Virgin... Afraid ashamed

Hi all, just looking for advice please..
I'm still a virgin, i suffer from anxiety. I have been on couple of dates recently but I keep having these thoughts like... I won't be able to have sex, as in let him in... Up whatever you want to say... I struggle to get tampon in!!
Also I've never even kissed anyone before 😭😭

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Reply 1

Anonymous #1

Original post by Arkdragon9

Hi all, just looking for advice please..
I'm still a virgin, i suffer from anxiety. I have been on couple of dates recently but I keep having these thoughts like... I won't be able to have sex, as in let him in... Up whatever you want to say... I struggle to get tampon in!!
Also I've never even kissed anyone before 😭😭

How old are you ?

Reply 2

ageshallnot

21

Original post by Arkdragon9

Hi all, just looking for advice please..
I'm still a virgin, i suffer from anxiety. I have been on couple of dates recently but I keep having these thoughts like... I won't be able to have sex, as in let him in... Up whatever you want to say... I struggle to get tampon in!!
Also I've never even kissed anyone before 😭😭

If you've never been kissed before why are you worrying about sexual intercourse? Little steps...

Reply 3

Doomotron

18

Original post by Arkdragon9

Hi all, just looking for advice please..
I'm still a virgin, i suffer from anxiety. I have been on couple of dates recently but I keep having these thoughts like... I won't be able to have sex, as in let him in... Up whatever you want to say... I struggle to get tampon in!!
Also I've never even kissed anyone before 😭😭

To be clear, do you have anxiety because of being a virgin or because of the other thing? Either way I don't think there's much to worry about. Most people will act no different to you if you're a virgin or not, and there are things that can be done about the tightness as well.

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Forlornsoul

13

Remember that at some point, everyone has gone through this same situation, it's understandable you're nervous. Nothing to be ashamed about though
But the right partner will work with you at a pace you're comfortable with

Reply 5

Arkdragon9

OP

1

I do suffer from general anxiety & am on medication. As regards kissing etc... I feel I've been close to it happening a couple of times but I've backed away.. Mainly cause I think I can't do it... Or won't do it right...

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Original post by Arkdragon9

I do suffer from general anxiety & am on medication. As regards kissing etc... I feel I've been close to it happening a couple of times but I've backed away.. Mainly cause I think I can't do it... Or won't do it right...

KIssing is just a beautiful thing, and can have butterflies from that alone. I remember kissing a girl when we were lying down ,clothed, and she was kind of sucking on my bottom lip and I was sucking on her top lip. It really was very nice and enjoyed. I would suggest you forget about sex and concentrate on kissing, it is easy ,and eventually it will affect other parts of your body.

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Anonymous #1

Original post by Anonymous

KIssing is just a beautiful thing, and can have butterflies from that alone. I remember kissing a girl when we were lying down ,clothed, and she was kind of sucking on my bottom lip and I was sucking on her top lip. It really was very nice and enjoyed. I would suggest you forget about sex and concentrate on kissing, it is easy ,and eventually it will affect other parts of your body.

It is just nice to explore to things slowly and not rush into "the act". Enjoy the other things like kissing, and cuddling etc and you will get pleasure from that .Later you can decide when you are ready, much better that way. Do not let anyone rush you into anything, you should have full control .

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Arkdragon9

Hi all, just looking for advice please..
I'm still a virgin, i suffer from anxiety. I have been on couple of dates recently but I keep having these thoughts like... I won't be able to have sex, as in let him in... Up whatever you want to say... I struggle to get tampon in!!
Also I've never even kissed anyone before 😭😭

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