationship. And I don't know whether I should tell him that I have been abused?
I honestly don't know how I will react to being in intimate situation - the abuse escalated towards the end with my ex and the last time we were together, he tried to break some hard boundaries that he knew I was 100% not OK with so that is my last memory of sex. I don't watch porn or masturbate often, but I sometimes get very upset watching porn, even if it is clearly consensual and is female pleasure focused. I got triggered very badly and cried on the nurse when I had my last smear. I have never spoken to anyone about the abuse irl.
I'm at a loss as to what to do. I do feel sexually attracted to this new person and I would want to have sex with him if things got to that but I'm just worried that it might not go how I want to because of what's happened in the past.
Any advice? I appreciate I am likely to need therapy to get over this but it's not an option at the moment.
Thanks on advance for any replies.

To be honest I have been in the position of your proposed boyfriend, twice in fact. My feeling were compassion and seriously wanting to help them ,get them therapy etc, I would never think badly of them because they were abused.