sex

why does my body tighten up when i try to have sex with men as soon as “it” tries to go in there. It hurts and its like a wall. But when i do it alone with dildos it goes in better but still with some pain. And btw im a virgin with sex with men

I think it could be anticipation and nervousness having sex with a guy for the first time could be whats causing you to tighten up. It happened to me after a guy forced himself upon me the first time I had consensual sex. I'm now a lot more confident when I have sex...especially with someone more experienced in having it