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So I me this girl we were talking and everything and then she all of a sudden stopped talking to me and then it started at one side conversation which I hate…. I just think it is a waste of time personality …. Then a week an go we were doing a one sided conversation and when she responded with one word I left her on read …. Then this is what she told me …”Hey, I'm sorry that I kinda ghosted you in a way. At the time, it was just too much for me, and I'm sorry. I loved the time we spent talking and how much you cared for me. Again, I'm sorry you didn't deserve that” this is what I said “It’s okay I understand. I’m not mad. Why did you end up ghosting me and What makes you feel like it isn’t to much now? I’m a genuine person who cares and I cared a lot about you.” She said this I did it cuz it was to much for me to handle I've never had someone care that much about me and I didn't know how to react so I just left and I'm sorry. And ik you cared a lot I could see it but it scared me and I'm sorry u didn't deserve what I did to you. You deserve better” then I said this “I understand why you did it and it’s ok. thank you for being transparent with me I really appreciate it more than you know. If you want we can start over? then her Your welcome. And as far as can we start over can I think about it cuz i don't wanna jump in just to hurt you again.” I said this “You won’t hurt me again I promise. You just have to be honest with me of how you feel about a certain situation . And I’ll do the same… does that sound fair. If you still want to think about it.. and that’s okay… I’ll just be waiting” she said “I want to think about it then I said this “Ok I’ll be waiting for you then” …… Tell you the truth now I’ve never had someone tell me this before I was very surprised …. I stoped talking to other girls and snapping them because of her …..

The real reason I need help is because she hasn’t said anything since 2 weeks ago ……and I don’t want to loose her because I allow her to feel hurt.…. Should I say something or should I just wait it out until she responds or should I just move on all together?

Reply 1

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by Anonymous
So I me this girl we were talking and everything and then she all of a sudden stopped talking to me and then it started at one side conversation which I hate…. I just think it is a waste of time personality …. Then a week an go we were doing a one sided conversation and when she responded with one word I left her on read …. Then this is what she told me …”Hey, I'm sorry that I kinda ghosted you in a way. At the time, it was just too much for me, and I'm sorry. I loved the time we spent talking and how much you cared for me. Again, I'm sorry you didn't deserve that” this is what I said “It’s okay I understand. I’m not mad. Why did you end up ghosting me and What makes you feel like it isn’t to much now? I’m a genuine person who cares and I cared a lot about you.” She said this I did it cuz it was to much for me to handle I've never had someone care that much about me and I didn't know how to react so I just left and I'm sorry. And ik you cared a lot I could see it but it scared me and I'm sorry u didn't deserve what I did to you. You deserve better” then I said this “I understand why you did it and it’s ok. thank you for being transparent with me I really appreciate it more than you know. If you want we can start over? then her Your welcome. And as far as can we start over can I think about it cuz i don't wanna jump in just to hurt you again.” I said this “You won’t hurt me again I promise. You just have to be honest with me of how you feel about a certain situation . And I’ll do the same… does that sound fair. If you still want to think about it.. and that’s okay… I’ll just be waiting” she said “I want to think about it then I said this “Ok I’ll be waiting for you then” …… Tell you the truth now I’ve never had someone tell me this before I was very surprised …. I stoped talking to other girls and snapping them because of her …..
The real reason I need help is because she hasn’t said anything since 2 weeks ago ……and I don’t want to loose her because I allow her to feel hurt.…. Should I say something or should I just wait it out until she responds or should I just move on all together?

I think personally you probably should say smth because there's a big lack of communication which is necessary for any relationship. I think you need to make sure your feelings and thoughts are clear and make sure she does the same because you don't wanna assume smh that hasn't been confirmed. Have that conversation where you're both aware of the situation and from there you can decide what to do. If you have any other family or friends tho defo ask them what to do, I'm just offering a suggestion but regardless I hope it goes well and I wish you luck. Even if you lose her yk, im not sure if you have romantic feelings or it's a friendship thing but regarding both, love is not life or maybe she wasn't the best friend. If it gets to you tho, take some time for yourself and focus on self reflection and self improvement. Hope this helps

Reply 2

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by crazydiamond99
I think personally you probably should say smth because there's a big lack of communication which is necessary for any relationship. I think you need to make sure your feelings and thoughts are clear and make sure she does the same because you don't wanna assume smh that hasn't been confirmed. Have that conversation where you're both aware of the situation and from there you can decide what to do. If you have any other family or friends tho defo ask them what to do, I'm just offering a suggestion but regardless I hope it goes well and I wish you luck. Even if you lose her yk, im not sure if you have romantic feelings or it's a friendship thing but regarding both, love is not life or maybe she wasn't the best friend. If it gets to you tho, take some time for yourself and focus on self reflection and self improvement. Hope this helps

It did guy thanks and I will that actual
Lay really helped

Reply 3

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by Anonymous
So I me this girl we were talking and everything and then she all of a sudden stopped talking to me and then it started at one side conversation which I hate…. I just think it is a waste of time personality …. Then a week an go we were doing a one sided conversation and when she responded with one word I left her on read …. Then this is what she told me …”Hey, I'm sorry that I kinda ghosted you in a way. At the time, it was just too much for me, and I'm sorry. I loved the time we spent talking and how much you cared for me. Again, I'm sorry you didn't deserve that” this is what I said “It’s okay I understand. I’m not mad. Why did you end up ghosting me and What makes you feel like it isn’t to much now? I’m a genuine person who cares and I cared a lot about you.” She said this I did it cuz it was to much for me to handle I've never had someone care that much about me and I didn't know how to react so I just left and I'm sorry. And ik you cared a lot I could see it but it scared me and I'm sorry u didn't deserve what I did to you. You deserve better” then I said this “I understand why you did it and it’s ok. thank you for being transparent with me I really appreciate it more than you know. If you want we can start over? then her Your welcome. And as far as can we start over can I think about it cuz i don't wanna jump in just to hurt you again.” I said this “You won’t hurt me again I promise. You just have to be honest with me of how you feel about a certain situation . And I’ll do the same… does that sound fair. If you still want to think about it.. and that’s okay… I’ll just be waiting” she said “I want to think about it then I said this “Ok I’ll be waiting for you then” …… Tell you the truth now I’ve never had someone tell me this before I was very surprised …. I stoped talking to other girls and snapping them because of her …..
The real reason I need help is because she hasn’t said anything since 2 weeks ago ……and I don’t want to loose her because I allow her to feel hurt.…. Should I say something or should I just wait it out until she responds or should I just move on all together?

Honestly, if I was you, I'd just move on because she probably has commitment issues. I can understand her side completely... but there's no point trying to make something work if both sides aren't putting the effort in.

Reply 4

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by Anonymous
Honestly, if I was you, I'd just move on because she probably has commitment issues. I can understand her side completely... but there's no point trying to make something work if both sides aren't putting the effort in.

Ok that makes sence …..if she’s having troubles then she needs to on herself….. then I’ll leave it at that….any other advice from anyone

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