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My ex "best friend" won't just leave me alone, I don't know what to do. She always wants to talk to me and start unnecessary arguments about how I'm such a "fake friend" when she literally talks about everyone. Someone's mom passed away a while ago and she whispered to me "I bet he just still comes to work to get attention bcuz his mom died" I didn't say anything and just minded my business. Like bro, that was really disrespectful . I don't care that I threw our 2 years of friendship away bcuz she's such a *****. I had a high heart rate and she won't leave me alone and made it worse... Then a little later, she wanted to have another unnecessary argument again, and she said that she wanted to hit me and she knows how to make me more mentally stressed than I am already.. but she said that it wasn't worth it.. she just pulls everyone on her side and makes me look like I'm the bad guy, even though she's the one who makes me feel threatened. She's way older than me and she's a goddamn mother (she's 34, I'm 22. Her kids don't live with her btw). As I got home, my parents asked how I was doing bcuz they were worried when I had a high heart rate. Then I told them that my ex "best friend" won't stop leaving me alone. She still has the nerve and annoys and threatens me

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Original post by Anonymous

Do you still have her socials? Her Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, Twitter, WhatsApp or whatever?

Now, if you do, I would ask you a serious question; "If you walked into a wall and hit your head, would you want to (willingly) do it again?"

...no, right? Of course you wouldn't! No sane person would willingly want to hurt themselves!

Please don't take offense at my words, - I don't mean to be blunt -, but it seems like you could be playing an active part in stopping your ex-bestfriend from getting under your skin. Maybe try blocking her out for a while?

But if you're seeing her on a regular basis every day, then that's different. I will only say one thing on that, and that applies to the same 'hitting-your-head-against-a-wall' term. Ignore her. She's a grown woman of 34-years-old with children, and to me, it seems unnecessary that she should be threatening you on these terms. It is unreasonable.

Trust me, when you start shutting out the unnecessary people out of your life, often-a-times, they will take the time to think upon their actions - even subconsciously. I have gone through this many times myself whenever my friends had arguments within our group and then chose to cut each other off. Giving your relationship time to heal (if you still want to keep it, that is!) is the best medicine for most relationship-related wounds.

If she doesn't approach you within a month or two saying anything, it's still a win-win for you. You've gotten yourself rid of what could've been a worse relationship, or genuinely now have a friend that wants to improve for the both of yours' sakes.

Condolences to your condition! I hope you are doing alright and will continue to do better!