I told him it hurt be he kept going

Is this SA? This happened a few months ago and it’s kinda been lurking in my mind since. I haven’t really told anyone since I didn’t think it was SA at the time and that it was fine for me to just put up with it. At the time I wasn’t 100% comfortable with having sex but I did it anyway bc I felt too scared to tell him no when we were in the hotel room, I only thought we might just chat and then leave (this was obviously not his intention) and then he kinda just started on me and I didn’t really have the opportunity to tell him stop. Now I know I could’ve told him to stop but I honestly just didn’t feel comfortable. I then told him that it hurt a few seconds in and he just carried on. Anyway I ended up with cervical bruising so since I’ve just wondered if it was SA as I’ve been trying to justify it all. Thanks to anyone who reads this.

Is this SA? This happened a few months ago and it’s kinda been lurking in my mind since. I haven’t really told anyone since I didn’t think it was SA at the time and that it was fine for me to just put up with it. At the time I wasn’t 100% comfortable with having sex but I did it anyway bc I felt too scared to tell him no when we were in the hotel room, I only thought we might just chat and then leave (this was obviously not his intention) and then he kinda just started on me and I didn’t really have the opportunity to tell him stop. Now I know I could’ve told him to stop but I honestly just didn’t feel comfortable. I then told him that it hurt a few seconds in and he just carried on. Anyway I ended up with cervical bruising so since I’ve just wondered if it was SA as I’ve been trying to justify it all. Thanks to anyone who reads this.

Hey! I went through a similar situation to you, and I found it very upsetting during and after it happened. If you had cervical bruising then it’s clear he must have been being forceful, and regardless of whether you gave clear consent or not he should have stopped when you told him it was painful. You have a right to be listened to and the fact that he knew he was hurting you shows he was taking advantage, along with the hurt this has caused you for the past few months. Whether or not you want to take action against him, just know that you don’t owe anyone any part of yourself and nobody deserves to make you uncomfortable! Take care and know that you’re not alone in this <3

Is this SA? This happened a few months ago and it’s kinda been lurking in my mind since. I haven’t really told anyone since I didn’t think it was SA at the time and that it was fine for me to just put up with it. At the time I wasn’t 100% comfortable with having sex but I did it anyway bc I felt too scared to tell him no when we were in the hotel room, I only thought we might just chat and then leave (this was obviously not his intention) and then he kinda just started on me and I didn’t really have the opportunity to tell him stop. Now I know I could’ve told him to stop but I honestly just didn’t feel comfortable. I then told him that it hurt a few seconds in and he just carried on. Anyway I ended up with cervical bruising so since I’ve just wondered if it was SA as I’ve been trying to justify it all. Thanks to anyone who reads this.

Is this SA? This happened a few months ago and it’s kinda been lurking in my mind since. I haven’t really told anyone since I didn’t think it was SA at the time and that it was fine for me to just put up with it. At the time I wasn’t 100% comfortable with having sex but I did it anyway bc I felt too scared to tell him no when we were in the hotel room, I only thought we might just chat and then leave (this was obviously not his intention) and then he kinda just started on me and I didn’t really have the opportunity to tell him stop. Now I know I could’ve told him to stop but I honestly just didn’t feel comfortable. I then told him that it hurt a few seconds in and he just carried on. Anyway I ended up with cervical bruising so since I’ve just wondered if it was SA as I’ve been trying to justify it all. Thanks to anyone who reads this.

Thank you for your lovely reply. I’m really sorry that you went through a similar situation, it’s really shocking how common it is amongst women. I definitely feel a lot more validated with my feelings about the situation, so thank you.

Please read the below as well may be useful if you call them they are very good and will advise you,
https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/about-sexual-violence/sexual-consent/