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I think I’m aromantic

Hi 21f here -

I think I’m aromantic, I have been in one proper relationship of a sort before which was only a few months and dated a little before and after. I always find that u fall into such situations in dating rather than seeking it out myself. I date people who express interest in me a lot of time withoufht actually liking them that much.

I have had very few crushes in my life-3 maybe and struggle to show affection . Despite dating and being in a relationship before I’ve never kissed anyone or done anything like that. Not for any religious reason but because I feel if we kissed and that barrier is crossed we can never be freinds again and I also feel that I have not met a guy who I feel comfortable with doing so with. Showing affection makes me uncomfortable and I tend to tease a lot of the people I am with. J struggle to find people attractive if at all. I have dated people who many others find attractive and who are kind and eligible but I still could not be with them.

I’m not sure what’s wrong with me because on some level I crave that connection and I wish I could experience what others do in relationships. I have found people good looking before but I almost always get an unshakeable pick. The one person I have truly liked so far is arguable a bad partner despite how good our convos have been. Relationships and dating make. Me so anxious but I love a good flirt and fans-holding moment. I feel rreallly isolated in this atm. Wondering if it’s some sort of trauma response to being so Btorelationship and sex when I was younger. I don’t swoon or get crushes like others do and in my youth could only tell someone was attractive when others mentioned they were.

Reply 1

mbainger

Original post by Anonymous

Hi 21f here -
I think I’m aromantic, I have been in one proper relationship of a sort before which was only a few months and dated a little before and after. I always find that u fall into such situations in dating rather than seeking it out myself. I date people who express interest in me a lot of time withoufht actually liking them that much.
I have had very few crushes in my life-3 maybe and struggle to show affection . Despite dating and being in a relationship before I’ve never kissed anyone or done anything like that. Not for any religious reason but because I feel if we kissed and that barrier is crossed we can never be freinds again and I also feel that I have not met a guy who I feel comfortable with doing so with. Showing affection makes me uncomfortable and I tend to tease a lot of the people I am with. J struggle to find people attractive if at all. I have dated people who many others find attractive and who are kind and eligible but I still could not be with them.
I’m not sure what’s wrong with me because on some level I crave that connection and I wish I could experience what others do in relationships. I have found people good looking before but I almost always get an unshakeable pick. The one person I have truly liked so far is arguable a bad partner despite how good our convos have been. Relationships and dating make. Me so anxious but I love a good flirt and fans-holding moment. I feel rreallly isolated in this atm. Wondering if it’s some sort of trauma response to being so Btorelationship and sex when I was younger. I don’t swoon or get crushes like others do and in my youth could only tell someone was attractive when others mentioned they were.

Hey, I don't really know exactly what you're searching for, but I'm 18m and aromantic too (aroace in fact, aromantic and asexual). I promise you are not alone in all of this, I understand the feeling of wanting to have the things that others do that come with a relationship but without having any of the actual attraction, and there is nothing wrong with any of it and there's nothing wrong with you. I'm here if you need to talk about it at all or to have someone who understands being aromantic, I'm happy to pm 🙂

Reply 2

emma2892

Original post by Anonymous

Hi 21f here -
I think I’m aromantic, I have been in one proper relationship of a sort before which was only a few months and dated a little before and after. I always find that u fall into such situations in dating rather than seeking it out myself. I date people who express interest in me a lot of time withoufht actually liking them that much.
I have had very few crushes in my life-3 maybe and struggle to show affection . Despite dating and being in a relationship before I’ve never kissed anyone or done anything like that. Not for any religious reason but because I feel if we kissed and that barrier is crossed we can never be freinds again and I also feel that I have not met a guy who I feel comfortable with doing so with. Showing affection makes me uncomfortable and I tend to tease a lot of the people I am with. J struggle to find people attractive if at all. I have dated people who many others find attractive and who are kind and eligible but I still could not be with them.
I’m not sure what’s wrong with me because on some level I crave that connection and I wish I could experience what others do in relationships. I have found people good looking before but I almost always get an unshakeable pick. The one person I have truly liked so far is arguable a bad partner despite how good our convos have been. Relationships and dating make. Me so anxious but I love a good flirt and fans-holding moment. I feel rreallly isolated in this atm. Wondering if it’s some sort of trauma response to being so Btorelationship and sex when I was younger. I don’t swoon or get crushes like others do and in my youth could only tell someone was attractive when others mentioned they were.

Hey - I'm 29f and asexual. I had relationships previously that were sexual but didn't do anything for me personally. It does deepen the bond however I think I should have been more true to myself. Perhaps there are aromantic dating apps you could find? Just search for it in Play Store. Fingers crossed you can meet someone who is also aromantic!! Good luck!!

Reply 3

emma2892

Original post by Anonymous

Hi 21f here -
I think I’m aromantic, I have been in one proper relationship of a sort before which was only a few months and dated a little before and after. I always find that u fall into such situations in dating rather than seeking it out myself. I date people who express interest in me a lot of time withoufht actually liking them that much.
I have had very few crushes in my life-3 maybe and struggle to show affection . Despite dating and being in a relationship before I’ve never kissed anyone or done anything like that. Not for any religious reason but because I feel if we kissed and that barrier is crossed we can never be freinds again and I also feel that I have not met a guy who I feel comfortable with doing so with. Showing affection makes me uncomfortable and I tend to tease a lot of the people I am with. J struggle to find people attractive if at all. I have dated people who many others find attractive and who are kind and eligible but I still could not be with them.
I’m not sure what’s wrong with me because on some level I crave that connection and I wish I could experience what others do in relationships. I have found people good looking before but I almost always get an unshakeable pick. The one person I have truly liked so far is arguable a bad partner despite how good our convos have been. Relationships and dating make. Me so anxious but I love a good flirt and fans-holding moment. I feel rreallly isolated in this atm. Wondering if it’s some sort of trauma response to being so Btorelationship and sex when I was younger. I don’t swoon or get crushes like others do and in my youth could only tell someone was attractive when others mentioned they were.