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is she into me?

Hi all,

So I was speaking to this girl late last year, met on a date once and talked for a good few months before she said she wasn't ready for a relationship which hurt a lot as i was head over heels for the girl which is rare for me ill be honest.

Fast forward 7 months and she came up on my linkedin (of all places i know) as a suggestion to which i screenshotted and sent to her as a laugh. We got talking but nothing like we were originally with replies being very slow mainly from her side but i can also take a bit of time as i don't want to look 'eager' as such. There's been no flirting or any mention of our past whatsover. The chat kinda drifted off last week to the point where she didn't reply for like 20 hours and then she actually opened and ignored my message on the thursday night. I then put a story on my private snapchat on the Saturday after to which she replied and we got chatting again. Again replies were really slow to the point where it felt obvious that she didn't want to talk to me so when she eventually replied i just opened and ignored the message. She then messaged me within 15 minutes of ignoring starting a completely different conversation and have been 'chatting' since. Replies are still mega slow but i'm confused to what she is actually doing? I don't want to get too invested and hurt again but if there is a chance i'll be honest i'd jump at it.

Obviously completely different to last time as replies would be pretty much instant and i could tell she was invested in me in a way. I know that i'm probably not the only lad on the scene at the moment but it is starting to confuse me as to why she is actually speaking to me.

Reply 1

Original post by James_dillon123
Hi all,
So I was speaking to this girl late last year, met on a date once and talked for a good few months before she said she wasn't ready for a relationship which hurt a lot as i was head over heels for the girl which is rare for me ill be honest.
Fast forward 7 months and she came up on my linkedin (of all places i know) as a suggestion to which i screenshotted and sent to her as a laugh. We got talking but nothing like we were originally with replies being very slow mainly from her side but i can also take a bit of time as i don't want to look 'eager' as such. There's been no flirting or any mention of our past whatsover. The chat kinda drifted off last week to the point where she didn't reply for like 20 hours and then she actually opened and ignored my message on the thursday night. I then put a story on my private snapchat on the Saturday after to which she replied and we got chatting again. Again replies were really slow to the point where it felt obvious that she didn't want to talk to me so when she eventually replied i just opened and ignored the message. She then messaged me within 15 minutes of ignoring starting a completely different conversation and have been 'chatting' since. Replies are still mega slow but i'm confused to what she is actually doing? I don't want to get too invested and hurt again but if there is a chance i'll be honest i'd jump at it.
Obviously completely different to last time as replies would be pretty much instant and i could tell she was invested in me in a way. I know that i'm probably not the only lad on the scene at the moment but it is starting to confuse me as to why she is actually speaking to me.

Coming from a girl who has done this before I say that this is a case of oh I'm not sure I like him but imma see what he acts like at the start and by the end it's a I don't like him I'm but I'm to kind to block or unadd him. Also are you on her private snap story and has she ever friend-zoned you? And also you could be side ho3 cuz most girls talk to multiple boys and some of them end up becoming ho3s so you have a MAIN ho3 and lots of side ho3s.
(edited 9 months ago)

Reply 2

Most likely she doesn’t like you if she doesn’t answer quick. Obviously she’ll be busy sometimes and can’t reply immediately but that’s only rarely. So yea I’d suggest find someone else

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