help a girl out of her dilemma

Hi, So I've been talking to a guy from Instagram since Jan2024, ever since the beginning he talks about wanting to go on a trip with me and how crazy and fun and adventurous its gonna be. I suggested lets meet within the city for starters but he doesnt wanna do that. He always wanna either go to the hills or island or somewhere on a vacation but never within the city. What is he upto?
PS: Recently I found out from an Instagram post of his that he took a girl out somewhere within the city. I am not complaining as to why he took someone else out as we are nothing serious and Im aware of it, but my concern is why does he not wanna go out with me within the city ??
Does he actually doesnt want to go out with me thats why he talks of a vacation (cuz he know that might never happen lol)
Also, pretty recently he said, he is ready to wait for us to take the trip no matter how much time it takes, cuz "he likes doing things a certain way, and that is on the trip and not in the city"

Help ur girl out plsss xx

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

Hi, So I've been talking to a guy from Instagram since Jan2024, ever since the beginning he talks about wanting to go on a trip with me and how crazy and fun and adventurous its gonna be. I suggested lets meet within the city for starters but he doesnt wanna do that. He always wanna either go to the hills or island or somewhere on a vacation but never within the city. What is he upto?
PS: Recently I found out from an Instagram post of his that he took a girl out somewhere within the city. I am not complaining as to why he took someone else out as we are nothing serious and Im aware of it, but my concern is why does he not wanna go out with me within the city ??
Does he actually doesnt want to go out with me thats why he talks of a vacation (cuz he know that might never happen lol)
Also, pretty recently he said, he is ready to wait for us to take the trip no matter how much time it takes, cuz "he likes doing things a certain way, and that is on the trip and not in the city"
Help ur girl out plsss xx

That sounds super sketchy. Either he has bad intentions, which is why he wants to take you somewhere quiet. Or he has a girlfriend? Maybe he’s scared of getting caught. So he wants to take you somewhere he knows his friends, cousins of girlfriend won’t be at risk of seeing you?

Whatever the reason is, don’t go.

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Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

Hi, So I've been talking to a guy from Instagram since Jan2024, ever since the beginning he talks about wanting to go on a trip with me and how crazy and fun and adventurous its gonna be. I suggested lets meet within the city for starters but he doesnt wanna do that. He always wanna either go to the hills or island or somewhere on a vacation but never within the city. What is he upto?
PS: Recently I found out from an Instagram post of his that he took a girl out somewhere within the city. I am not complaining as to why he took someone else out as we are nothing serious and Im aware of it, but my concern is why does he not wanna go out with me within the city ??
Does he actually doesnt want to go out with me thats why he talks of a vacation (cuz he know that might never happen lol)
Also, pretty recently he said, he is ready to wait for us to take the trip no matter how much time it takes, cuz "he likes doing things a certain way, and that is on the trip and not in the city"
Help ur girl out plsss xx

In would NOT even consider doing that EVER. For all you know he could be a serial killer or anything. Really you need to know him fully before you go anywhere with him. Do NOT put yourself at risk. I can tell you this little story about why you have to be soooo careful. Nextmthing you know he will ask you to take out a life insurance policy ,lol.

SERIOUSLY, tell him, before you go ANYWHERE you want to know him, his real name, his address everything. If he cannot trust you enough to tell you all, then do not trust him at all. Unless you dont value your life !!

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Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

In would NOT even consider doing that EVER. For all you know he could be a serial killer or anything. Really you need to know him fully before you go anywhere with him. Do NOT put yourself at risk. I can tell you this little story about why you have to be soooo careful. Nextmthing you know he will ask you to take out a life insurance policy ,lol.
SERIOUSLY, tell him, before you go ANYWHERE you want to know him, his real name, his address everything. If he cannot trust you enough to tell you all, then do not trust him at all. Unless you dont value your life !!

I didnt put the story I was going to put because its not really relevant, just someone who tried to Poison me etc and how you cannot ever really "know" someone until you have known them for Years.

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Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Anonymous

In would NOT even consider doing that EVER. For all you know he could be a serial killer or anything. Really you need to know him fully before you go anywhere with him. Do NOT put yourself at risk. I can tell you this little story about why you have to be soooo careful. Nextmthing you know he will ask you to take out a life insurance policy ,lol.
SERIOUSLY, tell him, before you go ANYWHERE you want to know him, his real name, his address everything. If he cannot trust you enough to tell you all, then do not trust him at all. Unless you dont value your life !!

Hi, so we've talking for the past 6 months and gotten to know each other pretty well. Its just that we havent met in person and he is wayy too intrigued at the thought of "meeting someone for the first time on a trip".

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Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Anonymous

I didnt put the story I was going to put because its not really relevant, just someone who tried to Poison me etc and how you cannot ever really "know" someone until you have known them for Years.

Oh dear, I am sooo scared rn just after hearing what happened to you. I am really sorry for what happened to you. Thank you thank you soo much for your advice. ly all xxx

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Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Anonymous

That sounds super sketchy. Either he has bad intentions, which is why he wants to take you somewhere quiet. Or he has a girlfriend? Maybe he’s scared of getting caught. So he wants to take you somewhere he knows his friends, cousins of girlfriend won’t be at risk of seeing you?
Whatever the reason is, don’t go.

yeah, he's prolly too-timing his gf. Sounds like a pretty plausible reason. thnxx gurll xoxo

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Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

Hi, so we've talking for the past 6 months and gotten to know each other pretty well. Its just that we havent met in person and he is wayy too intrigued at the thought of "meeting someone for the first time on a trip".

My advice. Do NOT put your guard down. Say you will meet him somewhere like McD's with your friend and suss him out in person. Do not even think of meeting him somweher he suggests ,You keep control if you choose where and when (daytime ,busy location) and with a friend (of yours)

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Anonymous #3

And that is another thing have to be aware of "Rohypnol" is a drug people can put in a drink ,easily, and you would not likely remember anything that happened. THAT is another reason to be wary of meeting someone new, alone etc. Sorry but there are all things that can go wrong in reality. I think I was assault. Person I met handed me a drink, like a fool I drank some of
it. I cannot recall all that time, only one thing where I was struggling with someone. Clearly someting was in my drink.

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Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

yeah, he's prolly too-timing his gf. Sounds like a pretty plausible reason. thnxx gurll xoxo

Nope I think something other than that, not a girlfriend maybe he "playing a long game" simply taking his time with you
build up your trust in him ...etc etc. As I say, do NOT trust him until he has earned your trust. Ask his name, where he lives etc, check it all out . Do NOT risk being alone with him anywhere as believe me things can happen you wont want to.

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emma2892

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Original post by Anonymous

Hi, So I've been talking to a guy from Instagram since Jan2024, ever since the beginning he talks about wanting to go on a trip with me and how crazy and fun and adventurous its gonna be. I suggested lets meet within the city for starters but he doesnt wanna do that. He always wanna either go to the hills or island or somewhere on a vacation but never within the city. What is he upto?
PS: Recently I found out from an Instagram post of his that he took a girl out somewhere within the city. I am not complaining as to why he took someone else out as we are nothing serious and Im aware of it, but my concern is why does he not wanna go out with me within the city ??
Does he actually doesnt want to go out with me thats why he talks of a vacation (cuz he know that might never happen lol)
Also, pretty recently he said, he is ready to wait for us to take the trip no matter how much time it takes, cuz "he likes doing things a certain way, and that is on the trip and not in the city"
Help ur girl out plsss xx

Not to be rude but aren't you interested in anything? Why are you so obsessed with men don't you know they're a lost cause

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Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Anonymous

Nope I think something other than that, not a girlfriend maybe he "playing a long game" simply taking his time with you
build up your trust in him ...etc etc. As I say, do NOT trust him until he has earned your trust. Ask his name, where he lives etc, check it all out . Do NOT risk being alone with him anywhere as believe me things can happen you wont want to.

Nah I mean we've spoken on calls, video calls just havent met in person :3

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Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by emma2892

Not to be rude but aren't you interested in anything? Why are you so obsessed with men don't you know they're a lost cause

hahah you had me in the first half

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Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

Nah I mean we've spoken on calls, video calls just havent met in person :3

really need to totally suss him out though firstly. I mean, he might say that you will meet in middle on nowhere ,with no one else around to help you. Ted Bundy looked really nice, was very charismatic, had many friends in Uni,was good looking for girls, and yet he was a serial killer . Not trying to scare you but point to why you need to know someone well before going anywhere remote with them.

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Iuliana99999

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If he really wants to meet on a trip and you're into the idea, bring a few friends along and ask him to bring a couple too. That was you can get to know him in a safer environment. Idk, food for thought

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MDB512024

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My advice here is simply to steer well clear.

If he was as into you as he makes out that he is, he would meet you in the city regardless of his idea of wanting to go into the hills, this does seem like a very dicey situation and as everyone else is saying, DO NOT meet him and my apologies for saying that but I have to agree.

Be very careful !!!!!!!!!

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Anonymous #3

As I said, please look up "TED BUNDY" and read about him. I would have used the same patter on you perhaps, "come up into the hills with me, " so there is no one to hear your screams etc . Im just saying.... and warning. NO NICE GUY would insist on going "into the hills" on a first date, if only because he would respect you enough NOT TO ASK.