My bf went to a party where his ex was

My bf and I are in a long distance relationship atm. Things are going really well, we are pretty serious and he is so affectionate to me.

He told me he went to a party over the weekend and his first love ex gf was there and he caught up with her and they talked and she slid closer to him on the couch.

I felt super sad to hear this and jealous, I’m not proud of having this reaction. I just feel so anxious what if he responds to her signals.

He said he is repulsed by the idea of getting back with her and I know I should trust him and believe him; this sad feeling I’m feeling won’t go away. She is gorgeous and I’m cute I feel nervous and anxious.

He said he loves me and I know I sound dumb talking about this. I should trust him but I feel so sad and anxious I cried alot about it

Edit: also I feel sad as he seems a bit hesitant to mention to anyone that he has a gf, only his family knows. He says its because he wants it to be official once I’m here but I feel sad, almost like I’m hidden does he feel ashamed of me

Ugh all of these things make me so anxious

(edited 9 months ago)

Reply 1

KonFSJ

Hey OP, I'm in a semi-long distance relationship too, so i get where the anxiety is coming from. I think its a really good sign that your bf shared this encounter with you. He could have very easily skipped telling you about this encounter, but the fact that he did shows he respects your concerns enough to be communicative, and that he emphasized his lack of attraction to his ex. If you feel comfortable, you can voice these fears to him, but preface it with understanding and appreciation. Hopefully both of you will manage to figure what the root of these insecurities is!