Why do I feel very disrespected by everyone?

Greetings all.

So I have noticed just in general from family and friends that I am just getting very disrespected by my friends and like ignored from my family and I don't get why.

Over the summer I have been working hard at the gym and have been working in general. I have been working north of like 60 hours a week and I am getting good money for savings etc that I am going to use in my life. I managed to balance this with going out and talking with my friends and I personally have been doing great. Though I feel as if my family have grown cold with me. My dad who I usually speak to has just gone silent and just does small talk with me. He used to talk with me about stuff and now he doesn't. My mum just gets upset with me for no reason and kind of ignores me now. I have been asking what the issue is, but they say its nothing.

Now as for my friends, they keep clowning me based on me working 60 hours a week and make fun of me for no reason.

Is there any reason as to why this is the case?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Are you paying rent to your parents?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by Anonymous

Are you paying rent to your parents?

Greetings,

No I do not but I have never been asked to pay rent and have no issues of doing so. I also help around the house a lot especailly with my siblings, I also help sometimes with groceries.

Reply 3

Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

Greetings all.
So I have noticed just in general from family and friends that I am just getting very disrespected by my friends and like ignored from my family and I don't get why.
Over the summer I have been working hard at the gym and have been working in general. I have been working north of like 60 hours a week and I am getting good money for savings etc that I am going to use in my life. I managed to balance this with going out and talking with my friends and I personally have been doing great. Though I feel as if my family have grown cold with me. My dad who I usually speak to has just gone silent and just does small talk with me. He used to talk with me about stuff and now he doesn't. My mum just gets upset with me for no reason and kind of ignores me now. I have been asking what the issue is, but they say its nothing.
Now as for my friends, they keep clowning me based on me working 60 hours a week and make fun of me for no reason.
Is there any reason as to why this is the case?

Bump

Reply 4

Anonymous #4

If you feel disrespected just don’t let it bother you. Think of the reasons why. It may be due to your behaviour in the past which may have cause some of your friends/family to become upset with you. However if you know for certain that you’ve done nothing wrong then try and not let it bother you. Focus more on your work and education :smile:

Reply 5

Ghostlady

Maybe your parents, especially your mum has had the realisation hit her that your now grown up, your working and saving. Maybe she worried you might even fly the nest soon with all the money you have earned.
Your doing 60 hours a week and putting in time at the gym.Did prior to this did they spend a lot of time with you? Perhaps they are feeling surplus to requirements now that your more established in your own life and wondering where abouts do they fit? Hence the small talk. I dont think its a disrespect per say from them, but maybe the change in your lifestyle, they are just trying to work out how to be a part of your life, but not be too intrusive and all parenty. They will find their own way, but perhaps you can take a lead a little and find a bit of common ground. Just watching the olympics with your dad, or helping them cook and chatting or something you can do that they enjoy, they might open back up again 🙂

As for your mates, sounds like jealousy to me. At least you can work hard and play hard, since you got cash. But, 60 hours, dont burn yourself out, just be careful and take some time out for you.

Reply 6

Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

Greetings,

Thanks for the reply. No I am not aware of any issues. I have tried to ask them if there was anything wrong, but they seem to think there is no issue at all. Its almost like I have noticed a change and they haven't. Thanks for your advice though - very helpful

Reply 7

Anonymous #3

Original post by Ghostlady

Maybe your parents, especially your mum has had the realisation hit her that your now grown up, your working and saving. Maybe she worried you might even fly the nest soon with all the money you have earned.
Your doing 60 hours a week and putting in time at the gym.Did prior to this did they spend a lot of time with you? Perhaps they are feeling surplus to requirements now that your more established in your own life and wondering where abouts do they fit? Hence the small talk. I dont think its a disrespect per say from them, but maybe the change in your lifestyle, they are just trying to work out how to be a part of your life, but not be too intrusive and all parenty. They will find their own way, but perhaps you can take a lead a little and find a bit of common ground. Just watching the olympics with your dad, or helping them cook and chatting or something you can do that they enjoy, they might open back up again 🙂
As for your mates, sounds like jealousy to me. At least you can work hard and play hard, since you got cash. But, 60 hours, dont burn yourself out, just be careful and take some time out for you.

Greetings,

Thanks for the reply 😊

I never thought of it that way and I guess that could be a certain explanation. They don't really bother me at all anymore, though I find it a bit saddening that they don't talk to me as much as they used to before. Mainly my dad. My mum and I don't really talk as much as I and my dad used to do, but now both do small talk.

Will try your advice.