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I'm a big introvert so i don't talk to many people. I don't have any guy friends bc of that - I go to an all girls school but now school is over and I may start uni soon. Im scared bc Im doing a male majority course. It's not like idk how to talk to boys, I just don't know how to talk to anyone.
I'm also scared of getting close to someone. I hate to be dependent on someone, someone knowing everything abt me, I'm also massively scared of long term commitment. I like the idea of having someone by my side but then that normally means marriage and I hate the sound of that. idk what to do. I am attracted to boys but I just never had the chance to actually like one because again, I'm shy and have no social life.

Reply 1

Old Skool Freak

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Original post by Anonymous

I'm a big introvert so i don't talk to many people. I don't have any guy friends bc of that - I go to an all girls school but now school is over and I may start uni soon. Im scared bc Im doing a male majority course. It's not like idk how to talk to boys, I just don't know how to talk to anyone.
I'm also scared of getting close to someone. I hate to be dependent on someone, someone knowing everything abt me, I'm also massively scared of long term commitment. I like the idea of having someone by my side but then that normally means marriage and I hate the sound of that. idk what to do. I am attracted to boys but I just never had the chance to actually like one because again, I'm shy and have no social life.

Lol, don't worry about it... instead do something about it.

I'm assuming you've got some friends from your school? Can you not arrange to meet up with some of them over the summer? Do any of them have brothers? You can practice talking to them for a start. Also, if you're in a shop or something, you can maybe ask a male shop assistant where something is or about a particular product. Also, if any of your school friends are more confident, maybe go for a day downtown with them and get them to take the lead in most things.

It sounds like you've still got a few years before you go to Uni, so you've got plenty of time to work on your shyness. Just bear in mind, time doesn't wait for anyone and it will pass faster than you think. The sooner you do something about it, the sooner you'll see results... so don't get into the bad habit of procrastinating. Moreover, you say you're doing a male dominated course... so I'm assuming it's something like a core science; engineering or computing. If so, don't worry, cause most of the guys there won't know how to talk to girls either 🤣

Finally, slow down tiger... there's a long road between that first date and getting married. In fact, I'd be very surprised if you actually married your first ever boyfriend (not that I'll ever find out about it). Just treat it all as a bit of fun... and when you eventually meet the right guy, all the necessary steps will flow naturally (and you'll love it 🥰🏓😍)

(edited 10 months ago)

Reply 2

black tea

19

Being in a relationship does not mean you have to be dependent on the other person. It also doesn't mean you have to tell the other person everything about yourself (and even if you do, remember that this is not one-sided - your partner will share things about themselves too). And most relationships do not end in marriage. All you are committing to when you start a relationship (especially at your age) is spending time with someone you like. You can end things at any point so don't overcomplicate it.

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

I'm a big introvert so i don't talk to many people. I don't have any guy friends bc of that - I go to an all girls school but now school is over and I may start uni soon. Im scared bc Im doing a male majority course. It's not like idk how to talk to boys, I just don't know how to talk to anyone.
I'm also scared of getting close to someone. I hate to be dependent on someone, someone knowing everything abt me, I'm also massively scared of long term commitment. I like the idea of having someone by my side but then that normally means marriage and I hate the sound of that. idk what to do. I am attracted to boys but I just never had the chance to actually like one because again, I'm shy and have no social life.

When u was homeschooled and went back to 6 form I used to make small talk with everyone. For example, while getting coffee, I would mention something trivial about the weather—basically stating the obvious. Another important aspect is getting a job. This helps a lot because you really need to put yourself in 'normal' uncomfortable situations. It takes a while, but you’ll pick it up."

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Azzy88

8

Seems like a female version of me xD.

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hjgugu

4

Original post by Anonymous

I'm a big introvert so i don't talk to many people. I don't have any guy friends bc of that - I go to an all girls school but now school is over and I may start uni soon. Im scared bc Im doing a male majority course. It's not like idk how to talk to boys, I just don't know how to talk to anyone.
I'm also scared of getting close to someone. I hate to be dependent on someone, someone knowing everything abt me, I'm also massively scared of long term commitment. I like the idea of having someone by my side but then that normally means marriage and I hate the sound of that. idk what to do. I am attracted to boys but I just never had the chance to actually like one because again, I'm shy and have no social life.

Used to be the same. Decided to do something about it, takes effort and practice you can train yourself to be as social as you want. "I just don't know how to talk to anyone" strangely this book is one of the best 'How to talk to anyone' https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Talk-Anyone-Success-Relationships-ebook/dp/B00BAJ2MYM/ref=sr_1_3?crid=3IRDTQ2F3MRI&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.98kRq2vs_c3GQh6nGkDqxvYbaL43P-0ICOZKRT-RAdUufr402HJQUDpUyNXkyX-xJkjGIHJAFNtUrbvEsViftCxDoYFTsfXZF2IxBCK7VzT7yP5he7wfg4BS0OJvuL9CvtM4DhWdeRuvsNoOh0sdZeQtdxRwC6997wNdoCZFlKDUphgf2uslkSKRsTq3XECezB72HT5gwjiC6LKVeSf725QpOWVPgAZQIWCQq-6yylw.rkC6v3vdOu4Ch8GqE1jlY6sL7y4wQwEylJLPT_USmII&dib_tag=se&keywords=how+to+talk+to+anyone&qid=1722704916&s=books&sprefix=how+to+talk+to+%2Cstripbooks%2C74&sr=1-3

Good luck!

(edited 9 months ago)

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